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Posted by TexasChic on February 15, 2008, at 19:54:13
... but I don't think I can take it. I've been wanting to see it, but its just too much. Too terrible. I think it will be like Schindler's List, which is one of my favorite movies, but usually takes me WEEKS (literally) to get over. I just obsessively think about it and cry. Does anyone else get this affected by movies? I had to stop watching Extreme Home Makeover early on for the same reason, it would just leave me a wreck!
I'm going to see if there's a good scary movie on 'On Demand' to get my mind off this. That or a good SciFi.
-T
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 15, 2008, at 20:51:53
In reply to I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda..., posted by TexasChic on February 15, 2008, at 19:54:13
Hi TC..
Yes, I can understand your feelings on watching 'Hotel Rwanda'. It's so horrible because it is also all true, based on the horrific genocide that took place in the African country of Rwanda. Even more sad, as it is now happening (and has happened) in so many other African countries lately. Sad and pathetic, of course, is the fact that the rest of the world acts like it doesn't even care. Especially us so-called 'advanced' nations in N. America and Europe.
The number murdered in the Rwanda genocide was probably around the one million mark. Yet, the number of people killed in just a fraction of that in 'disasters' over 'here'(N. America) make annual headlines. Here is a part of a great poem by W. H. Auden:The mass and majesty of this world, all
That carries weight and always weighs the same
Lay in the hands of others; they were small
And could not hope for help and no help came:
What their foes liked to do was done, their shame
Was all the worst could wish; they lost their pride
And died as men before their bodies died.- W.H. Auden, The Shield of Achilles
Posted by Kath on February 15, 2008, at 21:27:21
In reply to re:Hotel Rowanda.1 of most important movies..ever » TexasChic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 15, 2008, at 20:51:53
Good point, Jay.
I find it hard to watch movies such as Hotel R. which are based on the truth.
I don't like to watch upsetting movies at all, but if I do watch one (for ex if hubby gets one) & didn't realize until into it, that it is upsetting, at least if it's fiction I can tell myself, "this isn't real"
As to scarey movies - I really don't like them. I like Sci Fi but not if it's scarey.
I like touching movies, even if they make me cry.
I liked Once, Spitfire Grill, Second Hand Lion,
Around the Bend.We tend to watch alot of movies at home.
Just watched "No Reservations". We liked it.
TC - if a movie makes you feel that badly for that long, do you still want to watch it?
hugs to both, Kath
Posted by Racer on February 15, 2008, at 23:57:47
In reply to re:Hotel Rowanda.1 of most important movies..ever » TexasChic, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 15, 2008, at 20:51:53
Posted by Phillipa on February 16, 2008, at 0:09:11
In reply to I love Auden's work (nm) » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Racer on February 15, 2008, at 23:57:47
The worst for me was Sophie's Choice could have never made that choice or one like it . Old movie for most of you. Half the theatre ran out in tears. Horrible. Love Phillipa
Posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2008, at 11:51:02
In reply to I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda..., posted by TexasChic on February 15, 2008, at 19:54:13
That was a really, really hard movie to watch, though it was a great movie. I'm sensitive to difficult topics like that as well. When it gets too rough, I try to focus in on the actors and pay attention to the acting itself versus getting absorbed into the whole. Don Cheadle is a beautiful actor to watch. I love him.
It's funny you mentioned wanting a scary movie to take your mind off of it. I can't deal with those well, either. Or at least I choose not to, because I'm just too easily startled, hate gore, and such. Those images stay with me a long time, and I hate that. So I'd have to try to find a comedy or good, safe drama.
And my husband insists that a "good scifi movie" is a "bad" sci fi movie. :) Whenever I ask him what he's watching during the day on the weekend, it's inevitably "a bad sci fi movie on SciFi." :)
Sensitivity is a gift and a burden. We have to learn how to protect ourselves from the burden part, and it sounds like you're doing that.
gg
Posted by TexasChic on February 16, 2008, at 15:10:11
In reply to Re: I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda... » TexasChic, posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2008, at 11:51:02
Thanks all of yall. As soon as it got to where the woman was talking about one of the orphans saying "please don't kill me, I'll try not to be tootsie" (that's how it sounded to me, sorry I don't know the correct spelling), I was like, okay, that's it for me. I can't handle movies with bad things happening to kids. It just messes me up! I really wanted to watch it, but I guess I've got to take care of myself.
