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Posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 10:55:10
They told me my 90 days were almost up and after careful evaluation they decided to let me go. I asked what the reason was, if it had to do with my lack of prepress knowledge, and they said partly that but mainly it just wasn't a good fit. I knew I wasn't getting along with the woman I worked for (although I certainly tried!), and I think that was it. Strangely enough, in the last few days I'd been seriously thinking about how unhappy I was and thinking it was time to start looking for something else.
I was very upset at first, and still am to a certain extent, but I believe this will turn out to be something good. As long as unemployment benefits come through like I believe they will, I will be okay and have time to job hunt. Unemployment benefits are my main concern right now. Although I'm 95% sure it will go through fine, I can't help but worry about it.
I just hate uncertainty, and I hate that I keep getting let go. I've got to think things over and try to figure out why this keeps happening, and if there is anything I can do to avoid it, or if it is just something out of my control. There's definitely a trend, and some similar traits about each job, but there's also the economy, which give employers a much bigger pool of people to choose from, which may make them more willing to let someone go and try again.
Overall I'm okay for now, but it all keeps coming back to me and making me upset again. I guess I just have to give myself a chance to deal with it. It only happened in the last couple of hours or so! I'm going to TRY to relax and clear my head (we'll see how that goes).
-T
Posted by Phillipa on April 23, 2009, at 12:14:50
In reply to I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 10:55:10
T oh wow I do think it has to do with the economy and weren't you due to start getting medical benefits again. I feel that employers are hiring and letting go to avoid paying benefits I don't think it's you. So what now didn't you move also? Not trying to upset you more but I feel the employers are taking advantage of people like you looking to make a living not get rich. Have you thought of an internet business in the meantime. Graphics is your thing or am I wrong. I'm so sorry. What a ------can't say it. Love and my support Jan/Phillipa
Posted by manic666 on April 23, 2009, at 13:03:47
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again. » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on April 23, 2009, at 12:14:50
sorry baby, i still love you , come on gimmy a cuddle xxx
Posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 14:12:49
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by manic666 on April 23, 2009, at 13:03:47
Thanks you guys. Its hard not to feel unwanted, or like there's something wrong with me. It was really sudden and kind of out of the blue in spite of the problems that were there. I don't know what made them do it in the middle of the day on a Thursday, rather than wait until the end of the week, or even the day, much less the end of my 90 days. Especially if it was just that I wasn't a good fit. Its not like I did anything wrong. Its just odd the way it happened. I just hope there's no surprise when I file for unemployment. As long as that goes through, things will be alright.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 15:52:40
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 14:12:49
I'm sad, and pissed, and I wish I could just find a job that works for me.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 18:47:06
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 15:52:40
I'm feeling better now. I was really more unhappy at this job then I let on, I guess I didn't want to admit it, even to myself. But I did entertain thoughts of quitting, especially here lately. Of course I couldn't, if I did I wouldn't get unemployment. This way I will. So in that light, things actually worked out for the best!
-T
Posted by Phillipa on April 23, 2009, at 20:00:09
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 18:47:06
T good for you turning a negative into a positive. Love Phillipa
Posted by obsidian on April 23, 2009, at 21:21:22
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 18:47:06
oh tc, I'm sorry that sucks. I spent a lot of my day hoping to be laid off...not a realistically happy scenario, but it'd be nice not to work for a little while
hope you find something good soon!
-sid
Posted by Bobby on April 23, 2009, at 23:01:10
In reply to I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 10:55:10
Sorry like heck to hear that. Maybe the powers that be are pushing you towards something better. Is there any way you can freelance--or start your own business? That would be coolness to the max---no one looking over your shoulder like hot candle wax dripping on your skin. No power hungry or game playing coworkers to decipher. Just you and the job. you could look into it while you have some time on your hands. I think that sometimes we get into a perpetual out of control spin in life and have to use the ejection seat or go down with the plane. At least I have. I'll just continue to keep you in my prayers and trust that you find the answers you seek.
