Posted by harry on April 8, 1999, at 8:30:53
In reply to Re: IS ANYBODY BEING CONSIDERATE?, posted by v on April 8, 1999, at 6:31:18
Being "brought to task" in regards to the effects of one's words and actions is an ESSENTIAL part of GROWING UP.
All to often i see postings in "support forums" that allude to the idea that "support" means expressing kindly sweet remarks regardless of the
context of anothers writing/actions.
This is life without accepting PAIN as an intergral part of the learning process...and..is IMHO....a recipe to psychopathology.A great part of "recovery", eg:change and development as a person..is recognizing our OWN selfishness and self-centeredness..and acting in a way that will reduce and eliminate these actions and traits.
And...this is true in every instance i have ever seen, in myself and others (exceptions include genuine "spiritual" revelation)....."SELFISHNESS and SELF-CENTEREDNESS respond ONLY to THEIR OWN PAIN"....NEVER to that of others.
Attempting to dispense with this ESSENTIAL aspect of life...hearing that certain actions we take are INJURIOUS to self and others....is insanely self-serving...and ends up with a dead friend, family memeber, and loved one.....who thinks WE are "SO NICE".
TRUE LOVE invloves DISCIPLINE.
It effects life to "cease and desist" action that causes pain and sufefering to self and others.
And gives us the divine space to reevaluate ourselves.Does it hurt?..You bet. It hurts when we get any "abscess" drained. And then a sense of healing and well being ensue.
The other way..we get an ever increasing "abscess" the pain of which can only be relieved by greater and greater amounts of medication...while the "patients" relives the "pressure" by expressing its contents everywhere they go.
poster:harry
thread:4030
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990401/msgs/4541.html