![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 18 of 18. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
So, as you all know, I am the hysterical whacko who doesn't seem to attract women. Geezz..I've lost weight..got a whole new summer wardrobe. No facial hair..as in no goatee...a nice smooth buzzed haircut and well shaved mug. One of my friends who is gay is telling me.."Oh, you look great Jay!" And trust me, he holds no punches when it comes to critiquing 'looks'. But, I still know I am no 'model'. But...But...But...what about these other 'macho-pigs' that many women seem to go for? There where a couple of 'close calls' with me, where I might have made out well. I tend to attract 'brainy' chicks (not that I am any Einstein), and dated one last year for about a month. We had so much in common..our politics...beliefs..values, etc. But I made the BIG mistake there. I took up too much of her personal space room, and I felt like a real moron for not realizing that. One other time...this involves Psycho Babble...I kept in touch with this really nice gal who, I again, shared tons with.
Maybe she is reading this...I dunno...but we where geographically set in our places where we wanted to live. That was so sad...as she was a really nice...and we where both around the same points, career wise and such. And...it just went the way the wind blew.Now, my profile and pic just sit on a dating website, and I have contacted 15-20 women in the past month...not one single woman replied.
Okay..I'll stop. Thank you kindly for reading. :)
Jay
Posted by Klavot on May 11, 2007, at 15:46:54
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
Henry Kissinger once said something to the following effect: "Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac."
Good luck - I sympathise with you.
Klavot
Posted by fayeroe on May 11, 2007, at 16:27:55
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
awwwwww, Jay.......she'll come along when you aren't looking...............xoxoxopat
Posted by Cynthia_Greene on May 11, 2007, at 20:02:23
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by fayeroe on May 11, 2007, at 16:27:55
I'm cursed with guys. Apperantly looks mean nothing, since everyone tells me I'm beautiful, but it's never gotten me anything. I've only had one relationship that actually made me happy and meant something to me, but he has mental issues right now and I don't know if I'll ever even see him again.
Posted by Dinah on May 11, 2007, at 20:44:38
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
It only takes one. There was probably only one man on earth who would not only marry me but be reasonably content with having done so. But since I found him, one was all I needed.
Posted by Phillipa on May 11, 2007, at 22:41:41
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by Dinah on May 11, 2007, at 20:44:38
Jay that's right when you least expect it she'll be there. Love Phillipa
Posted by Bobby on May 12, 2007, at 11:33:30
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
Maybe you should re-hire God
Posted by Angela2 on May 12, 2007, at 14:45:00
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
Jay I know what you mean about those dating websites. I have a profile on match dot com, and I've only gotten a few winks/emails. I'm ready to throw the towel in on dating sites. I just wish I had more of a life so I could go out and meet peopple!
Posted by gazo on May 12, 2007, at 16:37:33
In reply to Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Jay on May 11, 2007, at 15:17:53
i hope you find what will make you happy... but someone smrt once said that the way to make a man unhappy was to give him what he wants.
i think being in a relationship is highly overrated. Get a dog, they understand you better, won't care if you're not a model and will pre-clean your dishes... if that ain't love, what is?
that said.. seriously, get a dog. Nothing gets people to stop and talk to you more than walking a cute dog. Nothing too cutsie or butch... something med size and fuzzy/curly/shaggy. Adopting a sad sack from a shelter is even better - shows a sensitive side. My H says if he had known he would have gotten a dog years ago.. once he started walking mine gals always stopped to pet them.
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:09:40
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Klavot on May 11, 2007, at 15:46:54
> Henry Kissinger once said something to the following effect: "Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac."
>
> Good luck - I sympathise with you.
>
> KlavotThank you kindly...I unfortunately don't have "power" right now...hahaaa.
