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Posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
Because that really is what I'm still feeling. It hasn't abated, hasn't lessened at all. What felt less safe here after the site was hacked now feels downright hazardous. I think I've taken all the precautionary and pro-cautionary steps I can, but the anger still simmers. Maybe it's residual Remeron rage, but it's left a horrible stain for me. And I'm not the person who was involved, just someone who sat and watched the crash happen right before my eyes.
I might try to take a mini babble break, then, so I don't write something insensitive and stupid and unable to undo. For me, that might mean a break of several hours (ha). I'm going to attempt to not READ and not REPLY for a day. Try to put babble out of my empty head for as long as I can.
cs
Posted by TexasChic on August 13, 2007, at 19:06:32
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
Well, I'm not sure if you're reading this, but I'm sorry you're feeling so upset. I don't really know what happened other than the site was hacked - I must have missed what actually happened. I understand your anger at the person who did it, but I don't know why you feel its hazardous around here. If you're reading feel free to babblemail me and let off some steam.
-T
Posted by Sigismund on August 13, 2007, at 20:34:41
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
>I'm going to attempt to not READ and not REPLY for a day. Try to put babble out of my empty head for as long as I can.
I wish I could do that. Or do I? Like, what am I doing right now?
Posted by tofuemmy on August 13, 2007, at 21:37:23
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by Sigismund on August 13, 2007, at 20:34:41
> >I'm going to attempt to not READ and not REPLY for a day. Try to put babble out of my empty head for as long as I can.
>
> I wish I could do that.It's actually pretty easy. My anonymity was compromised a couple years ago, and it seriously changed my posting pattern. I rarely, if ever share anything personal. For me, it feels like I might as well post on a billboard off the highway here. I have no online community now.
em
Posted by annierose on August 13, 2007, at 22:17:25
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
I think your "read" not "reply" is a solid strategy and one that I often apply. If I have a strong (negative) reaction to a post, I usually won't reply until after some period of time has passed. Or not reply at all. However, in my life, I am also a person that avoids confrontation at all costs ... so it's no surprise.
Posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2007, at 23:07:15
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by annierose on August 13, 2007, at 22:17:25
It's not safe on the internet anywhere as today a friend asked me to google a med for her at first I thought I had the Dr. Bob side of google went back and checked and it was the internet and there were about six sites from babble lst one year 2000. The Scott's med charts not the stolen ones his and a lot of other years of babble. I think I said once I've found threads of mine quite a few times out there. So maybe being a lurker is a good idea. Love Phillipa
Posted by dragonwell on August 14, 2007, at 6:37:41
In reply to Re: Where is it safe on the internet?, posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2007, at 23:07:15
The internet is only as safe as its users. As long as there are malicious manipulative people out there the internet will never be safe.
Ditto for dr-bob.org
It's easy to feel like "it's not my responsibility" when there are so many people on psychobabble. The truth is that it is even MORE imperative to be honest, responsible, and forthright in this kind of community.
Posted by Glydin on August 14, 2007, at 7:13:55
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
> I'm going to attempt to not READ and not REPLY for a day. Try to put babble out of my empty head for as long as I can.
>
~~~ It has been very difficult for me to NOT be a part of a community I felt very much a part of.... and as evidenced by posting on occassion, I'm not successful. However, I have changed my posting behavior.It's a very hard lesson when a place of "comfort", over time, fails to met expectations. I think I got lulled into an illusion of intimacy and trust.... it did turn out to be an illusion for me. I think there will always be some element that will play fast, loose, hurtful and harmful with info gleamed directly or indirectly from internet sites.
It does make me feel sad.
Posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 10:58:32
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
i really don't care who knows me here. i have the thought process in my head that 'i'm crazy. and i don't care who knows it.' then again, i've forgotten half of what i posted, both years ago (and thank god i don't look back in the archives to the hard stuff. that doesn't give anyone reading permission to look back either, got it!!! i'm serious :)... as i was saying, both years ago and last night, if i posted last night.
so, if years from now, i somehow have a career that makes me famous, i'll have some issues with posting here, i'm sure. but, hopefully i'll be rich enough to shut this site down and get everythign on here erased. (i hope. i hope. i hope!!!)
here's hoping that if i somehow do anything with my life i somehow have enough money and enough power and care enough and remember this site, so i can shut it down and get it erased.
((((sexie pie)))))
i know what you mean. fortunetely, everyone who knows me, knows me well enough to know that i'm crazy. i can make it work for me. if they happen across this site, i can scream loud enough that they'll either stay away from it or just make fun of me behind my back (and that i'm used to). and i make it a habit to do as little as i possibly can. (also, i've been trying to keep my posting as silly as possible. though, it has more to do with mister kk's discovery of babble, and not as much to do with hackers, slackers and bears, oh my!)
not a whole lot of advice i can give, other than what everyone's said since the begining of b-land.
but, i hear ya!
kk
Posted by NoAngel on August 14, 2007, at 15:45:53
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by annierose on August 13, 2007, at 22:17:25
Just quit the clueless dippy act Nurse Cratchit. You know it's you being talked about. You come on all gooey and caring, but you are salivating for gossip, hovering like a fly looking for sh*t
You're a scatmonger who uses peoples pain for entertainment. You draw them in when they are vulnerable and then abuse their confidence. Your passive aggressiveness and downright meanness aren't invisible.
