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Posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
more introverted and unmotivated...i stop getting things done that need to be done..and don't enjoy interacting or make the effort to interact with ppl IRL as much. i think this is why i don't post here so much lately.
anyone else??? am interested to find out...
i think that until my life gets easier, i may have to avoid this place to stay on track...amy;)
Posted by sal0805 on November 2, 2005, at 14:47:33
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
Hey Amy
More often than not, it is a tug of war situation for me. I identify with what you are saying. I seem to be able to draw the line a bit better now than in the past but it still gets me down.
I feel I can't live without babble but when I'm babbling, I sometimes feel more lonely than ever (and yes - unmotivated - though I think that's just me!)
I understand if you need to avoid this place - but please stay on track??
Babble me! (I know iou)
Sabrina
Posted by muffled on November 2, 2005, at 15:20:46
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me » alesta, posted by sal0805 on November 2, 2005, at 14:47:33
Posted by Sonya on November 2, 2005, at 15:21:47
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
Same with me. I'm feeling really well these days so I lurk here infrequently and rarely post. I think when I'm depressed, I isolate IRL so it's comforting and safer to *connect* in cyberspace.
Posted by TexasChic on November 2, 2005, at 16:38:39
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me » alesta, posted by Sonya on November 2, 2005, at 15:21:47
Someday they'll do indept psychological tests about friends online -vs- friends IRL. Until then, I just take whatever comfort I can get. If I'm isolating myself, babble is usually a result of that, not a cause. Did that make any sense? What I mean is, I would be isolating myself anyway, and because I am I take comfort in my on-line friends on babble. Its comfort in a time of need.
If someone here stopped posting as frequently because their social life was just so full, I would miss them, but be truly happy for them. Hopefully that will be me someday. I'll be writing, "Sorry I haven't posted in a while, but I'm just so busy with all the dates with cute guys and everything!"
-T
Posted by lynn971 on November 2, 2005, at 19:28:42
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
Hi guys.
I have been doing homework with my little cousin everynight until 8 o'clock.
I am not planning my little girl's first boy/girl dance party. She will be 13 on the 13th of November.
Love you guys,
I prob. won't post for a while
Posted by zeugma on November 2, 2005, at 19:57:12
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
> more introverted and unmotivated...i stop getting things done that need to be done..and don't enjoy interacting or make the effort to interact with ppl IRL as much. i think this is why i don't post here so much lately.
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> anyone else??? am interested to find out...IRL??? do you think I exist IRL??
yes, i suppose I exist IRL.
but i do so with a chip on my shoulder.
this place makes me nicer.
but interoversion and demotivation (i'll let the typos stand, as they are trying in their own sad way to communicate, perhaps my fingers have a life of its own. or perhaps it's sleep deprivation :-) (and and 'demotivation' was not an attempt to capture a gestalt, but say it with feeling and it will come to life [and yes, i am enclosing parentheses in parentheses. and and- now the stuttering has gone too far. time to snap out of it])
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> i think that until my life gets easier, i may have to avoid this place to stay on track...amy;)
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ouch. i see the necessity's harsh pinch turning a bit of your shoulder blue. you need to avoid those who avoid life. if that means you must avoid me, so be it.cryptophilic, sleep deprived and increasing incoherent number 26
your z
Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2005, at 21:12:48
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
I find that as I get depressed I tend to isolate myself from here as much as anywhere else. So I don't see a connection.
Posted by alexandra_k on November 2, 2005, at 21:26:04
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2005, at 21:12:48
i do...
i think i'm a whole heap happier and more productive irl than i would be being without this place.
i think i'm a whole heap easier to be friends with too (because i can bore you guys with things rather than have people avoid me irl ha!)
sometimes i find myself here when i'm avoiding or procrastinating... but who am i kidding? before babble there was x-box and computer games (which i've hardly touched in the past year or so)
sometimes i find myself caught up in babble dramas. you guys make me laugh and make me cry and make me happy and make me frustrated and so on (well, i allow myself to take that from here i suppose) but thats part of life...
and maybe... dramas keep life interesting sometimes... for someone with this inner hole like me anyway...
