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Posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 12:33:57
And it is not to do with my return to my true name.
There are bumpy but necessary times ahead. In the end, it will be for the greatest good.
Posted by Phil on August 14, 2014, at 18:04:40
In reply to Now comes the hard part, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 12:33:57
I like seeing that name!!
Posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 18:57:53
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » ClearSkies, posted by Phil on August 14, 2014, at 18:04:40
> I like seeing that name!!
Oh, me too, Phil. It is like reclaiming myself. And it is happening all over. I may be a sick Nutjob, but I will be an independent one. This has been heavy, heavy, heavy.
Posted by baseball55 on August 14, 2014, at 20:02:20
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » Phil, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 18:57:53
> > I like seeing that name!!
>
> Oh, me too, Phil. It is like reclaiming myself. And it is happening all over. I may be a sick Nutjob, but I will be an independent one. This has been heavy, heavy, heavy.
>
Hey! Is that you, pc (formerly)? Name change bodes well. What's going on with marriage, etc?
Posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 20:53:56
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part, posted by baseball55 on August 14, 2014, at 20:02:20
Yes, it's me. I promised myself that when the weather improved, I would go back to my old name.
I have an apartment rented to move into in a couple of weeks. Divorce will be going ahead. He wanted to avoid the lawyers, but I would be under his thumb - as I am now - and I need to be free and clear.
Posted by Phil on August 15, 2014, at 9:04:42
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » Phil, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 18:57:53
nothing more difficult. always heavy. very painful but living under that points clearly to RUN!
You aren't a sick nut job, you are sick nut job. clear skied that up.
you're a child of god. unfortunately there is no god so, well, good luck. if gods at work here he's at 12 step meeting keeping a close eye on us.
Posted by Phil on August 15, 2014, at 9:08:17
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » baseball55, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 20:53:56
Lawyers suck till you need one. rake the old man over the coals. LOL
Posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2014, at 12:05:12
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » ClearSkies, posted by Phil on August 15, 2014, at 9:08:17
LOL. I only want what is fair. He's at his lawyer now. His generosity could end in about an hour.
I have a local place sorted out just in case.
ClearSkies, though there is thunder and lightning now.
Posted by Phil on August 16, 2014, at 18:39:59
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » Phil, posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2014, at 12:05:12
You'll get thru the bad weather. Hmm...
Posted by baseball55 on August 16, 2014, at 19:53:05
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part » baseball55, posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2014, at 20:53:56
> Yes, it's me. I promised myself that when the weather improved, I would go back to my old name.
> I have an apartment rented to move into in a couple of weeks. Divorce will be going ahead. He wanted to avoid the lawyers, but I would be under his thumb - as I am now - and I need to be free and clear.I'm very happy for you, but also know how stressful this whole process can be. My husband and I did not engage lawyers and managed to settle things amicably and remain on good terms, but this isn't for everyone. Frankly, I don't think we could have done it except that our adult daughter was in constant contact and, when I told her he was being difficult and I was planning on getting a lawyer, she got right in touch with him. The next day, he was all agreeable. Problem solved.
One of the hard issues for me was that I bought a place rather than renting. This meant I had to wait for him to refinance to get my share of the equity from our home, then wait to close on the place I was buying. So 3 months passed between the time I decided to leave and the time I left. Not a pleasant three months.
Glad you have a place to move lined up. Good luck. Keep us posted.
Posted by ClearSkies on August 17, 2014, at 5:51:53
In reply to Re: Now comes the hard part, posted by baseball55 on August 16, 2014, at 19:53:05
> > Yes, it's me. I promised myself that when the weather improved, I would go back to my old name.
> > I have an apartment rented to move into in a couple of weeks. Divorce will be going ahead. He wanted to avoid the lawyers, but I would be under his thumb - as I am now - and I need to be free and clear.
>
> I'm very happy for you, but also know how stressful this whole process can be. My husband and I did not engage lawyers and managed to settle things amicably and remain on good terms, but this isn't for everyone. Frankly, I don't think we could have done it except that our adult daughter was in constant contact and, when I told her he was being difficult and I was planning on getting a lawyer, she got right in touch with him. The next day, he was all agreeable. Problem solved.
>
> One of the hard issues for me was that I bought a place rather than renting. This meant I had to wait for him to refinance to get my share of the equity from our home, then wait to close on the place I was buying. So 3 months passed between the time I decided to leave and the time I left. Not a pleasant three months.
>
> Glad you have a place to move lined up. Good luck. Keep us posted.I am renting a little shoebox that will be ready in a few weeks. I knew a lawyer had to be retained as soon as I heard the word "money" coming out of his mouth every 3 seconds. Control is control. Money is control, and I want no part of having to justify what the meaning of 50/50 is.
So it is uncomfortable and really quiet. Tension very thick. But silence suits me well, too. I am keeping a low profile. Amiability is not a familiar trait in his family; it isn't going to magically appear because I'd wish it to.
Thanks for your support, I appreciate it.
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