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Posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:00:42
I don't know if this a good topic or not. But how do you see yourself once life becomes 'normal'. Or maybe 'happy' is a better word.
Here's mine, I see myself:
- with a clean house (and car)!!!
- having friends (IRL)
- not afraid to invite people over (even if my house was clean I wouldn't be able to do that now)
- having some healthy things to do after work, as opposed to sitting on the couch from 4pm-10pm getting drunk.
- DATING!!!!!
- not being over weight. I don't have to be skinny, just a good old size 12 would make me happy (I'm a 16 now).
- dealing with problems without them consuming me and making me an emotional wreck.
- doing the things I avoid for no reason what so ever, like washing my makeup off at night, doing laundry, picking up after myself ect.Those were the first things that popped into my head. More thinking would bring up deeper issues, but its interesting to see what it is I'm 'really' striving for.
-T
Posted by Poet on November 13, 2005, at 18:19:10
In reply to Normal, posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:00:42
When I stop critisizing myself for doing everything wrong.
When I can look in the mirror and not cringe at what I see.
Is that what normal people do? I don't know what happy feels like, so I don't know what would make be happy. Other than to be perfect, which isn't going to happen.
Poet
Posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:26:31
In reply to Re: Normal, posted by Poet on November 13, 2005, at 18:19:10
Perfect wouldn't be happy, it would be boring and no one would like you because you're perfect.
-When I stop critisizing myself for doing everything wrong.
-When I can look in the mirror and not cringe at what I see.These are the things I would have come up with if I'd given the question deeper thought. I'm getting better at the first one, but not the second. Even if I were skinny, I would think I'm weird looking.
-T
Posted by Toph on November 13, 2005, at 19:27:20
In reply to Re: Normal, posted by Poet on November 13, 2005, at 18:19:10
You looked pretty normal to me last summer Poet. : )
Posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2005, at 21:16:42
In reply to Re: Normal » Poet, posted by Toph on November 13, 2005, at 19:27:20
Accepting life the way it is, finding a med that works, being able to work again, a better relationship with grown kids, other family members. And accepting getting older. Fondly, phillipa
Posted by Toph on November 14, 2005, at 11:17:08
In reply to Re: Normal, posted by Phillipa on November 13, 2005, at 21:16:42
> Accepting life the way it is, finding a med that works, being able to work again, a better relationship with grown kids, other family members. And accepting getting older.
All sounds pretty normal for the folks around here phillipa. : )
Posted by Angela2 on November 14, 2005, at 18:03:38
In reply to Normal, posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:00:42
If you want this you will have to work for it. And I believe you can do it.
1.) If you want to clean your house, make plans over the weekend to do it!!! Put on some great *ss music and just clean even if it's only a little bit.
2.) Go see a therapist or get some self help books.
3.) read, exercise, hang out with friends, create, sing, join something.
4.) Some dating sites are pretty cheap. Why not join one?
5.) Join a gym
6.) Write in a journal, talk to someone you trust, take medication.I believe in you TC. But only you can make these changes.
Posted by TexasChic on November 14, 2005, at 18:46:36
In reply to Re: Normal, posted by Angela2 on November 14, 2005, at 18:03:38
Thanks for the vote of confidence and good suggestions. I went to my psychologist today and she gave me some names of therapists that work on a sliding scale. She made me promise I would call one this weekend. I guess that could be a first step.
-T
Posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 10:33:21
In reply to Normal, posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:00:42
> I don't know if this a good topic or not. But how do you see yourself once life becomes 'normal'. Or maybe 'happy' is a better word.
I basically have ONE thing:
Being in a relationship, and then married, YESTERDAY.
Was married for 31 years to an abuser, finally got the courage to get a divorce; alone now for the 1st time in forever; just 5 months, but I am very resilient (good thing, LOL); if not for my faith, wicked wit, and twisted-sister, sense of humor
I might be drooling in a corner somewhere!
Life is short (I know it is a cliche, but so true!!)
As one of my (wise) friends sez: It's not that serious!!
I agree; I try to take my own advice, and be gentle with myself.
I trained myself to NEVER put myself down (no matter how I feel like jumping in to the "wish I could lose weight, blah, blah; whatever negativity someone is discussing).
Just think if we COULD live each day as if it were our last, because someday.....it WILL be. What would we do right now, if we knew we had x amount of time to live? I bet our lives would change drastically.
I'd have dust bunnies the size (wait for it, LOL
of TEXAS!!!!
Hugs, Ally
>
> Here's mine, I see myself:
> - with a clean house (and car)!!!
> - having friends (IRL)
> - not afraid to invite people over (even if my house was clean I wouldn't be able to do that now)
> - having some healthy things to do after work, as opposed to sitting on the couch from 4pm-10pm getting drunk.
> - DATING!!!!!
> - not being over weight. I don't have to be skinny, just a good old size 12 would make me happy (I'm a 16 now).
> - dealing with problems without them consuming me and making me an emotional wreck.
> - doing the things I avoid for no reason what so ever, like washing my makeup off at night, doing laundry, picking up after myself ect.
>
> Those were the first things that popped into my head. More thinking would bring up deeper issues, but its interesting to see what it is I'm 'really' striving for.
>
> -T
Posted by TexasChic on November 15, 2005, at 19:05:38
In reply to Re: Normal + Texas sized dust bunnies » TexasChic, posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 10:33:21
I was thinking of this today at work. Considering how I started out, I've made quite a bit of accomplishments.
Let's see:- I have a job that I get up and go to everyday without a feeling of dread, and its pretty decent pay considering the job market.
-I have my own apartment which is a bigger deal than I can possibly explain.
- I haven't had any utilities shut off for about a year now!
- I've become social enough at work to have friends that make me laugh every freaking day! (And actually see outside of work on occasion).
- I've actually gone way out of my comfort zone to flirt with a guy!
- I feel way better about myself than I did a year ago. At least now I can see how to better myself, instead of thinking its useless.
That's it for off the top of my head. Maybe I'll think of more later.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on November 15, 2005, at 19:23:46
In reply to Re: Normal + Texas sized dust bunnies » TexasChic, posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 10:33:21
Its a small world.
-T
Posted by Angela2 on November 15, 2005, at 19:24:05
In reply to Now ways that I 'am' normal., posted by TexasChic on November 15, 2005, at 19:05:38
Posted by Poet on November 18, 2005, at 10:16:39
In reply to Re: Normal » Poet, posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:26:31
Hi TexasChic,
What we need are magic mirrors that make us always look good to ourselves.
I know that being perfect wouldn't make me happy, but I can't stop myself from trying. And trying. And failing. And failing.
Poet
Posted by Poet on November 18, 2005, at 10:20:15
In reply to Re: Normal » Poet, posted by Toph on November 13, 2005, at 19:27:20
Hi Toph,
It was raining pretty hard, maybe your glasses fogged up?
Poet
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