When someone calls you on it you come up with a story that makes swiss chees look like a water damn.
Maybe you actually belive you care, that would be really sad.
This is not television. This is not a soap opera
This is not something to do instead of knit.
Stick to your reality shows where you can say what you want about someone without harm.
Posted by Deputy Dinah on August 14, 2007, at 16:00:38
In reply to Oh Stop it TROLLIPPA, posted by NoAngel on August 14, 2007, at 15:45:53
> Just quit the clueless dippy act Nurse Cratchit.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. Also, please follow board policy when changing your posting name.
I'm going to block this posting name until Dr. Bob has a chance to review this post.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
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Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
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Posted by Sigismund on August 14, 2007, at 18:05:17
In reply to Oh Stop it TROLLIPPA, posted by NoAngel on August 14, 2007, at 15:45:53
Of course.
But.....
Who was that directed at?
Who is NoAngel?
Who said what to whom?
24 hours? I'm flat out staying away for 24 minutes.
You tell me why.
Posted by Sigismund on August 14, 2007, at 18:14:36
In reply to you are salivating for gossip, posted by Sigismund on August 14, 2007, at 18:05:17
I'm hoping I can stay away for the rest of the day.
Posted by karen_kay on August 14, 2007, at 19:28:14
In reply to Oh Stop it TROLLIPPA, posted by NoAngel on August 14, 2007, at 15:45:53
one flew over the cuckoo's nest was just on television this morning. did you catch it? i did. it's a good movie. ole jack plays a pretty good role actually.
you can't respond, i know. i just wondered if perhaps you caught the movie and that inspired the crack about nurse ratchet?
curious and wondering,
kk
Posted by ClearSkies on August 14, 2007, at 20:59:25
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
I was good (well mostly, I read but didn't post) and looked what I stepped in! Yikes.
Thanks Deputy Dinah for your quick action.
Thanks to you ALL for your compassion and understanding. A step back, however brief, has helped somewhat though I think I might have to be quiet for a bit longer. Everything, it seems, feels very triggerish to me. So if you post something directly to me and I don't reply with my usual lightening immediacy, it's not because I don't want to. I'm going to try this reading first and replying a day later for a whole week and see if that helps even further.
And, yes, there are some posters to whom I might not reply to at all. But I rather doubt that will be for anything except the best for all concerned.
CS
Posted by Michael83 on August 14, 2007, at 23:25:31
In reply to Where is the safe place to put outrage?, posted by ClearSkies on August 13, 2007, at 15:21:28
I try not to be consumed with hatred. I write the contents of my hatred in the sand near the water's edge, or at least try.
Posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2007, at 10:37:59
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage? » ClearSkies, posted by Michael83 on August 14, 2007, at 23:25:31
> I try not to be consumed with hatred. I write the contents of my hatred in the sand near the water's edge, or at least try.
That's interesting, Michael. I didn't mention hatred. I feel no hatred at all. At this moment I am full of pity and sadness - that's what a bit of time and distance has given me.CS
Posted by Michael83 on August 15, 2007, at 22:19:46
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage? » Michael83, posted by ClearSkies on August 15, 2007, at 10:37:59
I'm sorry. When I wrote that I used "outrage" and "hatred" as interchangeable words. But I'm sure you understand the concept of what I was saying. I try not to let negative feelings consume me. That's all I was saying. =)
Posted by ClearSkies on August 16, 2007, at 7:37:23
In reply to Re: Where is the safe place to put outrage? » ClearSkies, posted by Michael83 on August 15, 2007, at 22:19:46
> I'm sorry. When I wrote that I used "outrage" and "hatred" as interchangeable words. But I'm sure you understand the concept of what I was saying. I try not to let negative feelings consume me. That's all I was saying. =)
Thanks, Michael. I don't think of outrage in the same sense at all as hatred. I can feel outrage as a fleeting flurry of upset, whereas I'm not certain I've ever felt something as strong as hatred about someone else. Except perhaps directed at my own self, and I couldn't fathom directing that feeling outwardly.
Thank heavens for therapy.CS
Posted by Dr. Bob on August 23, 2007, at 16:03:30
In reply to Blocked » NoAngel, posted by Deputy Dinah on August 14, 2007, at 16:00:38
> I'm going to block this posting name until Dr. Bob has a chance to review this post.
The idea here is not to post under more than one name at the same time, so I'm going to keep this name blocked and block your previous name for 23 weeks.
But please don't take this personally, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#names
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration.
Thanks,
Bob
PS: According to the new formula:
duration of previous block: 9 weeks
period of time since previous block: 6 weeks
severity: 2 (default) + 1 (uncivil toward particular individual or group) = 3
block length = 22.6 rounded = 23 weeks
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