I feel like Steve Martin in "The Lonely Guy". :)Jay
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:13:08
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by fayeroe on May 11, 2007, at 16:27:55
> awwwwww, Jay.......she'll come along when you aren't looking...............xoxoxopat
Oh Pat...you are always so sweet when I start complaining. Can I ask for a big hug please...((((((((Pat)))))))) Okay...I feel better already..:) Jay
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:20:36
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Cynthia_Greene on May 11, 2007, at 20:02:23
> I'm cursed with guys. Apperantly looks mean nothing, since everyone tells me I'm beautiful, but it's never gotten me anything. I've only had one relationship that actually made me happy and meant something to me, but he has mental issues right now and I don't know if I'll ever even see him again.
>Well..for starters, may I ask how old you are and where (approximately) do you live? :) There are so many nice sweet women on here..maybe we need a PB 'Dating Board'.:) Like you, I had only two or so significant relationships, and where important to me (I am not really into 'casual dating' or the 'friends with benefits' thing) Yep, I have mental issues, but have kept myself not too bad over the last few years. It's only been rejecting women that have caused my head and heart troubles..lol.
Jay :)
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:26:41
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by Dinah on May 11, 2007, at 20:44:38
> It only takes one. There was probably only one man on earth who would not only marry me but be reasonably content with having done so. But since I found him, one was all I needed.
Thank you Dinah...you are also always very kind. I've come close a few times...one just being we where at different stages in our lives...and the other...well that's why I am a tad ticked off at God for. But, I always try to keep Hope alive.
Jay :)
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:28:12
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Phillipa on May 11, 2007, at 22:41:41
> Jay that's right when you least expect it she'll be there. Love Phillipa
>Oh Phillipa...always the sweet one too. You'd think that with all this attention from women on here, I'd be happier..lol.
Jay :)
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:29:51
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by Bobby on May 12, 2007, at 11:33:30
> Maybe you should re-hire God
Well, maybe on Probation...but no salary increase just yet...
Jay :)
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:32:24
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed..., posted by Angela2 on May 12, 2007, at 14:45:00
> Jay I know what you mean about those dating websites. I have a profile on match dot com, and I've only gotten a few winks/emails. I'm ready to throw the towel in on dating sites. I just wish I had more of a life so I could go out and meet peopple!
Well, what do you think of a PB 'Dating Board'..? :) Yep...I wish I had that confidence...like I was Bono or someone like him..heheee.
Jay :)
Posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:58:24
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » Jay, posted by gazo on May 12, 2007, at 16:37:33
> i hope you find what will make you happy... but someone smrt once said that the way to make a man unhappy was to give him what he wants.
>
> i think being in a relationship is highly overrated. Get a dog, they understand you better, won't care if you're not a model and will pre-clean your dishes... if that ain't love, what is?
>
> that said.. seriously, get a dog. Nothing gets people to stop and talk to you more than walking a cute dog. Nothing too cutsie or butch... something med size and fuzzy/curly/shaggy. Adopting a sad sack from a shelter is even better - shows a sensitive side. My H says if he had known he would have gotten a dog years ago.. once he started walking mine gals always stopped to pet them.
>Thank you for your post. I do have a really, really cute small dog...she is like my little 'baby'. She lays on her back, feet sticking in the air, and just wants her belly rubbed, and she will love you to pieces. I have had women stop and pet my 'little one', but I'd never have the guts to ask for a phone number or something like that. It's ironic, a bit, that I was reading this dating column, and the author said going up to ask women for their phone numbers or even email is the best way to 'get results'. I'm bass ackword anyways..lol.
Jay :)
Posted by gazo on May 20, 2007, at 20:29:40
In reply to Re: Still no luck with women...I am cursed... » gazo, posted by Jay on May 13, 2007, at 0:58:24
well.. maybe just learning the art of conversation is the next step. i mean, you don't have to rush into every interaction hoping for a date.. kinda kills your courage and her interest (would mine). It's a fine line to walk to not end up "just being friends," but the first conversation could be that way... i mean "hey want to grab a coffee?" or "you could come with me to walk spot for while if you like" could be meant as just that... then see where the rest of the convo goes.
walk the dog in the same parks so you run into the same people.
i'm just tossing ideas...
but you know.. to be honest, i have *never* gone out with some guy i just met. It's always been someone i met because we had other people in common.
dating sucks. sorry.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.