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Posted by James K on January 30, 2006, at 15:58:21
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
I never know how to end a post. It seems impersonal to just put my name, or to just put nothing. The fact that you've found something that works and is meaningful to me is wonderful.
With all that's been going on around here, that someone thought this needed to be dealt with seems strange.
Thank you for your attention to this matter,
Mr. James K. II
Posted by Dinah on January 30, 2006, at 16:27:06
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
I'm practically speechless that someone would do that.
Please don't change your posting style. It's fine as it is, and it reflects your own personal style - which is as it should be.
Posted by 10derHeart on January 30, 2006, at 17:04:32
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
What the______???
You know, people.....
I swear,.......
Why is it that....?
Ok. Can't actually finish a comment within guidelines.
Phillipa, I don't think you have a condescending bone in your body! But, if expressing that you feel caring and affection toward other Babblers is condescending....could you *please* condescend to me regularly and often?!!
At the risk of trouble here, perhaps that person could give some thought to whether it's entirely civil to use such a term to describe another person's writing style, use of language. Or, for that matter, to give unsolicited advice.
Not that anyone *has* to be civil in their emails....but it sure is a nicer world when they are.....
FONDLY,
10derHeart (proudly borrowing your lovely word!)
Posted by gardenergirl on January 30, 2006, at 17:18:50
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on January 30, 2006, at 16:27:06
Don't you dare give it up! It's lovely, and it's you. I'd miss it.
gg, whose mind is boggled
PS: If that message was sent to you via Babblemail, and you think it is questionable, you can forward it to Dr. Bob to look over.
Posted by Racer on January 30, 2006, at 17:21:48
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
Phillipa, I'm sorry that someone would upset you so much this way.
First as a general rule: you can post anyway you feel like posting. Other people can choose to read or not to read, if they are offended by what you write or the way you write it. And, if someone feels it's condescending to sign off using "fondly," you're not responsible for their reaction.
But in this case, I'm pretty offended by this. It seems as though the content and tone of your entire posts show that there's no condescencion involved, so taking that one word and objecting to it seems -- I don't know, it seems like gratuitous mean spiritedness.
Can you forward the email to Dr Bob? Especially if it's a BabbleMail, in which case it's probably covered by civility guidelines in some way...
I'm sorry, Phillipa. You don't deserve this.
Posted by Glydin on January 30, 2006, at 17:24:40
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by gardenergirl on January 30, 2006, at 17:18:50
Maybe they thought it was "Fondlingly" --- I'm kidding, kidding.
Posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 17:45:55
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Glydin on January 30, 2006, at 17:24:40
I never knew I had such wonderful support here of not just meds etc,. So It's Fondly, Phillipa in the kindest way I know how. Thanks guys you made my day and it wasn't babblemail.
Posted by gardenergirl on January 30, 2006, at 17:53:05
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 17:45:55
You could always sign your posts to that person like this:
With extra special fondness...
:-D
gg
Posted by caraher on January 30, 2006, at 18:43:51
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 17:45:55
I don't understand why someone might object to your using the "f-word" ;)
Posted by TexasChic on January 30, 2006, at 19:16:54
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by caraher on January 30, 2006, at 18:43:51
condescend - act in superior way
fondly - having affection or warm regard : LOVING
I think of it as your trademark too. I've always liked it.
-T
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 30, 2006, at 19:41:56
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
It doesn't charm me, no. But Do I think you should stop using it? HELL NO!
It's you, and whenever you have something unique it's precious, and if there are those who love you for it, then there are always going to be those who dislike it with the same intensity.
That's how you find kindred spirits.
Posted by JenStar on January 30, 2006, at 19:50:53
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
I like it - it's your signature greeting. Don't change it! I think it actually softens any post...just in case someone misreads something, or thinks a post is "harsh" (not that yours ever are), it's a nice way to soften the landing and remind them that you're writing fondly and not with any malice.
I always thought it was a kind, gentle way to sign your posts!
JenStar
Posted by gee on January 30, 2006, at 19:54:09
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore » Phillipa, posted by JenStar on January 30, 2006, at 19:50:53
I think you should use it. I love the alliteration of it. It flows so nice, and it's so you!
Posted by LegWarmers on January 30, 2006, at 20:18:14
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
....stop using Fondly!! you are Fondly Philipa!
I like fondly
Posted by Susan47 on January 30, 2006, at 21:16:27
In reply to Please do not.... » Phillipa, posted by LegWarmers on January 30, 2006, at 20:18:14
I like it, have always liked it, and see no negative connotations in your usage of the term "fondly" when you sign off. Suspicious minds ... glad mine is leaving me.
Posted by sleepygirl on January 30, 2006, at 21:24:35
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
Posted by Tabitha on January 30, 2006, at 22:28:31
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
Never change, Phillipa.
Posted by muffled on January 30, 2006, at 22:48:34
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by caraher on January 30, 2006, at 18:43:51
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 30, 2006, at 23:00:44
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore » Phillipa, posted by Tabitha on January 30, 2006, at 22:28:31
I need to reword that.
Not to be more civil, just because it didn't come across the way I'd intended it too.
Fondly, doesn't affect me one way or the other.
What I was trying to say was, if one kind word bugs someone that's *their* problem.Trust me, I know because I have word hostility issues : ) No associations, I just hate certain words.. that's it. And I know it's my problem, otherwise I'd have to invent a pseudo-moral reason why people shouldn't use the word creamy.. or slacks.. or...slab oh I have so many.
You're sweet Phillipa, don't change.
Posted by Gabbix2 on January 30, 2006, at 23:01:56
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore » Tabitha, posted by Gabbix2 on January 30, 2006, at 23:00:44
Posted by deirdrehbrt on January 30, 2006, at 23:19:16
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
Perhaps someone's grandmother used to pat them on the head as a child and say "I'm so fond of you". Maybe it brings up memories of being a child, and they interpret the word "fondly" in that way. Does that mean you should change? heck no.
If you ever want to change, because YOU want to, then go ahead. Until then, I'll be happy to see that someone is fond of us.
-- Dee (without an adequate word to express her affection for this place)
Posted by Sarah T. on January 31, 2006, at 0:14:37
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
What??!! Your posts are not in the least bit condescending. I think "fondly" is a lovely way to sign off on either a post or a letter.
Please don't let this bother you. You are such a kind, thoughtful person.
Sarah
Posted by crazy teresa on January 31, 2006, at 6:03:16
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
After you tell him to go &^%%$ himself in a very civil way... ;~}
Actually, doesn't telling someone she was condescending for using the word fondly make this person extremely consescending AND completely asinine?
Posted by alesta on January 31, 2006, at 14:15:26
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
do...what? someone said not to use fondly? that is just crazytalk!!;) how could you possibly interpret 'fondly' negatively?
the only way i can possibly think of is if they think you're being sarcastic. well, dude or dudette, i am 100% positive that she is not being sarcastic! i promise!!!!!:-) phillipa ain't like that man.
btw, hi phillipa.:-) and if you don't use it i'm going to. i like fondly. hope you are doing well p.
love aim
Posted by alesta on January 31, 2006, at 15:13:24
In reply to fondly is good! (nm), posted by muffled on January 30, 2006, at 22:48:34
hi muffled!! i just wanted to return the favor and give you a BIG hug (you gave me one a while ago at a time when i was particularly fragile:))((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((muffy)))))))))))))
i was seriously worried about you when you got blocked.
aim:)
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