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Posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 0:12:13
I'm really upset right now. Today someone told me he/she thought I was a fake. The whole loving Dr. Bob thing, etc. This person said I acted naive.
:-(
This is like one of my biggest fears, that people don't believe me. I'm so upset right now. I really hope my parents don't walk in right now because I'm crying.
I wonder how many more people think I'm a fake? Think I'm playing games?
I'm just so upset right now. Help.
Posted by Michael83 on February 22, 2008, at 0:24:11
In reply to I'm really upset, posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 0:12:13
>>>>I'm really upset right now. Today someone told me he/she thought I was a fake.
Someone from babble or offline?
Too many people offline are just jerks, no other explanation. And anyone who says something rude on babble, they probably have mental issues, so their words cannot be valid. Either or it shouldn't matter.
Posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 1:12:51
In reply to Re: I'm really upset » Deneb, posted by Michael83 on February 22, 2008, at 0:24:11
Well, that was a rollercoaster ride!
First I got really really upset, then I got better, then I got triggered again and was really upset, but now I'm better again.
Hopefully this is not temporary.
Oh and to the person who thought I was a fake at first. I'm OK now. I still like you. I believe you believe me. We are good.
Posted by Racer on February 22, 2008, at 1:53:47
In reply to Re: I'm OK now, posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 1:12:51
Deneb, it's always painful when someone says such a thing. Feelings get hurt, even if we know that the accusation is false. I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt, and I'm glad you were able to get over it.
In future, maybe you could try what I've worked on: asking yourself whether the person making the negative comment is someone you respect and/or esteem? Is this someone whose opinion really matters to you? Or is it just upsetting that any person thinks such things of you? Sometimes asking myself that question helps me a lot.
There's something I'd like to have you print out and tape to your mirror, or your bedroom door, or your refrigerator -- wherever you will see it regularly. Just this: Racer believes me.
Then, when someone says something like you're not real, you can look at that and remember that others do believe you.
Of course, that's assuming I count as someone you respect and/or esteem... Guess that's an assumption I shouldn't make, but I'd bet there's someone else here who'd say the same whom you do respect and esteem. So, just ask...
Peace to you, little one.
Posted by Kath on February 22, 2008, at 8:37:19
In reply to I'm glad you feel better now. » Deneb, posted by Racer on February 22, 2008, at 1:53:47
Racer - you Rock - as the saying goes.
luv, Kath
Posted by Kath on February 22, 2008, at 8:37:52
In reply to Re: I'm OK now, posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 1:12:51
Ditto to what Racer said & add my name to that list is ya like.
hugs, Kath
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 22, 2008, at 23:43:36
In reply to Re: I'm really upset » Deneb, posted by Michael83 on February 22, 2008, at 0:24:11
> they probably have mental issues, so their words cannot be valid.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel put down.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
I encourage anyone who has questions about this or about posting policies in general, or is interested in alternative ways of expressing themselves, to see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by karen_kay on February 23, 2008, at 11:05:13
In reply to I'm really upset, posted by Deneb on February 22, 2008, at 0:12:13
the most real person i know.
take care of you, dear!!!
kk
Posted by R. -T. V. 52y on February 24, 2008, at 5:48:29
In reply to (((deneb)))), posted by karen_kay on February 23, 2008, at 11:05:13
Dear Friend
Of course You are real. Or: if you weren't, at least your text right in front of me is real!
Kind words: that's what matters most, at least for me.
Best regards
R.
Posted by Kath on February 24, 2008, at 16:58:20
In reply to (((deneb)))), posted by karen_kay on February 23, 2008, at 11:05:13
> the most real person i know.
>
> take care of you, dear!!!
> kk*********I agree with kk, Deneb.
I see you as very real, very up-front with how you feel; what you think.
luv, Kath
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