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Posted by SLS on August 3, 2009, at 16:57:38
In reply to Re: I'm not sure I understand..., posted by Angela2 on August 3, 2009, at 15:17:08
> Phil, I'm sorry. I don't know what to say right now as I'm hurting and have my own issues. I hope that you don't leave and I hope that I do leave. It seems this place is helping you. And not helping me. seriously. I didn't see your post about just wanting to be left alone.
Well, I don't want to be left alone at the moment, and I have no emotional need to "leave" Psycho-Babble. I am not emotionally hurting. However, I still had an emotional reaction to the subject line that upset you. My reaction was very similar to yours.
I am not condemning the poster. However, I do think it serves a good purpose to let him know how some people feel. Personally, the first word to come to me upon seeing the post was "vulgar". I just think that this is the wrong place for what might be a very funny bit in another venue.
Things are cool, Manic666. No hard feelings on my part. I just thought it was appropriate to express my personal reaction to what you wrote.
- Scott
Posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 19:23:48
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by P hil on August 2, 2009, at 23:32:10
Hmmm, interesting. I didn't know so many people didn't like to french kiss but were okay with sex. Hell, I've made out with guys I wasn't even attracted to out of sheer boredom. One time me and this guy were waiting on our friends who were hooking up and left us waiting outside. So after a while I was like, "So, you want to make out?" And he was like, "Okay". So we made out for a while and nothing else ever came of it. I've made out with literally more guys than I can remember, but have only slept with two!
I haven't kissed anyone in a good while since I've become such an introvert. And of course, I used to be much skinnier and hotter back then.
-T
Posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 20:01:03
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 19:23:48
So that is what 'making out' means?
I didn't know that, not exactly.
I wonder who thought that up?
It's a little odd, when you think about it, to speak about to make out.
Posted by Kath on August 3, 2009, at 21:29:01
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 20:01:03
The teeth are open, but I'd prefer that nothing other than air goes past them!!! Up to them, yes, but past them, no!
Maybe I'm weird. Wonder if anyone else is like me? I suspect it's because of my past.
Kath
PS - Please don't anybody be mean to me about this, because I'm being very vulnerable in posting this, but actually do wonder if anyone else feels like this.
Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2009, at 21:41:31
In reply to Hmmmmmm - I guess I'd fail bigtime at the lessons, posted by Kath on August 3, 2009, at 21:29:01
((( Kath )))
I was feeling kind of sensitive about it myself today. Even though it was far better with my husband than it was with anyone else, it's still not anywhere on my list of favorite activities.
My therapist said it's not particularly unusual. The only thing that surprises him about me is that there was no particular history to account for what has been an issue for me since I was old enough for it to be an issue.
Fortunately my husband finds my other fine and useful qualities are more than sufficient to compensate. :)
(I checked with him to make sure.)
To tell you the truth, I kind of wonder who on earth thought up that activity? The Wikipedia article on kissing might be interesting to you.
Posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 22:59:22
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 20:01:03
> So that is what 'making out' means?
>
> I didn't know that, not exactly.
>
> I wonder who thought that up?
>
> It's a little odd, when you think about it, to speak about to make out.No odder than 'snoggin', which is what they call it in Harry Potter, and I'm guessing in England. What do they call it in Australia? We all have weird sayings. I like to hear them though.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 23:05:47
In reply to Hmmmmmm - I guess I'd fail bigtime at the lessons, posted by Kath on August 3, 2009, at 21:29:01
> The teeth are open, but I'd prefer that nothing other than air goes past them!!! Up to them, yes, but past them, no!
>
> Maybe I'm weird. Wonder if anyone else is like me? I suspect it's because of my past.
>
> Kath
>
> PS - Please don't anybody be mean to me about this, because I'm being very vulnerable in posting this, but actually do wonder if anyone else feels like this.Sounds to me like maybe you're pretty normal actually! I was a little afraid of being made fun of too. I deleted half my post because of that!
-T
Posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 23:13:49
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 22:59:22
I'm not sure if it's Australian, but there used to be pash as in 'They're having a pash out the back'.
You say 'in back', don't you?
