Posted by shar on August 16, 2000, at 16:29:28
In reply to About civility, social/medical, and people, posted by Rach on August 16, 2000, at 7:15:06
> > (By the way, I do not believe telling someone they were 'abusive' is offensive - unless it is absolutely clear that they were not abusive.)
I have been trying very hard to be "adult" about the brouhaha that emerged from my interaction with mr. b. Following my last post, there were 17 posts in the same thread, and most discussed me or what I'd written, my intentions, read my mind, called me various names, and revealed to me my motivation.
I did not respond to any of the posts because it became another civility discussion, and not a good time for me to jump in and defend myself, or explain things and possibility aggravate the situation further. Nor did anyone have the idea to check out whether their assumptions were correct, that is to ask me directly what something meant.
From some of the comments made about me and my intentions, I feel that surely those speakers/writers could not have read what I had written. (I even included smiley faces, as did mr. b., to indicate when I was joking and those were conveniently ignored). Maybe everyone did read my posts and decided that I was abusive anyway. I do not know.
I do know I am very uncomfortable with the way all this has gone, and I have little desire to experience more of the same. I am a big fan of civility and encourage it all around.
Shar
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