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Posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
I am transitioning to living on the opposite side of the continent. I made the trip easily with my cat Psycho, who calmly snuggled under the seat at my feet. I did keep checking to make certain she was doing OK. She remained inert until the cart with warm food passed, and at that point she started to talk. Some kibble and water in a portable dish satisfied her and she resumed her Zen pose until we safely arrived at our new home.
I meet with a possible new therapist this Friday, knowing that this is no time to stop the therapeutic process. There is also a psychiatric nurse on staff to handle medication issues. I won't extrapolate any farther ahead :-)
Visits back to the east coast will be necessary as the divorce process is ongoing. I feel as if I gave myself an enormous gift by leaving the state where I had been so unhappy for the entire duration of my living there. Already I am enjoying being able to walk and cycle along a beautiful river path...something I haven't been able to do unless on holiday all this time. Just the geographical return to a healthy environment is a vast improvement. I have gone DANCING, for goodness' sake. My family is close by. I am so relieved.
Putting myself first is unfamiliar, but feels right, finally. This, I know, is progress in itself.
Posted by Twinleaf on October 22, 2014, at 18:51:19
In reply to Life in a new location, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
This is all just wonderful! You did it all so quickly, and it sounds so promising. Do keep posting!
Posted by Poet on October 22, 2014, at 19:08:18
In reply to Life in a new location, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
Hi CS,
Dancing? In public where everyone can see you? Moving across the country? Damn, you really know how to accomplish what you need to be, dare I say it, happy?
Glad you and Psycho are adjusting, my cats yowl all the way to and from the vet and that's a 20 minute drive. Good luck with your new start, you deserve to have clear skies all the way.
Poet
Posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 21:37:25
In reply to Re: Life in a new location » ClearSkies, posted by Poet on October 22, 2014, at 19:08:18
> Hi CS,
>
> Dancing? In public where everyone can see you? Moving across the country? Damn, you really know how to accomplish what you need to be, dare I say it, happy?
>Yes!! I have not danced in a public place in 30 years. It was another liberating feeling, to be sober and happy.
> Glad you and Psycho are adjusting, my cats yowl all the way to and from the vet and that's a 20 minute drive. Good luck with your new start, you deserve to have clear skies all the way.
>
> PoetI am determined to make the most of this beginning.
Posted by alexandra_k on October 23, 2014, at 0:41:56
In reply to Re: Life in a new location » Poet, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 21:37:25
was really happy to read your update and to hear that things are going well. i was wondering what was going on for you...
congrats! i mean, really.
Posted by Phil on October 23, 2014, at 8:38:44
In reply to Re: Life in a new location, posted by alexandra_k on October 23, 2014, at 0:41:56
That's great news!
Posted by ClearSkies on October 23, 2014, at 9:30:33
In reply to Re: Life in a new location, posted by alexandra_k on October 23, 2014, at 0:41:56
Thanks, all. Although it's something I struggled with for so long, once the decision was made, the move away was almost euphoric. Helped I am sure by the fact that it's being done in a series of stages. I can deal with small chunks of issues rather than an entire, abrupt move. (This is helped by having had to prepay my rent for the apartment in Florida for several months.)
I was not expecting to feel so physically comfortable, but am relishing getting bundled up as the autumn digs in.
Posted by Angela2 on October 23, 2014, at 14:30:54
In reply to Life in a new location, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
So glad you could take the time to post here to say how happy you are. congratulations.
Posted by Angela2 on October 23, 2014, at 15:06:08
In reply to Life in a new location, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
Clearskies,
I just wanted to say I'm sorry if I hurt you on Facebook. I guess...things can't really be reversed. I mean, I guess they can. But given our history, maybe that's not a good idea. All I know is that I am hurting right now. And some people are hurting me. You hurt me. But let's not talk about that.
I am dealing with depression. That is where I am right now. I also enrolled in school. I am stressed, I am tight on Money, I am trying to better myself. I don't even know if I'm going about it the right way. But maybe that's just one of the great mysteries of life right now.
Like I have said before, I really am glad you're happy. I wish you the best.
Take care,
Ang
Posted by gadchik on October 23, 2014, at 15:41:35
In reply to Life in a new location, posted by ClearSkies on October 22, 2014, at 16:37:33
I so enjoyed reading about your new adventure! You have decided and you have made it happen! So refreshing! And how very brave to do this. My hat is off to you, my dear! : )
Posted by ClearSkies on October 23, 2014, at 17:14:47
In reply to Re: Life in a new location » ClearSkies, posted by Angela2 on October 23, 2014, at 15:06:08
> Clearskies,
>
> I just wanted to say I'm sorry if I hurt you on Facebook. I guess...things can't really be reversed. I mean, I guess they can. But given our history, maybe that's not a good idea. All I know is that I am hurting right now. And some people are hurting me. You hurt me. But let's not talk about that.
>
> I am dealing with depression. That is where I am right now. I also enrolled in school. I am stressed, I am tight on Money, I am trying to better myself. I don't even know if I'm going about it the right way. But maybe that's just one of the great mysteries of life right now.
>
> Like I have said before, I really am glad you're happy. I wish you the best.
>
> Take care,
>
> Ang
>
>I am so sorry, Ang. And I don't understand. But I love you, always. I am always here for you. Tears.
Posted by baseball55 on October 23, 2014, at 20:13:43
In reply to Re: Life in a new location » Angela2, posted by ClearSkies on October 23, 2014, at 17:14:47
CS - So happy for you. these are difficult transitions, but, for me, on the whole, I am better off. Sounds like you are doing so much better as well.
Posted by ClearSkies on October 24, 2014, at 10:49:32
In reply to Re: Life in a new location, posted by baseball55 on October 23, 2014, at 20:13:43
They are difficult - I still sob at times. Nothing is all rosey and perfect. Distance helps so much; a well suited environment, understanding company. I become upset with every email from the lawyer or my spouse (why he sends legal documents to me is a calculated, cruel error). I am much more triggered having seen him interact with his immediate family members. I fully know what to expect.
But I am far away. Starting a new life. Taking these lessons and integrating them. None of us are perfect (me at the very least) and I am grateful to be going ahead.
It helps a great deal to be angry at how I was treated. No one, not a single person, deserves the manipulation and subtle cruelty I was subject to. I don't care how he was raised; he always had the ability to change his behaviour at any time, and chose not to, because it didn't serve him well.
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