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Posted by Angela2 on December 25, 2013, at 16:22:14
And happy Holidays everyone. Whether you celebrate or not. Whether you're happy or miserable. Whether you're alone or with tons of people. Merry Christmas. I'm alone right now, by choice. there's a roomful of people downstairs. Holiday fun!
Posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 19:37:58
In reply to Merry Christmas, posted by Angela2 on December 25, 2013, at 16:22:14
> And happy Holidays everyone. Whether you celebrate or not. Whether you're happy or miserable. Whether you're alone or with tons of people. Merry Christmas. I'm alone right now, by choice. there's a roomful of people downstairs. Holiday fun!
and happy holidays to you, too.
to everyone... hoping everyone made it through, okay.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on December 27, 2013, at 20:39:11
In reply to Merry Christmas, posted by Angela2 on December 25, 2013, at 16:22:14
You too
:-)
Posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 20:48:27
In reply to Re: Merry Christmas » Angela2, posted by sleepygirl2 on December 27, 2013, at 20:39:11
how was yours sleepy?
Posted by sleepygirl2 on December 27, 2013, at 21:13:15
In reply to Re: Merry Christmas » sleepygirl2, posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 20:48:27
It was good. I'm a bit disconnected from it all.
How was yours?
Posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 21:23:34
In reply to Re: Merry Christmas » alexandra_k, posted by sleepygirl2 on December 27, 2013, at 21:13:15
mine was surprisingly fine. it was fairly similar to last years... but this year... it went a lot better. i didn't have a sad chunk... which i've had in past years. i choose to spend mine alone... but i sometimes have... intense sadness around that.
why are you disconnected from yours?
Posted by baseball55 on December 27, 2013, at 21:34:41
In reply to Re: Merry Christmas, posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 21:23:34
Christmas used to depress me beyond belief. I dreaded it. After three years, I finally admitted this to my p-doc (also therapist) and found that cathartic. I stopped holding it in and feeling ashamed for mot having this Norman Rockwell christmas. My husband couldn't have cared less about christmas. So we just stopped trying and went to a movie and then for Asian food.
This christmas, a friend invited us for dinner with her children and grandchildren. All these presents exchanged. I found the whole thing uncomfortable. The stupid presents. The piles of discarded wrapping paper and boxes. The boring food.
When my daughter was about 15, she asked if we could stop the present-giving. All she really wanted was money. When she was 16, I stopped getting a tree and putting up decorations.
I now regard christmas as just a kind of boring day.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 22:12:23
In reply to Re: Merry Christmas, posted by baseball55 on December 27, 2013, at 21:34:41
I think it is interesting... What is means to different people. Thank you for sharing yours. In many ways Angela's sounds nice to me... People around (if you want company), but people who seem happy enough to let you go away someplace and have time to yourself...
I think a lot of people have this image in their minds of what christmas is 'supposed' to be... And then bad feelings for it not being that way. I think that is sad.
I kind of like the idea of... A nice time of year. Of a sense of celebration or... Looking after oneself or... Something. I'm not sure that Christmas quite does that. Or that christmas is quite needed for that, or whatever.
I feel badly that is has religious roots... But is endorsed by the state as a public holiday. I think that people who want to treat it as any other day (the indian dairy / convenience store owner or whatever) should be allowed to... I think that I maybe (possibly) see some sense in the state inforcing a certain amount of holiday per person (though I'm not actually sure on this - if people want to opt out why can't the state respect that?) but I think it would be better for all...
Like how... It sounds like... The Jewish and sometimes Asian (because Bhuddist? Hindu?) communities given an alternative for people who don't want to do Christmas....
Wouldn't it be nice if you could CHOOSE what holdiay you wanted and CHOOSE buisness as usual at other times? But maybe I say this because it would be easier for people like me to opt out across the board (which society seems uniformly opposed to) :-(
NOt entirely sure what to say...
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