Posted by cakes on August 10, 2000, at 12:41:35
In reply to Re: Shar, a question for you... » cakes, posted by Greg on August 10, 2000, at 11:04:55
Greg,
Have you ever been in therapy before? (Just thought maybe a bad experience might have outweighed opening a can of worms.)
If not, and it is that can of worms that's holding you back, maybe you need to open that can, and feed those worms to the fish in order to feel better. Maybe those worms are your underlying problem.I went to therapy after my mother died. (We were very close. Her death was quick, 4 months after discovering cancer.) I had finally reached the age where my mother and I could become friends, 18, and she was suddenly gone. My aunt suggested I go to therapy as I was having a hard time dealing with accepting, adjusting. I had a great deal of guilt-the reasons are endless. Anyway, I made an appointment with a psychiatrist who was old enough to be my triple great grandfather. I went once a week for about two months, and nothing was accomplished. The thing that aggrivated me most was, and this may sound silly, but he would curse and try to make lite. It was almost as if he was trying to be cool. Anyway, on that last visit, his last words to me were, "I'm not going to to put you on any medications yet as I don't feel you are going to hurt yourself or others." I was so upset by that statement. He obviously didn't understand that I missed my mother. From his statement, I gathered that he hadn't heard a word I said.
Needless to say, I never went back and never sought any other help.
In retrospect, he probably did understand and knew a hated life and knew I was wondering how I could live without her. But, what I really should have done was looked for a therapist I could somehow relate to, a female, maybe someone younger. I may not have suffered for so long. Although I've never had the desire to harm others (!)I have thought of suicide; doesn't everyone at least once in their life? I do believe if I would have had help dealing with it 11 years ago, I would be a much stronger, different person today. (FYI-I have since come to terms!! My depression and anxiety are unrelated.)
What is the moral of my long tedious story, you ask? If you don't like the what's put on your plate, don't go back for seconds. Order something different, more pleasing to the palate.
:] Cakes
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