Posted by manic666 on April 24, 2009, at 13:11:10
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 18:47:06
texas look how young iggy pop looks on the vid i put on soicial,
Posted by TexasChic on April 24, 2009, at 14:30:14
In reply to Re: I got let go from my job... again. » TexasChic, posted by Bobby on April 23, 2009, at 23:01:10
Your support means the world to me! Other than my few family members, you all are all I've got!
I've been trying to figure things out, what I want to do, what my options are, but its just all too confused in my head right now. I try to escape into a book or tv or sleep, only to have it sneak up on me again. I keep being surprised by the hurt. It doesn't make sense to be hurt, being let go from a place I didn't even really like, but I am.
But I think I'm beginning to go into survival mode. I've applied for unemployment, and even a job. Its outside my profession, a financial aid assistant at a university nearby, but I am qualified and it pays close to what I was making. Its a thought anyway. I would love to work for a university so that I could take courses too. Plus, working in a financial aid office would have its advantages - learning how I could best finance getting a degree!
But other than that, I'm still kind of struggling, trying to figure things out. I don't want to completely write graphic arts off, it is what I know best. But I don't want to continue doing the same thing over and over only to get the same outcome. On the other hand, maybe if I keep trying I will find the right place. Who knows! Freelance is a good idea too, and something I've considered. But I don't know how to get started. I've tried, but its a bit daunting. I will keep looking into it though.
My main concern is, how do I get a job when I've either been let go, or left under less than stellar circumstances in my last few jobs? Its crazy! How did I get here? All I've ever done is my best.
I think I need to back off it all for awhile. Its only been a day after all. But I feel this frantic need to take care of everything RIGHT NOW!
I think my biggest concern is I don't even have friends to vouch for me. I have a few people I used for references here lately, but I've only known them a couple of years, and what will they think if I tell them I got let go? I haven't been much in contact, will they even still want to be a reference for me?
I'm just babbling right now, trying to get it all out. Thanks for listening.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on April 24, 2009, at 14:50:37
In reply to Thanks for all the support and advice..., posted by TexasChic on April 24, 2009, at 14:30:14
...I think if I can figure out a plan, I will be able to finally relax. Here's what I've got planned so far:
1. Contact my last employer. I need to find out what they will say if a potential employer calls them. They said they let me go because I wasn't a good fit, so theoretically they shouldn't have a problem giving me a decent reference. But it would allay some fears if I found out.
2. Contact Pressroom Manager from last job. In addition to my two supervisors at my previous job, I also worked closely with the Pressroom Manager. He not only would most likely provide me with a good reference, he knows tons of people in the business. The only reason I hesitate here is because I got the distinct impression he wanted to ask me out, and I'm not interested in him that way. I'm not sure how to handle that, but maybe I can figure that out.
3. Contact my references. I hate to contact them when I need to use them as references, it seems tacky somehow to contact them only when I need them. But for all my hesitations, it certainly wouldn't hurt to try. And if I'm lucky, I just might restart a potential friendship.
4. Update my resume. I need to work on the wording, decide what I want to say about what I've been doing and what I would like to do. I need these things prepared before I start applying for jobs left and right.
So that's my game plan so far. Maybe with this plan, I won't wake up with an anxiety attack like I did last night. Wish me luck, this sure is hard.
-T
Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2009, at 16:54:49
In reply to Okay, here's my game plan..., posted by TexasChic on April 24, 2009, at 14:50:37
Is it possible to look into a job coach? Does your unemployment benefits include such a thing? Sometimes small changes can net a big benefit in having a job that is a good fit, and where you can be happy and productive.
Is your city (no need to name it) large enough to offer such a service? If you put everything in front of a professional, they may be able to see something you haven't been able to see. Like therapy. Only for work.
I'm sorry you weren't happy there. But given that you weren't happy there, perhaps being let go is for the best, as you said. There's nothing worse than being miserable for eight hours a day.
