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Posted by Thomasin on August 10, 2005, at 15:23:22
What I hate is being the lame-o-screw-up of my family. I hate having the reputation of being the one whose marriage failed, the one who can't get or keep a job, the one who makes poor life choices, the one w/ a chemical imbalance in her brain,etc, etc,etc...
My younger brother and his lovely wife and their two adorable children are driving from the west coast(i'm mid-west)to see both my step-mother and me and they are seeing me first. My bro and I just talked on his cell and in one conversation he mentioned how they'd be w/ me just tonight and tomorrow am so as not to cut short the time w/ our stepmother AND that it was fine that I was broke and jobless. Of course to my paranoid mind the implication was, we can't stand to hang out w/ you any longer than we must because you're such a downer and that I was always jobless and broke so of course it's fine, it's the status quo.
Anyway, as we all know, nothing like a little victimised self pity to get one in the mood to visit w/ family one hasn't seen in over 3 years...
Posted by Declan on August 12, 2005, at 19:17:43
In reply to Yknow what I hate???, posted by Thomasin on August 10, 2005, at 15:23:22
Family life eh? There's nothing like it to push your buttons. I'm just a little nervous that our 15yo daughter will get pregnant and somehow I'll end up with another stretch of it. It starts out with such promise, but relations with siblings can be felt to be so full of restrained contempt.
Declan
Posted by Thomasin on August 13, 2005, at 10:05:22
In reply to Re: Yknow what I hate???, posted by Declan on August 12, 2005, at 19:17:43
Totally. And y'know, my brother is the nicest guy. I just feel like I'm nothing but a worry for him. The why can't she get it together sister. Of course, it could be all paranoid delusion on my part. I admit that.
As for your kid, I'm not a parent but it seems to me at 15 perhaps she'd listen if you explained how hard it is to parent as an adult, never mind as a child who still has so much growing and learning to do. Also, how limited your options become as a parent, how every choice you make has to be run through the is it possible w/ a kid question. Maybe w/ some of that info she'll think twice? Maybe suggest a pet? It sounds facetious but, dogs and cats can be a tremendous source of love and acceptance without so many limits...
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