Posted by dj on July 5, 2000, at 12:00:19
In reply to Re: Tempest re-solved..., posted by noa on July 5, 2000, at 6:31:25
> dj, thank you for sharing your insights. I think it is extremely helpful to this board that you did so. And, I have to share an observation, based on knowing you from babble before and after >your hiatus--you have really grown.
Thank you, Noa!
Perhaps it is not growing as much as learning to let go of things that don't help me or anyone else. One of the things I learned over the past 1.5 years in particular, from the folks at the Haven in particular and other counsellors, to a lesser degree, and from observing my own actions and re-actions is that when I'm frustrated I sometimes tighten up both physically and mentally and can get obssessive and pedantic.
And the challenge is to recognize maladaptive behaviour in myself and stop clinging to it, like the monkey with it's hand on the treat in the cocounut shell, who can't retrieve the treat or its hand if it keeps it's hand clenched, inside the coconut...
Deep relaxation, both mentally and physically is needed at times, by me at least, to break this cycle or else things go askew, in my experience...too often...which is why I'm going to do some this aft, after a full day's intensive writing for a mediation which I've allowed to wind me up...
Time to wind down...some...
Sante!
dj
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