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Posted by no_rose_garden on May 3, 2009, at 13:53:11
Last week I didn't say anything in a class where participation is 1/3 of our grade. The teacher made a comment about it....but I just can't "butt in." I don't want to interrupt and it always feels like what I have to say is wrong is not as important or I don't deserve to talk. I just can't.
The DREAM: I was in a class and us students were in pairs. The teacher announced that our grade was determined by our participation. I hated that and knew I couldn't do it. I told my partner to throw a jar of Vick's vaporub at the teacher b/c I was so mad at him for saying that. The teacher heard and confiscated the jar.
I was really looking forward to going to his office though b/c then I could tell him how hard it was for me and reach out to him. It's so hard.
Then I woke up.....It felt so real. I really wanted to reach out to somebody and tell them how hard it is...not just talking in class...but everything. I have T, but I guess I need him more right now. I listened to all the messages he's left me (10) and called to listen to his voice mail message. I don't know how to get what I need. :( It was really hard to get out of bed.
I wish I knew what I needed and how to get it.
Posted by Deneb on May 3, 2009, at 23:12:47
In reply to Dream - need help, posted by no_rose_garden on May 3, 2009, at 13:53:11
(((((rose)))))))
Can you give T another call?I think you should also work on learning to give yourself what you need. But I suppose that will be hard because you don't even know what you need. I hope you figure it out with T.
Posted by Garnet71 on May 4, 2009, at 22:25:26
In reply to Dream - need help, posted by no_rose_garden on May 3, 2009, at 13:53:11
I feel your pain!!! Funny I came across this post...I just got an email from a professor 2 hrs ago(one I never even had for a class) who told me I was scheduled to re-present a presentation (I have alreaedy given twice for a class)at noon tomorrow for a school event (for "fun") & sorry for the late notice.
I emailed him back: hey-nice try--but I already received my grade for that class and had considerable points taken off for attendance-hardly an incentive to be "voluntold" to do it again! lol. I wonder if he'll write me back.
I thought my school was the only 1 to take off for attendance/participation like gradeschool..lol ..I got a B minus in that class for missing 5 classes despite getting 100% on 4 out of 5 papers. Then this semester overlaps with another school semester-so I have to miss 3 days...it's automatic 15% taken off my final grade for another class. It's hard to hide too because my classes were so small...I've been in a class w/only 4 other people.lol.
So yeah-I can VENT right along with you...There is no mercy for health problems at school. It sucks. My school lets anyone who plays a sport have all their absences excused for practices & games, but not medical..I'm sort of pissed about it at the moment. I've spoken to some teachers at times in the past (like whenI had to go to ER and missed an exam and when I had to take care of sister during final exams week) and they were somewhat lenient in extending deadlines - usually granting a week. But those were professors who knew me well...I had for more than 1 class.. But I've had my grades docked so many times for having to miss due to medical problems....like you said-you can't just go around telling EVERYONE you have mental health issues. It sux. At least at work you can take FMLA.
So your dream - here's a good dreams site (and symbolism of the medicine):
http://dreammoods.com/cgibin/dreamdictionarysearch.pl?search=medicine&method=exact&header=symbol
But it seems pretty obvious what your dream was about. But why did your T leave you 10 messages? He sounds really concerned-why can't you call him back? or did you?
"I don't know how to get what I need. :( It was really hard to get out of bed. I wish I knew what I needed and how to get it."
So what exactly do you mean--do you mean you have trouble being assertive? In school situations or all situations? So you want to speak to the professor but can't? How about emailing him/her if you feel uncomfortable face-to-face (though in person is always more effective i think)?
Don't worry too much about it though! if I could get through school w/all my mental health issues and other problems, I'm sure you will too! This is just one class....surely not all classes require you to speak out...You'll be ok!
Posted by no_rose_garden on May 5, 2009, at 23:45:14
In reply to Re: Dream - need help, posted by Garnet71 on May 4, 2009, at 22:25:26
Thanks garnet. it's nice to know i'm not alone...but sucks that it has to hurt our grades :(
I'm not assertive in any situation and wish I could be. I don't think I could ever tell anybody I'm mentally ill.
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