Posted by Cam W. on April 6, 2000, at 18:32:40
In reply to Civility/Board referees, posted by Victoria on April 6, 2000, at 18:09:17
> This is in response to the disagreement that came up in Tori's thread. (I'm starting a new thread because I think that one should stay focused on Tori). I for one feel very strongly that each and every one of us should "referee" this board. So many potentially useful sites have been taken over by ranting and hostility and totally ruined. That hasn't happened here, thank goodness. I think each one of us needs to protect the supportive and compassionate tone of this site by thinking about the words we use and how they might affect other people and also by gently reining in anyone who seems to be straying toward the margins of civility. For myaelf, I always try to follow the cliched old rule of good communication: say "I" rather than "you." That is, I try to speak about myself and my feelings/reactions etc., and don't accuse, label, or attribute things to others. It's not always easy, but it's good practice.
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Victoria - Well said! - Cam W.
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