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Posted by TamaraJ on June 3, 2005, at 13:30:04
catch your breath, you felt like you were going to throw up and your ears ached? I really hate that :-( It is exhausting.
Posted by 10derHeart on June 3, 2005, at 15:06:38
In reply to Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't, posted by TamaraJ on June 3, 2005, at 13:30:04
Yes, unfortunately, I have. Few and far between, but a never forgotten experience. There's also the lovely splitting headache, puffed up face and inability to breathe.... :-(
It's awful, but I actually feel better a few hours later. Looking back, it seems it was always an issue with deep grief, though I didn't really always get that at the time. My T. and I have talked about this crying/grieving quite a bit lately. I don't like it one bit (dealing with it, I mean)
Hope you're okay. (((TamaraJ)))
Posted by PM80 on June 3, 2005, at 15:52:32
In reply to Re: Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't » TamaraJ, posted by 10derHeart on June 3, 2005, at 15:06:38
Yes, absolutely. I have cried like this many times. Curled up on my floor, bearly able to take a breath so that I cough and cough. Alcohol sometimes brings this on for me, but sometimes I feel like this better than the horrible nothingness/hollowness I might otherwise feel. At least it is an emotion and it is real. It feels like it is validation of the all of the things in my past that no longer appear to be real. If the past can still hurt, then I know it was real - it did happen. The people I loved that no longer are alive or no longer love me did actually exist.
That's just my experience. I've never done this in front of anyone, ever, though. In fact this is the first time I've really ever discussed in this much detail. Hmmm.
Posted by TamaraJ on June 3, 2005, at 17:30:53
In reply to Re: Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't, posted by PM80 on June 3, 2005, at 15:52:32
I never used to be much of a crier, so it is weird to cry so hard that I feel like I am going to throw up. It is draining, very draining, but, yes, it is better than the horrible nothingness that precedes the crying. Like you, I have never done it in front of anyone, and talking about it here is the only time I have talked about it. It feels like I am on the verge of some kind of transition, but I am not sure what. There is an inner turmoil, a restlessness, like I am on the edge. It is weird talking about it, so I had better shut the h*ll up.
Thanks so much, PM80, for sharing your experience with me. I appreciate your being so open, particularly when I know how difficult it is to talk about these things at times.
Tamara
Posted by TamaraJ on June 3, 2005, at 17:42:12
In reply to Re: Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't » TamaraJ, posted by 10derHeart on June 3, 2005, at 15:06:38
Thank you so much, 10derHeart, you are very kind. Anyway, I'm with you - I don't like it one bit either. But, it's a pretty powerful appetite suppresant, that's for sure! I am not sure what deep grief issue I am dealing with, to be perfectly honest. Need to dig a bit deeper I guess. But, I will be fine, I just need to get a handle on this stuff. It's happened a few times in a couple of weeks, and it is ticking me off. Man, I used to only cry 2 or 3 times a year, if that. Anyway, I am becoming a bit too open about these unnervng, uncharacteristic and unwelcome emotions, I think. Time to start working out again so I can get out these obviously pent up emotions!
You take care.
Tamara
Posted by sleepygirl on June 4, 2005, at 16:34:34
In reply to Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't, posted by TamaraJ on June 3, 2005, at 13:30:04
yes,
I think I could use one of those sob fests right now. It's like my whole being just explodes in aching. Yes, it's exhausting, but I'd really like a little catharsis 'bout now. The time and surroundings however are not right for it.
Posted by TamaraJ on June 4, 2005, at 16:50:10
In reply to Re: Have you ever cried so hard that you couldn't, posted by sleepygirl on June 4, 2005, at 16:34:34
Oh no, I am sorry to hear that you are feeling in need of one of those exhausting and barf-inducing sob fests. That just plain stinks!!! Hang in there, sleepygirl. Hopefully you will be somewhere soon where you can feel free to let it all out, and perhaps experience at least some measure of relief after the release. I hope you are not having a difficult time at your new job. Remember - be patient with yourself, ok. And, try to sing your own praises, even if it is silently and you can only think of one thing (like your wonderful writing that touches people's hearts), each and every day.
My thoughts are with you.
Tamara
Posted by sleepygirl on June 4, 2005, at 17:08:55
In reply to (((sleepygirl))), posted by TamaraJ on June 4, 2005, at 16:50:10
I think I did let a bunch out in response to your question about how my first day of work went. I'm afraid I'm sabotaging myself. Thank you for your incredible kindness. :-)
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