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Posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
Do my posts or replies annoy/bother anyone? I'm socially inept. I'm afraid IRL to make friends - seems I have trouble with it online too. What's wrong with me?!
fw
Posted by Deneb on May 31, 2006, at 0:07:58
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
I don't think there is anything wrong with the way you post. I think you do a really great job of replying to people.
If you are socially inept, where does that leave me? ;-)
I think we can be our own worst critics. I'd bet that you are the only person here who sees any problem with the way you are posting.
Deneb*
Posted by Declan on May 31, 2006, at 2:21:52
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » fairywings, posted by Deneb on May 31, 2006, at 0:07:58
Truly, I could ask the same thing of myself. (Sometimes I do give people the sh*ts) We're all learning here? I couldn't type when I started, and the online etiquette thing, when to join in, etc etc. But who am I to say your worries are unneccessary? (I think mine are.) You're Jazzed, that was your last name?
Declan
Posted by ClearSkies on May 31, 2006, at 7:25:40
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
Oh, no! I'm sorry that you feel this way. I think you're just fine. I don't read everything on the Psychology board - isn't that where you usually post? - but I can see that you express yourself well.
It isn't that "thread killer" syndrome, is it? I think we've all suffered from that anxiety.
ClearSkies
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 31, 2006, at 8:17:57
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
> Do my posts or replies annoy/bother anyone?
No. I don't know what you're talking about.
> What's wrong with me?!
Nothing, except this irrational fear?
Lar
Posted by stickywicket on May 31, 2006, at 8:21:09
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » fairywings, posted by ClearSkies on May 31, 2006, at 7:25:40
> It isn't that "thread killer" syndrome, is it? I think we've all suffered from that anxiety.
>
I suffer big time from that. I can start threads but struggle to reply to others and keep the ball rolling. Same IRL.
Posted by llrrrpp on May 31, 2006, at 8:45:15
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
fairywings, I think you're great!
You talked to me about my music
I really appreciated it:)I never noticed anything unusual about your posts. I think you're thoughtful and supportive and funny :)
I hope you have a great Wednesday (tell your inner doubts to take the day off)
Yours,
-llp.s. your name makes me think of little fluttery noises of a fairy on tiptoe. so sweet :)
Posted by Dinah on May 31, 2006, at 8:54:07
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
Nope. Your posts are great.
I think it's a natural thing to worry about. I do from time to time, and I think many of us do.
But you're absolutely fine. :)
Posted by naughtypuppy on May 31, 2006, at 9:42:15
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » fairywings, posted by Dinah on May 31, 2006, at 8:54:07
No. I am the thread killer and this thread must die!!!
Help me!!!
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Posted by Poet on May 31, 2006, at 9:48:00
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
Hi FW,
Your posts have never annoyed me. Your replies are welcome.
I'll never win the babble popularity contest, either. Some people seem to generate huge responses, some of us don't. Just like in real life, eh?
Anyway, I like your communication style. It's just fine.
Poet
Posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 11:28:24
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » fairywings, posted by Poet on May 31, 2006, at 9:48:00
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate all the thoughtful responses. You all are the best.
Declan, yes, I was Jazzed b4 fw - didn't like that name anymore - even tho fw doesn't really suit me. ; )
I guess I do have thread killer syndrome. Good to know I'm not the only one who worries about their posts. Some peoples post are so insightful - it amazes me people can see things the way they do.
Some of my fear stems from my T is trying to get me not to isolate...but IRL stuff seems too hard - I struggle with it too. Interaction makes me nervous, and I think I said something stupid! I get all dizzy just from being around people. T says I have a choice, but it sure doesn't feel like it!
Poet, if you're still reading this....I look for your posts. You're popular on this computer!
I'll tell my doubts to take a hike. ; )
Thanks!
fw
Posted by curtm on May 31, 2006, at 14:29:05
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
One of the first posts I got here that made me feel warm, fuzzy, and welcome was from you. Does that answer your question?
(Curt smiles at you)
Posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 18:05:43
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by curtm on May 31, 2006, at 14:29:05
Ahhhhh, thanks curt, you made my day!
How's the electric feeling today...did you call your doc and find out what was going on?
; )
fw
Posted by TexasChic on May 31, 2006, at 19:22:06
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » curtm, posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 18:05:43
No one shall usurp me!!!!
Mwah ha ha!!!!
Don't worry fairywings (I love the name too BTW), I think everyone feels that way from time to time. Unfortunately its just the nature of the beast. I know sometimes I read something and think, 'well that said it perfectly', and then I don't think to actually WRITE that! So here's this person thinking they're some sort of pariah when really everyone is actually thinking 'yep, I agree completely'. Its just part of posting on the web. Try to keep in mind that what is written (or not written) doesn't always correspond with what the person was actually thinking. Not everyone is all that good at communicating their thoughts through writing. So that means we probably misinterpret a large percentage of posts!
As for the isolating thing, I totally understand. I'm in the same boat. People just get on my nerves too much IRL. (Of course, that's obviously my problem and not theirs!) I just found a new T, my first appointment is next Tuesday. I specifically asked for someone who could help me with interacting and building relationships with people. Sometimes I think I would be happier living in a cave. Of course, I'm way too boy crazy for that to ever work. Mmmm, boys. I guess I should clarify that. Mmmm, appropriately aged boys.
-T
Posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 20:33:44
In reply to I AM QUEEN OF THE THREAD KILLERS!!!! » fairywings, posted by TexasChic on May 31, 2006, at 19:22:06
LOL Yeah, I knew what you meant by boys! ; ) You know you make a good point, why is it there's something hugely wrong with isolating if being alone works better? I know the logical answers to that, but ..... well, I guess I'm trying to justify.
My T is trying to work on the interacting and relationship thing with me too....he's got his work cut out for him, poor guy! ; ) I hope you like your new T - it's hard to break in a new one.
Thanks,
fw
Posted by Phillipa on May 31, 2006, at 21:12:28
In reply to Re: I AM QUEEN OF THE THREAD KILLERS!!!! » TexasChic, posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 20:33:44
Fairy Wings if having trouble in real life. Pick one place to go each day and congratulate yourself when you accomplish the task. I have the same problem working on it in CBT. Love Phillipa. ps I love your posts
Posted by sleepygirl on May 31, 2006, at 22:27:24
In reply to Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on May 30, 2006, at 23:36:22
not a darn thing from my perspective fairywinger
:-),
sg
Posted by fairywings on June 1, 2006, at 13:13:00
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate? » fairywings, posted by sleepygirl on May 31, 2006, at 22:27:24
Thanks SG and Phillipa! ; )
Phillipa, do you make it a point to interact with people when you go out, or not? I can go out, just don't want to interact anymore.
fw
Posted by Phillipa on June 1, 2006, at 20:02:44
In reply to Re: Is there a problem with the way I communicate?, posted by fairywings on June 1, 2006, at 13:13:00
fw, very short converstions outside. Less stressful when you can escape. Love Phillipa
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