;-)
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 3, 2005, at 8:52:14
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
> more introverted and unmotivated...i stop getting things done that need to be done..and don't enjoy interacting or make the effort to interact with ppl IRL as much. i think this is why i don't post here so much lately.
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> anyone else??? am interested to find out...
>For me its more when I am writing papers and studying that it gets in the way. Thats when Im more inclined to get on the internet. The problem is that my internet time replaces my study time. when I allocate time to books it gernally is spent herre instead :-( and tehn I dont do any and Im not willing to cut out my social time. Well I have to at times and then I supose this gets in the way because its an endless cycle of trying to study, not studying, coming here, going out, trying to study, not doing it, socializing......yeah I think you get the picture :-) At one point it did get in the way of IRL when I was very physically sick, but eventually I snapped out of it. It was a strange time, I was in bed all the time and all I did was avoid the phone and door and used my computer. AHHH But maybe it was something that was meant to be. That is around the time I built relationships here. But IRL interactions are really important,That is something I would be careful of it was interferring with mine.
> i think that until my life gets easier, i may have to avoid this place to stay on track...amy;)
>You do what ever you have to do to be happy. This plcae has its goods and badsm there are great people here and its funny and Ive learned a lot. I was also thinking today how at times Its like a soap opera lol and you have to get on the check the lastest lol But In a sense this place can bring me down when I read sad things and such but it also can cause me a lot of stress when I realize how I am hurting my studies because of it. Im trhowing my computer out the window RIGHT NOW!
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yeah right!!
Posted by fairywings on November 3, 2005, at 8:54:14
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
i like babble, i like the connection, i like the ppl, i like talking over things you can't talk with other ppl, that no one else understands. i like feeling like maybe i have something to say that might make a difference to someone who's feeling the way i've felt at one time or another, or maybe i'm going through the same thing too and can identify.
i do tend to put things off when i babble, but i could find a way to do that anyway. at least this way there's a human connection. it helps me realize that i'm not alone in my feelings, and that it's okay to talk about certain things in therapy i might not otherwise, and then if i feel bad after therapy i can talk here and ppl will understand.
i'm unmotivated right now anyway. i'm introverted anyway. life's not easy, and when it's really hard, there's babble and maybe someone who cares.
fw
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 3, 2005, at 8:54:45
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me » alesta, posted by zeugma on November 2, 2005, at 19:57:12
>>IRL??? do you think I exist IRL??
haha I was thinking the exact same thing last night!!! I almost wrote in a post how much I hate that saying lol We are all real and IRL In real time ;-)
Im suposed to be studying! BAbble stop this now!!!
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 3, 2005, at 8:56:57
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
Its about ballance. Thats all. if we can find the perfect balance then everything would be PERFECT :-D
Dr Bob, how do we find balance??
Posted by Dinah on November 3, 2005, at 9:09:27
In reply to Re: i think this place helps me, posted by alexandra_k on November 2, 2005, at 21:26:04
With me it was eBay.
Babble's a lot cheaper. :)
Posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 11:08:08
In reply to i think this place makes me, posted by alesta on November 2, 2005, at 14:12:21
thanks much y'all. very interesting to read your responses! :-) glad to see i'm not alone with this inner struggle, too..
i feel at times it can be an art incorporating this place into your life, lol..i appreciate it guys. i don't think i'm ready to take off from here..i think i was being a bit compulsive w/ this place yesterday. i hope everyone has a great day..:)
take good care,
amy
Posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 12:36:40
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me » alesta, posted by sal0805 on November 2, 2005, at 14:47:33
hi sabri...i will babble you soon when things slow down for me. babblemailing requires a certain inner focus of attention (for me) that i don't really have a lot of right now. i'm not much of a babblemailer these days..you have to catch me when i'm in the mood, so to speak.:) i'm trying to stay extraverted...anyway, don't go nowhere, you hear?! you have a way of disappearing without a trace!! :)
your eternal buddy,:)
amy
Posted by sal0805 on November 3, 2005, at 15:04:22
In reply to Re: i think this place makes me » sal0805, posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 12:36:40
I understand Amy - and that thing of mine disappearing was just a horrible chain of events somewhat beyond my control. I hurt you - and I am deeply sorry!
Anyway - when you are ready - I am here. I do not imagine I shall disappear without a trace again!
Hugs
Sabrina
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