Posted by shar on August 10, 2000, at 15:23:12
In reply to Re: Problems with alcohol - Lisa, posted by danf on August 10, 2000, at 9:26:19
Lisa and everyone,
Well, I think we are all correct. We are sharing what has worked with us, and having worked for us, it's worth putting out there (I didn't see any ideas that would damage anyone).
And, I agree with danf that the drinker has to take the action that will start the healing process, and follow through day by day. That is true with any type of addiction--drugs, alcohol, eating, etc. And, because that process can be so intense, this board alone probably would not be enough to get anyone sober or to keep anyone sober. Often, during the process, one may need a voice RIGHT NOW while the glass is on the counter and the bottle in hand--and we on this board can't do that.
What we can do is offer Lisa encouragement, share our experiences, help during the down times, celebrate the successes, pat her virtual back for working so hard! Lisa (like all of us) will do as she wants. I will be happy to stick with her through whatever she tries, to encourage her to hang on and heal.
IMHO letting go of alcohol is best dealt with in person because so many different thoughts/feelings/behaviors can come up--we are putting away our anesthetic! Yessir, like ripping off the bandage or something. All of a sudden here we are, sober and not planning to drink--so, what do we plan to do? Hearing and seeing and talking to and hugging others who have a similar experience to ours is one thing to do, one way to get moving, start the journey, hold it together, keep on keeping on. Again IMHO.
(Lisa--to me--there is nothing like the feeling of going up front at an AA meeting to get a desire chip, or a 30-day chip or that one-year chip, while others applaud and smile, and you know you have your own goofy smile, and feel so proud! It can fill up many holes in the heart and soul.)
All the best good luck to Lisa and every one of us!!
Shar
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