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Posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
I am so lazy. My self esteem is plummetting at work (I feel like everyone thinks I'm stupid or is mad at me) and I check my email more than once a day for emails from my ex (we agreed to be friends) who has clearly moved on (he hasn't written since tues and it feels like an eternity). I just want to curl up in my bed (even though I have homework) and go to sleep.
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 17, 2005, at 21:09:20
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
you are reacting like many.
Try not to be so hard on yourself and maybe do something to distract yourself from thinking about him.Im sorry you feel so sh*tty
Are you able to concentrate on homework at all? try to do 10 min. thats all, it may help make you feel better.
(((Angela)))
Posted by TexasChic on November 17, 2005, at 21:24:33
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
I suggest getting a copy of "I will survive" and sing with it into a hairbrush, at the top of your lungs, while standing on your bed. That always makes me feel better anyway.
-T
Posted by sleepygirl on November 17, 2005, at 22:00:56
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
you are NOT pathetic - you're grieving and it's hard to let go. Let yourself write, make art, talk, cry...whatever makes it just a little bit easier....but wait..you've got homework? hhhmmm, I hope it doesn't suck too much- maybe it's interesting? I don't know.
As far as the work uncomfortability since I'm not you I can only say how I handle it - it's been an issue for me lately - I'm pretty sure people are mad at me too and they think I'm stupid. It's really been sending me into "tizzies" as I call them - I'm not rational, totally uncomfortable, anxious, angry -a real crazy fest! I can only say that I've been a bit more successful as of late with distracting myself. I keep thinking..."they're not out to get you...they're not out to get you...they're not out to get you" - how's that for a mantra? hee hee... Whatever they do or do not think about you - other people are bound to become fixated once again on their own crap so I find it best to remove myself from the situation mentally. Sometimes when I'm really having a hard time with being preoccupied with how other people think of me I find something in terms of work tasks to really focus on, and/or I daydream about where I'd like to go or do that would be nice and also possible.
....but it's not much in the face of a serious depression and/or anxiety of course. I hope you're taking some decent care of yourself. You're NOT pathetic deary, you do need some time though I think. :-)
Posted by sleepygirl on November 17, 2005, at 22:01:56
In reply to (((Angela))) » Angela2, posted by TexasChic on November 17, 2005, at 21:24:33
Why does that remind me of "Bridget Jones' Diary"?
Posted by Deneb on November 17, 2005, at 23:01:02
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
((((((((((Angela)))))))))))
You're not pathetic. Sometimes people can become insecure for whatever reasons, but that does not make them pathetic. Give yourself some time to get over your EX.
Deneb
Posted by Phillipa on November 17, 2005, at 23:13:11
In reply to Re: I am pathetic » Angela2, posted by Deneb on November 17, 2005, at 23:01:02
Don't forget it's that time of year too. Fondly,Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on November 18, 2005, at 5:06:01
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
Maybe you are wanting to get together again with your ex? It does sound like you are pining a bit. Is this something that you want to happen?
(((angela2)))
CS
Posted by Angela2 on November 18, 2005, at 8:36:59
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
You guys are the best. I don't know what I would do without my babble friends. I'm trying to move on, but it seems I can't stop checking my email.
About work, it sucks becuase for the past week and a half things were going pretty well. Now I feel so bad about myself again for some reason. ((((hugs to everyone))))
-Ang
Posted by alesta on November 18, 2005, at 8:48:29
In reply to I am pathetic, posted by Angela2 on November 17, 2005, at 20:29:58
i hope you feel better angela...i think you're a wonderful, very nice person.....:) not pathetic whatsoever. we love you.:) please take care of yourself and be good to yourself today! if not for yourself, for me?:-) (i don't like to see you sad!:))
amy:)
Posted by Angela2 on November 18, 2005, at 17:03:19
In reply to Re: » Angela2, posted by alesta on November 18, 2005, at 8:48:29
Aw, Alesta! Thank you so much:-) I will try.
-Ang
Posted by TexasChic on November 18, 2005, at 17:17:59
In reply to Re: (((Angela))) » TexasChic, posted by sleepygirl on November 17, 2005, at 22:01:56
sleepygirl: I've never even seen that movie. Did they steal my idea? I sing at the top of my lungs the entire commute home from work. It realives stress somehow. Some co-workers have seen me and made fun, but the good natured kind. They drove by mimicking me singing. This time last year I spent the commute home getting stoned. This is definitely better (and not near as dangerous).
Angela2: How has today gone for you? I know what its like to be in that pit of depression where you just think you're the most pathetic person to ever walk the face of the earth. Its hard to suggest something that might help. I think you have to find the inspiration inside yourself. Dig deep and find a reason to get motivated (I'm saying this to myself as well as you right now). Do whatever it takes! And know we're all here rooting for you & know what a great person you are!!!
-T
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 18, 2005, at 17:45:00
In reply to Sleepygirl: Bridget Jones' Diary? Angela2 too, posted by TexasChic on November 18, 2005, at 17:17:59
> sleepygirl: I've never even seen that movie.
OH its A MUST!! you must rent it. your tummy will hurt at the end
> Angela2: know we're all here rooting for you & know what a great person you are!!!
>
> -TI second that!!
Posted by Angela2 on November 18, 2005, at 20:55:55
In reply to Sleepygirl: Bridget Jones' Diary? Angela2 too, posted by TexasChic on November 18, 2005, at 17:17:59
My day went OK. I feel like a rock when it comes to socialness at work. My night got better though. I went to a coffee house that played live jazz music. It was fun. I just felt like I needed to be aroound people so badly, and this place felt safe. I'm starting to realize he just isn't worth it.
Posted by Angela2 on November 18, 2005, at 20:57:13
In reply to Re: Sleepygirl: Bridget Jones' Diary? Angela2 too » TexasChic, posted by rainbowbrite on November 18, 2005, at 17:45:00
Rainbowbrite and Texas Chick, you guys are the best! I love you guys! :-)
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