Posted by Phil on August 4, 2009, at 6:55:43
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 23:13:49
If I would have known this post would upset so many people I would not have posted it.
I really got caught off guard. But please remember, I haven't slept in forever and my judgement isn't that great.
However, I'm not 'the poster' and my post was not vulgar. My opinion.
But, I've learned.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2oAF3UdSJ1k
Posted by Phil on August 4, 2009, at 7:17:57
In reply to All alone is all we are, posted by Phil on August 4, 2009, at 6:55:43
My life has been nuts lately.
I posted that I had a near miss suicide attempt,
my bro has terminal cancer, out of work for 2 months, no pay, 4 days in psych hospital. I got great support from y'all.But I screw up once and I have to run for a bunker because I posted a 'vulgar' kissing post.
Memories are very short on this forum but that's babble.
For now that's all I've got.
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:25:55
In reply to Re: Hmmmmmm - I guess I'd fail bigtime at the less, posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2009, at 23:05:47
> Sounds to me like maybe you're pretty normal actually! I was a little afraid of being made fun of too. I deleted half my post because of that!
>
> -T~ ~ Wow TC - it's Really good to hear that!! Yeah - I was nervous that someone would put me down about it & I already feel like somewhat of a freak about it! In so many movies the kissing scenes certainly seem to involve lots of vigorous tongue activity! But I have noticed that some movie kissing is the type that I like.
Thanks for being open about this TC.
((you))
love, Kath
PS - I found it sorta cool that you'd made out with scads of guys & only slept with 2!
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:33:02
In reply to Re: Hmmmmmm - I guess I'd fail bigtime at the lessons » Kath, posted by Dinah on August 3, 2009, at 21:41:31
Thanks Dinah for sharing where you're at about this. Also, if your therapist is saying it's not particularly unusual, that's telling me that there are lots of others like me! Maybe I'm not such a freak about it as I thought.
My husband doesn't mind either.
I am going to read the Wikipedia article about kissing
hugs, Kath
> ((( Kath )))
>
> I was feeling kind of sensitive about it myself today. Even though it was far better with my husband than it was with anyone else, it's still not anywhere on my list of favorite activities.
> My therapist said it's not particularly unusual. The only thing that surprises him about me is that there was no particular history to account for what has been an issue for me since I was old enough for it to be an issue.
>
> Fortunately my husband finds my other fine and useful qualities are more than sufficient to compensate. :)
>
> (I checked with him to make sure.)
>
> To tell you the truth, I kind of wonder who on earth thought up that activity? The Wikipedia article on kissing might be interesting to you.
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:37:55
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by Sigismund on August 3, 2009, at 23:13:49
Hi Siggi,
We say "out the back" here - not sure if it's an across-Canada thing.
What do you call 'garbage' in Australia? I think in the U.S. they say, 'I'll put out the trash'
I'd say 'I'll put out the garbage'. And we say garbage can as opposed to trash can.In Canada we use the letter 'u' in words that have no 'u' in the US. For example, neighbour, favour. Do you put the 'u' in those words?
Kath
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:49:44
In reply to All alone is all we are, posted by Phil on August 4, 2009, at 6:55:43
> If I would have known this post would upset so many people I would not have posted it.
~ ~ (((((Phil)))) Dear Phil - speaking for myself, I am not upset & actually want to thank you for posting it. As a result, I've learned that I'm not alone in my preferences & that people I like & respect are similar to me in that. If you hadn't posted the post, I wouldn't have known that & wouldn't have had a chance to be involved in a discussion about it!!! Thanks for the post & also thanks for the link. I thought it a lovely version of that song & really enjoyed seeing/listening.
> I really got caught off guard. But please remember, I haven't slept in forever and my judgement isn't that great.
~ ~ Once again, I don't see anything wrong with your post :-)
How's the sleep situation? You mentioned having to go back to work. I'm thinking of you & hoping you're okay.
luv, Kath
Posted by Sigismund on August 4, 2009, at 15:23:51
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons » Sigismund, posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:37:55
We say footpath, not sidewalk. Garbage not trash. And we use that u. Thank God for the British Empire! speaking of which, one of the pleasures of India was reading their newspapers. The authorities would sometimes describe criminals as 'scallywags' and always use the present continuous tense, as in 'they are absconding'......This huge country using a language different to but familiar from boarding school.
