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Posted by Sebastian on August 24, 2005, at 18:05:38
I used to go down town every weekend, to bars/dance clubs. It was fun all weekend. Now nothing I just stay in and watch tv. Ever since I got this psychosis.
My whole life changed ever since I saw my friends blow up. I don't do anything fun. Even if I do try to go out and have fun at a bar/dance club I don't. I'm a stick in the mud. Just staring at people. My brain does not register. I want it to be like it was, but can't.
What do I do? How can I enjoy myself again?
Posted by Sebastian on August 24, 2005, at 18:09:41
In reply to Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 24, 2005, at 18:05:38
Lately fun for me has been drinking and a little pot. Woo hoo. I need to get out!!!
But I'm afraid. I take all these pills now. I'm always serious. Never interested in the oposit sex, like I used to be. This is too wierd for me.
Posted by lynn970 on August 24, 2005, at 19:44:52
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 24, 2005, at 18:09:41
Sebastian, sometimes when tragedy strikes we begin to look at the world differently. We try to determine what really matters.
My cousin, who was like a sister to me, was tragically killed by a train. Her daughter was with her. They both died. This happened a year ago. She left behind two sons. Their father is not around. One of her sons is with me now.
My life has never been the same since. I know that She is in heaven. I realize that this life here on earth is very short. Even if we live to be 90 years old, life is short. Pardon me for sounding "preachy" but my life was empty without Jesus. Going to clubs -empty. I used to love to go clubbing. Of course once you get older, the recovery from a night of clubbing takes longer. lol
Posted by Phillipa on August 24, 2005, at 20:36:49
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by lynn970 on August 24, 2005, at 19:44:52
Hasn't been my thing in a long while. I'd rather read or watch people walk by. Can't drink cause of meds and if I can't drink my inhibitions are too high to have any fun. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Angela2 on August 24, 2005, at 21:05:03
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 24, 2005, at 18:09:41
That may have been who you were then, but who are you now? Can you think of something you like to do for fun? Sometimes things aren't clear to us at one point, but clear at others.
Posted by Sebastian on August 27, 2005, at 14:35:54
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Angela2 on August 24, 2005, at 21:05:03
I just feel like my life is empty. People tell me all the time that I should be out having fun, dating. All I do anymore now is stay home and drink. This is the only thing I like doing, and its realy not all that. I'd like to meet people but the only way I knew how was to be intoxicated. Thats why I can't think of any thing to do but go to a bar. But I'm too insecure to do that anymore. Besides what if I got into an acident, drinking. I never have. But the last time I went to a dance club I almost had an accident and I decided not to do it anymore. Besides I'm 29 now is that to old to go clubing anymore, I think it is.
Posted by lynn970 on August 29, 2005, at 19:08:10
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 27, 2005, at 14:35:54
My life was empty without Jesus. I had such an empty feeling until I became a christian. I still battle depression - but it is different.
Posted by lynn970 on August 29, 2005, at 19:20:28
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by lynn970 on August 29, 2005, at 19:08:10
It was very scarry to write the message that I wrote in the above link.
I dont want anyone to think that I am judgemental and uptight. I just felt like I needed to say what I said. I hope it helps you.
Posted by Sebastian on August 30, 2005, at 18:17:54
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by lynn970 on August 29, 2005, at 19:08:10
My problem is I never have belived in religion and probably never will. Sorry.
Posted by Sebastian on August 30, 2005, at 18:21:08
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by lynn970 on August 29, 2005, at 19:20:28
I need a life again, but what? I've been out of it for several years now, atleast 4 years. I've tried going out to bars and not enjoyed myself recently. Everyone tells me to do comunity service but that is not me. What do I do?
Posted by lynn970 on August 30, 2005, at 18:34:14
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 30, 2005, at 18:21:08
Sebastian, I hope that you feel better soon.
Posted by TexasChic on September 2, 2005, at 17:32:29
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on August 30, 2005, at 18:21:08
We seem to be in similiar situations. It seems all I do is sit home and drink. I think the key for me is to figure out how to get out of the house. Alot of people recommend volunteering because you get out and get your mind off you problems by helping people with even worse ones. I've also considered taking a continuing education class at the local jr. college. There's also various groups you can join on meetup.com. I did the meetup.com thing and it was pretty cool. I just need to find the right group. I guess my problem really isn't figuring out what to do, but how to get the motivation to get out and try the ideas I've already come up with! Now that's the real question.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on September 2, 2005, at 18:21:37
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more? » Sebastian, posted by TexasChic on September 2, 2005, at 17:32:29
Same problem here. i have lots of ideas but I'm always afraid to try to do them. Isn't it amazing how something sounds so good in your head but to do it is another thing. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on September 2, 2005, at 18:35:43
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more? » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on September 2, 2005, at 18:21:37
Yeah, I definitely have a bit of Agoraphobia (fear of crowds or leaving the house). I can force myself to go out, but its never easy. Its always me forcing myself to do it. And this is to go do things I really want to do! But I'm trying to overcome that. My two main goals right now are to stop isolating myself and to overcome my clutter/hoarding problem. Oh, and my drinking. But I'll have to take it one step at a time.
Posted by Sebastian on September 3, 2005, at 12:55:25
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by TexasChic on September 2, 2005, at 18:35:43
Sounds like my problems.
Posted by TexasChic on September 5, 2005, at 18:40:40
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by Sebastian on September 3, 2005, at 12:55:25
Too bad we don't live next door. We could hang out on our patios and drink!
Posted by Sebastian on September 7, 2005, at 11:46:53
In reply to Re: Why can't I have fun any more?, posted by TexasChic on September 5, 2005, at 18:40:40
The apartment next to mine is empty.
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