Posted by bob on March 18, 2000, at 7:41:38
In reply to Colleen..., posted by ChrisK on March 18, 2000, at 6:20:26
Hi Colleen,
I'm glad, too, that you have that lifeline out to your doc ... and it's great that you've overcome your shyness to reach out here. You call Vesper courageous for reaching out here -- well, to quote my new favorite bit of folk wisdom (thanks to michael and his friend), spot it, you got it.
If you still feel uncomfortable responding as yourself, read the thread on site security a little above this one. If you feel a little too exposed, use a pseudonym or something like that. Just scanning this list will show you that a lot of people don't use their names. If that brings you a little more courage, do it.
Vesper,
I've been in a similar place ... I can imagine what you're going through. It can be really hard to accept, but it will get better. For me, the hardest thing was to open up and let all that nastiness flow through and out of me -- the tighter I'd hold myself, the stronger the grip it would have.Have you ever read Dune by Frank Herbert? I'll spare everyone the corresponding details, but there's this mantra in it called the Litany against Fear:
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
The same can be said for the pain we feel. Let it pass through you ... you will remain. Sometimes we hold onto a pain so tightly we never notice that its source is gone and that we have survived the experience, that there is no longer any need to feel the pain.
If you're a reader, look for any of Sri Chinmoy's books. He teaches how to meditate, and how to find the good inside that can overcome the bad. If you can't find any of his work, email me your address and I'll send you one.
hang in here, BOTH of you!
bob[yeah, dropping the "t" WAS a typo, but I kinda like it that way]
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