Posted by BayLeaf on August 4, 2009, at 16:13:42
In reply to Hmmmmmm - I guess I'd fail bigtime at the lessons, posted by Kath on August 3, 2009, at 21:29:01
Lots of people (m/f) hate a tongue in the mouth. It may be related to childhood stuff.
If your SO HATES it, don't force the issue, and don't consider them a bad kisser. Maybe consider them wounded? If you are willing....get to know him/her and in time, ask why. If you love him/her, be willing to take time to work on it.
Bay
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 17:22:55
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons, posted by Sigismund on August 4, 2009, at 15:23:51
> We say footpath, not sidewalk.
~ ~ we say sidewalk.
Garbage not trash. And we use that u. Thank God for the British Empire! speaking of which, one of the pleasures of India was reading their newspapers. The authorities would sometimes describe criminals as 'scallywags' and always use the present continuous tense, as in 'they are absconding'......This huge country using a language different to but familiar from boarding school.
~ ~ LOL 'scallywags' ! ! lol And such a different country from England! I LOVED India. Simply loved it.
xo Kath
Posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 17:28:39
In reply to The tongue *** csa triggers » Kath, posted by BayLeaf on August 4, 2009, at 16:13:42
> Lots of people (m/f) hate a tongue in the mouth. It may be related to childhood stuff.
~ ~ Yes. You know what. I don't know why I didn't see it so clearly before. I was 4 or 5. In this case it's me, not SO.
Thanks for this post Bayleaf. It helps me be compassionate with myself & I'm doing a lot of work on that childhood stuff at a different level lately, so having this issue come up fits right in.
> If your SO HATES it, don't force the issue, and don't consider them a bad kisser. Maybe consider them wounded? If you are willing....get to know him/her and in time, ask why.
~ ~ Good point. I don't know if I would have known why, if I'd been asked. Now I do.
xo Kath
Posted by Sigismund on August 4, 2009, at 18:38:18
In reply to Scallywags + such eh wot? ! » Sigismund, posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 17:22:55
>I LOVED India. Simply loved it.
There is a very large number of people though.
Where did you go?
I could be persuaded to go to Rajahstan, in particular Jaisalmer, Udaipur and places like that.
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a8/Jaisalmer_la_citt%C3%A0_d%27oro.jpg
Posted by Sigismund on August 4, 2009, at 18:43:05
In reply to Re: Scallywags + such eh wot? ! » Kath, posted by Sigismund on August 4, 2009, at 18:38:18
http://www.indiaholidays.net/jaisalmer-fort-3.jpg
http://fabianfoo.files.wordpress.com/2008/11/jaisalmer_2008_093.jpg
Posted by Phillipa on August 4, 2009, at 20:00:21
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons » Sigismund, posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:37:55
kath I also say take out the garbage. Love Phillipa and garbage can.
Posted by Sigismund on August 5, 2009, at 1:09:39
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons » Kath, posted by Phillipa on August 4, 2009, at 20:00:21
I had hoped that the rogue planet Niburu, observed or prophesied by the ancient Sumerians would knock us all out in 2012, just long enough to stockpile some painkillers.
But it was not to be. That planet has either been and gone or is not to be.
Posted by Dinah on August 5, 2009, at 10:42:08
In reply to Re: Kissing lessons » Sigismund, posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 10:37:55
I use garbage and trash interchangeably.
But then I also use colour, grey, etc. I think I've read a lot of books from Britain.
There are a lot of regionalisms within the US too, but in today's mobile society they are transmigrating.
Posted by Angela2 on August 5, 2009, at 11:34:49
In reply to One more thing, posted by Phil on August 4, 2009, at 7:17:57
Posted by SLS on August 5, 2009, at 13:47:28
In reply to Re: I'm not sure I understand... » Angela2, posted by SLS on August 3, 2009, at 16:57:38
I did not read the posts along this thread well enough, and made a mistake by replying to a post in a way that suggested I was referring to something Phil had written. It was not Phil whom I had in mind when I wrote my reply.
Sorry Phil.
- Scott
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