Posted by TexasChic on April 25, 2009, at 10:17:05
In reply to Re: Okay, here's my game plan... » TexasChic, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2009, at 16:54:49
Thanks Dinah! Yeah, there's nothing worse than a job you don't like. I definitely know about that!
A job coach is an interesting idea. I'll look into it. Have you used one?
-T
Posted by Dinah on April 25, 2009, at 12:45:49
In reply to Re: Okay, here's my game plan..., posted by TexasChic on April 25, 2009, at 10:17:05
No, I've never changed jobs. I'm still in the one I had as a college student. But I would use one, no doubt, if I had to look for another job. I might be qualified for jobs, but no way am I qualified for interviewing.
Posted by Poet on April 26, 2009, at 14:04:41
In reply to I got let go from my job... again., posted by TexasChic on April 23, 2009, at 10:55:10
Hi TexasChic,
Repeat over and over "they don't know what they lost." It may at least take your mind off that burning feeling of why me all the time? Man, do I know that feeling.
I hope you get your unemployment without any glitches, I'm still collecting a little from it as my job is only 24 hours a week.
Damn economy and damn employers who take advantage of it.
Poet
Posted by Kath on April 26, 2009, at 16:34:57
In reply to Okay, here's my game plan..., posted by TexasChic on April 24, 2009, at 14:50:37
Oh TC - SHoot. Haven't been checking for a few days!
I am very glad you have your game plan set out.
I'm sorry that things have been so unsettled.
I'm sending Big love & hugs.
Am in a hurry & have to go, but wanted to at least let you know you're in my thots.
love, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2009, at 21:38:38
In reply to Re: Okay, here's my game plan... » TexasChic, posted by Kath on April 26, 2009, at 16:34:57
Thanks you guys! I'm feeling much better about things than I did. I'm starting to get the slightest bit excited about the prospect of a new job. I still have things that worry me, but I have a few more things to add to my plan that I think will help, including more references and working on my portfolio. That includes setting up an online portfolio, which I was told by an employment office that I really need to do. So I'm trying very hard to be proactive. I worry that I have too many negative things against me, but all I can do is continue to try to move forward.
Tomorrow I'm going to go down to the unemployment office because on their job page there's a job I'd like to apply for, but I can't get the page to work right. I'm hoping they can help. The job is nearby and in my line of work, but the pay is pretty low. Its about half what I was making. But with unemployment if you get a job, and it pays less then they're paying you, they pay the difference. Plus, you qualify for more money. Last time I did this it was $75 more per week when I worked a part time job. They just subtracted what I made at the job from the amount I qualified for and paid me the difference. So it pays to work, even part time. Of course you have to keep searching for work and apply for at least 5 jobs a week.
So things are looking a little better. I've got a lot of work to do though. Especially the portfolio stuff! Wish me luck.
-T
Posted by Kath on April 27, 2009, at 17:19:13
In reply to Re: Okay, here's my game plan..., posted by TexasChic on April 26, 2009, at 21:38:38
((you))
I do certainly wish you luck & ya know what??
You are definitely the most pro-active person I know of.
So there :-))
I don't know how you DO it, but you just seem to be able to stand up straight, take a deep breath & forge positively onward!!!!!!! I've seen you do it more than once before & it's always impressed me amazingly. I'd probably dissolve into a whining lump as a result of some of the things life has presented you.
So I hope you are Super Proud of yourself!
You know how they have "Gay Pride" - or at least they do here - there's even a parade in Toronto.
Well I hope YOU have Proactive Pride!!!! & there should be a parade for you.
much love, Kath
xoxoxoxox
Posted by TexasChic on April 27, 2009, at 20:32:41
In reply to Yer Amazing » TexasChic, posted by Kath on April 27, 2009, at 17:19:13
Awww, thanks! That's so sweet!
I actually do turn into a whining lump for a while! But I try not to let that be the end. Because I know if I ever stop trying then there's no chance of things getting any better!
-T
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