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Posted by Guy on September 8, 2010, at 17:07:25
I have been seriously ill for about 15 years (GAD, panic, insomnia, depression)and this has taken a terrible toll on my whole family. Two important things have been missing from our lives--joy and laughter. My two daughters have now graduated from university and have moved away. My wife just went on our "family holiday" with my eldest daughter who is home for a couple of weeks. I could not go along because I was feeling too ill. I am not very hopeful that I will ever recover, and am now wondering if the best thing I can do for my wife is to leave and let her enjoy her retirement without having to deal with me on a daily basis. It's bad enough that I suffer constantly. Why not give my wife a chance at happiness? Any thoughts greatly appreciated.
Posted by Angela2 on September 8, 2010, at 17:52:59
In reply to Should I leave my wife?, posted by Guy on September 8, 2010, at 17:07:25
Maybe you could talk to her about how you feel and ask her how she feels.
Posted by Guy on September 8, 2010, at 20:16:41
In reply to Re: Should I leave my wife?, posted by Angela2 on September 8, 2010, at 17:52:59
There's a little problem...it's called love.
Posted by morgan miller on September 8, 2010, at 20:27:19
In reply to Should I leave my wife?, posted by Guy on September 8, 2010, at 17:07:25
I'm so sorry you are suffering. Is your illness psychiatric or physical?
I'm not so sure your wife would accept you letting her go, especially if you both still truly love each other.
I think it is very unselfish and kind to consider letting your wife go so that she can live a more full happy life. Have you ever considered that being with you, whatever you are or are not able to do, is enough for her to feel fulfilled?
Again, I'm so sorry for your suffering.
Morgan
Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2010, at 10:31:47
In reply to Re: Should I leave my wife?, posted by morgan miller on September 8, 2010, at 20:27:19
If the situation was reversed what would you desire? Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2010, at 11:10:57
In reply to Should I leave my wife?, posted by Guy on September 8, 2010, at 17:07:25
I think your wife is an adult, and it's respectful to allow her to make her own choices about what's best for her. I'd be very *unhappy* if my husband made decisions "in my best interests" without consulting me. Perhaps especially if he was feeling depressed and hopeless.
I think the others are right. You need to talk to her about your thoughts.
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