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Posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 7:06:24
In reply to Re: On civility, kindness, and being pc » 10derHeart, posted by damos on April 14, 2005, at 21:30:40
Has anyone heard anything from Alexandra?
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:30:46
In reply to Re: On civility, kindness, and being pc » damos, posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 7:06:24
No. No. Utter silence. No Babblemail. No answers to reg. email. Much, much worry.
Thus, this from me to Damos:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050408/msgs/484420.html
Babble me, if you like, or gg, she's not feeling well, but working on some thoughts of what to do re: alex...it's been a week now :-(
PS - are you doing better? you seem sort of up and down, and I worry for you...but then you're a trouper are always back here for more, thank goodness for us...((pc))
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 10:39:24
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex » partlycloudy, posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:30:46
Any news of alex?
Posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 10:52:09
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex » partlycloudy, posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 10:30:46
Oh, dear. Oh, dear. I hope all is OK for our Alex.
As for me, today bites the big one. I have a little thread on the main babble board about today's travails.
Feel like not coming back from lunch today.
pc
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 15, 2005, at 14:19:13
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY?, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 10:39:24
> Any news of alex?
None. Her phone has been off since Monday afternoon.
What do you think....should someome try to make that "connect with the authorities" effort, to have her checked up on?
She's said she would be mortified if that would ever happen, so, out of respect, I've held back.....but I'm feeling very unsettled.
Lar
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 14:56:49
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on April 15, 2005, at 14:19:13
Shall we ask the moderator of this board what his advice would be? He's put himself in the position of giving advice, after all. Hasn't he? Or is that my misconception?
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 14:58:33
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on April 15, 2005, at 14:19:13
The authorities CAN be inconspicuous, or fairly so, when checking up on somebody .. but then there's always the tongues that wag no matter what. It's really always a matter of circumstance, and I'd hate to hurt her reputation. On the other hand, is this so out of character for her .. yes or no? I've felt like there's no place in this world for me, too, exactly that, and it's a very peaceful place to be, it's a very peaceful feeling. That can be very bad.
Posted by damos on April 15, 2005, at 20:59:30
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY?, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 14:58:33
Guys, only a brief post as I still haven't got a computer at home - posting from the mall. I have the number of the welfare officer at the uni and emailled Dr Bob to ask his advice - haven't heard back. I'm happy to call them monday (now lunch time Saturday). I have aslo spoken to a former cop in Hamilton who advised that without knowing hr famly name (surname) it'd be tough. I have asked and cant' get any time off for a couple of weeks, but feel like a flight across the creek is warranted. Let me know your thoughts
Posted by gardenergirl on April 15, 2005, at 21:25:31
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » Susan47, posted by damos on April 15, 2005, at 20:59:30
I have the number of the university department, down to I think what might be her office number. I was thinking. I have a way I could call that would not necessarily betray that I know her from this board but rather I could mention another interest we have in common.
gg
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 21:59:36
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » damos, posted by gardenergirl on April 15, 2005, at 21:25:31
If either of you wonderful friends would, could, possibly, do any of the things you mentioned, anything....it would be better than where we are now. I think either of you could manage to NOT make her feel mortified, in case that becomes a problem.
Which isn't my main worry, considering some of the alternatives. You guys are the best. I am overwhelmed, in a way, seeing, knowing how much caring there is when one of our own may be in trouble. Makes me feel very, very safe.
Posted by anastasia56 on April 15, 2005, at 22:13:56
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » Susan47, posted by damos on April 15, 2005, at 20:59:30
damos,
i knew you would come forward with that offer. You are an incredible person.ana
Posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 23:33:18
In reply to Re: Not hearing from alex: LARRY? » damos, posted by anastasia56 on April 15, 2005, at 22:13:56
Posted by All Done on April 16, 2005, at 8:54:55
In reply to Missing presence of alex here - so much :-( (nm), posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 23:33:18
I hope you're okay, (((((alexandra))))).
Posted by Susan47 on April 16, 2005, at 11:13:39
In reply to Re: Me too :(, posted by All Done on April 16, 2005, at 8:54:55
That sounds like a reasonable thing to do, gg. Would you do that on your own, or ask Dr. Bob, or what? It should be soon, whatever is done has to be soon I think. I'm also wondering if she'll be seeming to be okay but making plans in another direction, you know? Because just before offing oneself things can be pretty good. You know, the making plans and all gives you a purpose ... you know that though ... if she's available to anybody that person should make sure she's seeing a therapist or psychiatrist .. but how? We don't know anybody in her real life. We're very limited. I'm just thinking that checking up to make sure she's alive isn't going to be enough, you know? someone in authority would have to be alerted that she needs help. This is so hard.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 16, 2005, at 11:49:18
In reply to Gardener Girl, posted by Susan47 on April 16, 2005, at 11:13:39
It is very hard, and I know when I feel helpless, it's especially hard when I don't even know what's going on. I hate feeling helpless.
