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Posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
no small wonder so few people respond to my posts.
Am I to be ignored?
what a funny fate.
I am so in awe...how did my posting personality get so big?
honestly I have loved so many people on this site and wondered why I have fallen into such ill favor.
I have taken my fate with humility in the past.
but I do wonder.
Jai
Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2006, at 22:52:02
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
?
Why would you think that? If it's civil to answer.
Posted by sleepygirl on September 10, 2006, at 22:52:35
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
> no small wonder so few people respond to my posts.
> Am I to be ignored?
> what a funny fate.
> I am so in awe...how did my posting personality get so big?
> honestly I have loved so many people on this site and wondered why I have fallen into such ill favor.
> I have taken my fate with humility in the past.
> but I do wonder.
> JaiI don't think so....
I don't know what you mean, is there controversy following you? ;-)
I'm not always a big responder, but I like your posts, especially the haikus
:-)
sg
Posted by rainbutterfly on September 10, 2006, at 22:53:58
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
I don't think anyone who matters thinks of you as a bad person.
I know very little though, I am not in the "in crowd" and have absolutely NO desire to be!!
Are you in private communication with anyone here? If so maybe ask them. Or one of the deputies? But I haven't seen anything to dislike in your posts.
"Do what you want and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:56:52
In reply to Re: wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by rainbutterfly on September 10, 2006, at 22:53:58
oh gosh, I went on a fear rant.
life can change on a dime.
sorry, I might me wrong.
I hope so.
Jai
Posted by James K on September 10, 2006, at 23:03:47
In reply to Re: wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by rainbutterfly on September 10, 2006, at 22:53:58
There's no harm in wondering I suppose, but I hope you'll take my reassurance.
By the way Jai or anyone else who may have babblemailed me just lately, I think my e-mail has broken completely. If anyone who reads this has contacted me since maybe Friday, let me know.
It's hard to know if no e-mail means no e-mail or what. I had to switch e-mail programs.
Sorry to change the subject on you.
James k
Posted by susan47 on September 11, 2006, at 0:52:16
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
> no small wonder so few people respond to my posts.
> Am I to be ignored?
> what a funny fate.
> I am so in awe...how did my posting personality get so big?
> honestly I have loved so many people on this site and wondered why I have fallen into such ill favor.
> I have taken my fate with humility in the past.
> but I do wonder.
> JaiNobody responds to my posts either sometimes. A lot of the time. I can't let it worry me though. You shouldn't let it worry you either, Jai, even if it were personal, which I don't think in your case it is, we all get ignored and we can't worry what anybody else thinks of us. Some people will like us and some won't. But you're certainly not in "ill favor" as far as I can tell, and even if you weren't why should you care .. did you have a mind blip? I have those.
Posted by Phillipa on September 11, 2006, at 11:36:27
In reply to Re: wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site? » Jai Narayan, posted by susan47 on September 11, 2006, at 0:52:16
Jai are you referring to this board? I hardly ever see threads or post by you? Love Phillipa
Posted by Gabbi~G~ on September 11, 2006, at 17:43:25
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
Not by me
You are, someone I have felt extremely fortunate
to have met.And I love your writing.
I can't say more right now, cause
I'm really wobbly today.you're right, life can change on a dime.
Posted by Deneb on September 11, 2006, at 19:36:43
In reply to wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site?, posted by Jai Narayan on September 10, 2006, at 22:44:09
You're not bad. (((((((((Jai))))))))))
Don't worry, I'm sure you are very well liked.
Deneb*
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 20:03:22
In reply to Re: wow, am I thought of as a bad person on this site? » Jai Narayan, posted by Deneb on September 11, 2006, at 19:36:43
made me see the error of my vision.
I am glad you all like me.
I have loved many of you.
thanks for my indulgence.
Jai
Posted by TexasChic on September 11, 2006, at 20:43:10
In reply to thank you so much, I did feel bad but you all have, posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 20:03:22
That's okay. We all go through self doubt sometimes. I try to remind everyone that in this environment you can't make any assumptions. If no one responds to something you've said, it doesn't necessarily mean a thing.
Once, when I was going through a particularly hard time, only a few people responded to me. I figured I probably came off sounding really self centered and annoying. But then later I had several people tell me they had been following my story but they just never posted! There's just a whole different psychology in chat rooms and we all have to keep that in mind.
I sometimes half-jokingly call myself 'Queen of the Thread Killers' because I seem to be the last post on a thread more than anyone else. But what people write, or don't write, doesn't always reflect what they're actually thinking. There's lots of posts I've read that either I just can't figure out how to respond in a helpful way, or somebody else had already said what I was thinking. So I just don't say anything. But yet I am feeling for the person and will check back later to see how they're fairing.
Or sometimes, I'm just too depressed myself to give someone support. We have to take turns with it here. If you see a lone post that's been out there a while, and really don't have anything to say back, it never hurts to let that person know you don't have the answers, but you are there and commiserate. And if your post is at the end of a thread, just know that sometimes people figure its all been said and time to move on to a new thread. It doesn't mean everybody stopped posting because of your post.
Anyway, I feel like I'm rambling so I guess I'll stop now. Hopefully I've made some sort of sense.
-T
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 22:25:40
In reply to Re: thank you so much, I did feel bad but you all have » Jai Narayan, posted by TexasChic on September 11, 2006, at 20:43:10
thank you Texas....you have said your piece so eloquently. You might be the last poster because you are such a fine writer.
Jai N.
Posted by TexasChic on September 12, 2006, at 20:14:20
In reply to Re: thank you so much, I did feel bad but you all have, posted by Jai Narayan on September 11, 2006, at 22:25:40
Wow! That was so so sweet! Nobody ever compliments me IRL like they do here. In fact, it never even occured to me that I might have some sort of talent for writing until I came here and people started telling me. Now I've been trying to think of a way to make some use of it. You guys have no idea what sort of influence your kind words can have over people. I so happy to know you all.
-T
Posted by Jai Narayan on September 12, 2006, at 21:24:34
In reply to Re: thank you so much, I did feel bad but you all have » Jai Narayan, posted by TexasChic on September 12, 2006, at 20:14:20
Texas, you're good, you speak from the heart. I like that.
Jai
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