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Posted by jammerlich on August 28, 2006, at 16:24:19
Please help....even though I have no idea what that would look like. Things are not going well with the teacher-friend. It feels like having limbs ripped off. Crying like I have cried in a long time....the nasty, snotty, choking, can't breath kind.
Please help me. I feel so alone.
Posted by Dinah on August 28, 2006, at 16:43:28
In reply to Help, posted by jammerlich on August 28, 2006, at 16:24:19
What's up? Would talking help? I can meet you in Babblechat if you like.
Posted by jammerlich on August 28, 2006, at 17:00:31
In reply to Re: Help, posted by Dinah on August 28, 2006, at 16:43:28
Thanks, Dinah. I'm shaking and can hardly concentrate so I'm not sure chat would work so well for me right now.
I guess I mainly just wanted to get the hurt out there where it could be seen.
Posted by sleepygirl on August 28, 2006, at 18:06:58
In reply to Help, posted by jammerlich on August 28, 2006, at 16:24:19
I'm sorry you're hurting...keep posting.
((((jammer))))
love,
sg
Posted by llrrrpp on August 28, 2006, at 19:50:17
In reply to Re: Help » jammerlich, posted by sleepygirl on August 28, 2006, at 18:06:58
(((((jammerl)))))
I'm so sorry you're hurting. Your limbs are still firmly attached, though-- no matter how broken your heart is. You can use your arms to type to us, if you need to.
Missing you lately,
-ll
Posted by Phillipa on August 28, 2006, at 21:45:04
In reply to Re: Help » Dinah, posted by jammerlich on August 28, 2006, at 17:00:31
Excellent idea. Hurting is a bad feeling without someone to share it with. We're here for you. Love Phillipa
Posted by jammerlich on August 29, 2006, at 8:20:34
In reply to Re: Help » jammerlich, posted by Phillipa on August 28, 2006, at 21:45:04
Thanks for the support, everyone. I'm heading to emergency T appointment soon.
Posted by curtm on August 29, 2006, at 10:02:49
In reply to Re: Help, posted by jammerlich on August 29, 2006, at 8:20:34
(((((jam...)))))
I hope today goes much better for you. Feel free to chat or babblemail me if you want to spill.
Posted by frida on August 29, 2006, at 20:36:53
In reply to Re: Help » jammerlich, posted by curtm on August 29, 2006, at 10:02:49
hi..
I remember the relationship you share with your teacher-friend..
what happened? Would you like to share?sending you support
Frida
Posted by jammerlich on August 30, 2006, at 14:24:55
In reply to Re: Help, posted by frida on August 29, 2006, at 20:36:53
Would you believe that my therapist actually told me to avoid the whole thing and act like nothing ever happened when I saw my friend again? That was yesterday afternoon; a few hours after the emergency T appointment. It did, indeed, work; but, it's a loss to grieve. I had wanted a very genuine and honest relationship with my special teacher-friend; but my T doesn't think she's the kind of person who can really talk about herself within a relationship. We can certainly talk about lots of other things, but if there are problems between us, they will probably have to be ignored, rather than worked through.
That makes me very, very sad. She's the only IRL person I've ever wanted that kind of relationship with and it probably won't ever be.
Posted by frida on August 30, 2006, at 19:52:23
In reply to Would you believe...., posted by jammerlich on August 30, 2006, at 14:24:55
Hi..
hugs to you.I am sorry you are hurting..I so understand this. I have a special relationship with a teacher-friend, too, and have also ached for that kind of honest, sincere connection.
It's hard to find...and when we find someone we'd like to share that deep sharing, it's so hard to give up that need and longing.Without knowing what happened, it is hard to say...
I've found that sometimes what I imagine and all my fears are not so..and I've been surprised a few times...
One thing that has helped me with my teacher-friend is to try to tell her how I feel, maybe in writing. I've tried to be honest and talk from my heart and sometimes it has been wonderful...and some other times I've just let things be and she has reached out and shared things, despite the fact that she's older than me and was my teacher.It's painful to need a connection so badly...((((hugs))))but please don't lose hope..it is possible to find it...
i wish I could help.
Frida
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