Still working out exactly what is the best course of action. I'm glad it's a group effort. It's good to have support.
Big ol' hug to all of us.
gg
Posted by Susan47 on April 16, 2005, at 15:30:30
In reply to Missing alex and feeling helpless, posted by gardenergirl on April 16, 2005, at 11:49:18
Or has someone already done that?
Posted by Damos on April 16, 2005, at 20:52:34
In reply to Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob?, posted by Susan47 on April 16, 2005, at 15:30:30
Hi all back at the mall. This is too important to miss a day of. GG if you want to go ahead and call do it otherwise if you and Larry can please give me whatever details you have and I get something done tomorrow (midday Sunday here now). You can email me at damien.faulkner@aexp.com
Susan I had emailled the good Dr but since I can't access my work email from here I'll check tomorrow and go from there.
Ana I'd do the same for any of you in a heartbeat.
Posted by Dinah on April 16, 2005, at 21:29:50
In reply to Re: Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob? » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 16, 2005, at 20:52:34
You're a good man.
One of the things that worries me most, yet gives me a bit of hope, is that Monday was Alexandra's appointment with the new therapist. Perhaps rather than going very badly, it went very well and she was able to reach out and receive help.
But I'm still very worried.
It seems like yesterday that I argued with her that the sudden disappearance of a regular poster was as distressing as suicidal posts. The knots in my stomach remind me.
Could you babblemail me please? If you get a chance?
Posted by Dinah on April 16, 2005, at 21:33:26
In reply to Re: Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob? » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 16, 2005, at 20:52:34
If you don't have access to babblemail, my email is in the FAQ's. bully for you at yahoo dot com. Delete the spaces and convert the at and dot to symbols.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 16, 2005, at 22:58:30
In reply to Re: Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob? » Damos, posted by Dinah on April 16, 2005, at 21:29:50
> One of the things that worries me most, yet gives me a bit of hope, is that Monday was Alexandra's appointment with the new therapist. Perhaps rather than going very badly, it went very well and she was able to reach out and receive help.
If only. I fear the T. stood her up or changed her mind abut working with her. Or maybe worse, I fear idiot pdoc did something else to her. And you know I'm usually the last one to be negative...but, my intuition is giving me funny, mixed signals. I know that's probably a meaningless description, but I can't do any better tonight. I just find it inconceivable alex would not have posted, or at least Babblemailed ONE person to share such great news if the T. was helpful.> But I'm still very worried.
I passed that about 4 days ago. I'm onto sick and terrified now. My CBT skills, usually firmly in place, are even being shaken by this.
> It seems like yesterday that I argued with her that the sudden disappearance of a regular poster was as distressing as suicidal posts. The knots in my stomach remind me.
My stomach, too. It just angers me, because this anxiety stuff won't do alex or me any good, no matter what's happened.
Was her position, in your discussion, that it's okay, or warranted under some circumstances, for a regular poster to disappear? Even that would give me something to latch onto.
I/we need something. <sigh>
Posted by Dinah on April 17, 2005, at 0:07:35
In reply to Re: Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob? » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on April 16, 2005, at 22:58:30
I tried to describe her position, but feel I'm not really doing it justice. It's an archive or two ago on Admin.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 17, 2005, at 1:21:24
In reply to Re: Hug to all of us, should I ask Dr. Bob? » 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on April 17, 2005, at 0:07:35
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 17, 2005, at 11:44:54
In reply to Re: Alex - Damos and » gardenergirl, posted by 10derHeart on April 15, 2005, at 21:59:36
> If either of you wonderful friends would, could, possibly, do any of the things you mentioned, anything....it would be better than where we are now. I think either of you could manage to NOT make her feel mortified, in case that becomes a problem.
>
> Which isn't my main worry, considering some of the alternatives. You guys are the best. I am overwhelmed, in a way, seeing, knowing how much caring there is when one of our own may be in trouble. Makes me feel very, very safe.Sorry I haven't been around. It's tough to be worried and not to know what's going on. I'm not sure what the best course of action is, but I don't think, based on what she's posted, that I should intervene myself. I agree, you guys are the best!
Bob
Posted by Larry Hoover on April 17, 2005, at 12:29:40
In reply to Re: Alex, posted by Dr. Bob on April 17, 2005, at 11:44:54
> Sorry I haven't been around. It's tough to be worried and not to know what's going on. I'm not sure what the best course of action is, but I don't think, based on what she's posted, that I should intervene myself. I agree, you guys are the best!
>
> BobI appreciate the feedback, Bob. It's now 6 days and 20 hours since I last spoke to her. Maybe I was the last one who did.....just a single word would ease the doubt.
Lar
Posted by Susan47 on April 17, 2005, at 13:36:02
In reply to Re: Alex » Dr. Bob, posted by Larry Hoover on April 17, 2005, at 12:29:40
Who lives in her country? Anybody? Isn't that NZ, is that you, Damos?
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