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Posted by Roslynn on March 9, 2011, at 17:07:52
Hi all,
It has been ages since I posted to "Social" but I'm wondering if you can all offer some perspective on something.
I've been living with my mom for a year and a half. We've adjusted more or less to living with one another.
My concern is that in the past few months she dropped her best friend, cut off ties with her brother and seems to be getting into more and more negative encounters with people (such as store clerks).
She does work two days a week, which is good. But she no longer goes to church which I feel could have been a source of friendships for her.
The other day, she said that two years ago she heard a voice telling her that God was "giving me back to her for safekeeping."
She said that I am her "ministry" so she doesn't need to go to church. She says she can "tell" what my brother's e-mails are about before she even opens them.Can anyone shed some light on what is going on here????
Any help appreciated.Thank you,
Roslynn
Posted by Phillipa on March 9, 2011, at 18:42:53
In reply to concerned about my mom, posted by Roslynn on March 9, 2011, at 17:07:52
I don't know. How old is your Mom? Maybe she likes being with you? Depending on age you can speculate on a lot of things. I know myself I can pretty much tell what my grown kids emails say as they are distant and get mad all the time at me. Has she ever had a medical or psych problem? What kind of work does she do? Lots of socializing at work for me made me tend not to want to when off work. Prefered to stay home then and only socialize with husband. Phillipa
Posted by Twinleaf on March 10, 2011, at 22:34:05
In reply to Re: concerned about my mom » Roslynn, posted by Phillipa on March 9, 2011, at 18:42:53
that keeps happening with your kids. You have so many caring, helpful qualities which you show here on the boards, and you are surely like that most of the time with your kids, too. Have you ever asked them exactly what ticks them off? It could be some little thing you keep doing that you aren't aware of- and that you could change without too much effort.
Posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2011, at 0:03:47
In reply to What a shame......, posted by Twinleaf on March 10, 2011, at 22:34:05
I know getting older and can't do what used to do and don't have money to give although they do but won't share. Oh well such is life. Twinleaf how kind and sweet of you!!!! Phillipa
Posted by Twinleaf on March 11, 2011, at 9:40:31
In reply to Re: What a shame...... » Twinleaf, posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2011, at 0:03:47
You didn't answer my question!
Posted by Twinleaf on March 11, 2011, at 9:42:07
In reply to Re: What a shame...... » Twinleaf, posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2011, at 0:03:47
You didn't answer my question!
Posted by gardenergirl on March 11, 2011, at 10:23:28
In reply to concerned about my mom, posted by Roslynn on March 9, 2011, at 17:07:52
It can be hard to tell what's going on from afar, but if this is new behavior and has a hint of something bizarre or strongly irrational, I'd try to get her checked out by her physician. Does she have any history of mental or physical illness or cognitive problems? How old is she?
I can hear that you're concerned, and it must be a bit stressful to be put in the place of being someone's "mission". Setting/maintaining appropriate boundaries can be helpful for that.
Thinking of you,
gg
Posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2011, at 19:37:06
In reply to Re: concerned about my mom » Roslynn, posted by gardenergirl on March 11, 2011, at 10:23:28
Hard also if living in their house. Age important also as age is a set of different problems. Phillipa
Posted by floatingbridge on March 21, 2011, at 0:45:10
In reply to concerned about my mom, posted by Roslynn on March 9, 2011, at 17:07:52
Hi Roslynn,
How is it going? I think it was GG's advice to seek practical help. I second that advice.
Best to you and your mum. I'd be interested in what further you may want to share.
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