Posted by Anonymous on August 17, 1999, at 13:14:47
In reply to Re: Doesn't sound crazy at all to me..., posted by Roo on August 17, 1999, at 10:45:10
Hello. I usually post here with my name. This is
too personal, though.My first sexual experiences were not consentual,
which is why I'm not giving my name here, and so
I equated sex with feelings other than love. I
spent a lot of time having a lot of sex so that
it wouldn't have so much power over me. That is
what I figured out about it, anyway. That since
sex was just another thing you could do with some
one, what was done to me as a child was not really
so bad. When I get depressed, I still want that
feeling of closeness that sex can bring, and I get
a lot more likely to jump into bed with someone,
just to feel loved. And, unlike JohnL, I've been
unfaithful, and it has ended relationships. It's
such a loaded issue, sex. It means so much more
than physical pleasure or emotional connection.
All that stuff religion puts on it, and all the
stories about princes and princesses. I think
it makes all of us a little weird about it.Also, physical contact with someone, with or
without sex, can make me feel better. Maybe it's
just our animals coming to the surface. I know
that puppies like to be together in a basket, and
it's easier to wean puppies if they can stay
together than if one is alone.
poster:Anonymous
thread:10020
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990814/msgs/10240.html