As for scary movies, they don't bother me because I know they're fiction. They're just good scary fun to me. I learned early on to use scary books as a way of escaping from whatever inner turmoil I was experiencing. I'm a HUGE Stephen King fan!
-T
Posted by Kath on February 16, 2008, at 18:12:01
In reply to Re: I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda..., posted by TexasChic on February 16, 2008, at 15:10:11
TC - good for you for realizing your limits & taking care of yourself.
((((((((((you))))))))
luv, Kath
Posted by Kath on February 16, 2008, at 18:13:58
In reply to Re: I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda... » TexasChic, posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2008, at 11:51:02
I recently saw a book mentioned - something about "Highly Sensitive People" maybe how to survive being a highly sensitive person or something. I wonder what it was. I was thinking at the time that it might be good to see if they had it at the library.
hugs, Kath
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 16, 2008, at 18:44:58
In reply to I love Auden's work (nm) » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Racer on February 15, 2008, at 23:57:47
W. H. Auden really has been special to me in particular over the past 15 years or so. I was living alone, reeling, trying to deal with the sudden death of the woman I thought I was going to be with for the rest of my life, and our child who I of course (and any parent thinks) is definitely going to be there even after you leave the face of this earth.... There is so much eternal love there.... Well, my Mom noticed I was really falling apart when I showed her the following poem and was in hysterical tears doing so. Those last four lines, they are etched in some kind of eternal memory for me. It's "Funeral Blues" by W.H. Auden..
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crêpe bows round the white necks of the public
doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 16, 2008, at 18:56:16
In reply to Re: I love Auden's work, posted by Phillipa on February 16, 2008, at 0:09:11
> The worst for me was Sophie's Choice could have never made that choice or one like it . Old movie for most of you. Half the theatre ran out in tears. Horrible. Love Phillipa
Phillipa:You know that William Styron, the guy who suffered with major depression and wrote a book about it (I believe he used 'Nardil' to get better), wrote the original book called Sophie's Choice? Yes, it was a good movie, although I've only seen it in parts, but will rent it again sometime. Thanks..
Jay :-)
Posted by TexasChic on February 16, 2008, at 20:22:11
In reply to Re: I'm trying to watch Hotel Rowanda... » gardenergirl, posted by Kath on February 16, 2008, at 18:13:58
> I recently saw a book mentioned - something about "Highly Sensitive People" maybe how to survive being a highly sensitive person or something. I wonder what it was. I was thinking at the time that it might be good to see if they had it at the library.
>
> hugs, KathYes, I have that book and have also recommended the website to many people here. Its very enlightening.
BTW, I got my wish, The Grudge is on. I've never seen the English version, only the Japanese one.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on February 16, 2008, at 20:58:17
In reply to Re: I love Auden's work » Racer, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 16, 2008, at 18:44:58
I'm so sorry Jay, I had no idea you had such a tragedy in your life. I guess we all have our inner turmoil to deal with. Its such a beautiful yet sad, sad poem. The author was obviously speaking from experience.
-T
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 17, 2008, at 15:34:11
In reply to Re: I love Auden's work » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by TexasChic on February 16, 2008, at 20:58:17
Thanks for the very kind post TC. I was a bit overwhelmed yesterday, fighting fatigue, having a few drinks with my klonopin. I've been working a couple of 12 hour night shifts in a row, and this was my break. It gets harder to do the 80 hour work week as I get older. Can't help but laugh at that one..hah. Plus, the meds kinda add to the overall 'challenges' too.
Thanks very much for your kind thoughts....
Jay (and to the many others who have always been so supportive to me on many, many occasions...I can't thank you all enough)
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