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Posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 18:22:48
Hi everyone. I recently got some Babblemail from someone who feels kind of alone, wondering if there were any gay babblers out there. I don't want to speak for any individuals, but said that I'm sure there are. I'm starting this thread so that we can have a place to identify as GLBTQ. Maybe then this person can see that there are actually some of us here.
Here goes.... I'm Dee. I'm transgendered.That's only a small part of who I am though. It's important, but only a very small part.
Dee
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 19:04:39
In reply to GLBTQ Babblers, posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 18:22:48
Well I consider myself heterosexual but I had a relationship with a female for 4 years. Never had a proper relationship with a guy. Maybe it is a small (but important) part of me too.
Posted by Shortelise on January 2, 2005, at 19:34:12
In reply to GLBTQ Babblers, posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 18:22:48
What does GLBTQ stand for?
ShortE
Posted by ghost on January 2, 2005, at 19:40:43
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by Shortelise on January 2, 2005, at 19:34:12
gay lesbian bisexual transgendered and questioning (or just plain "queer," depending on who you ask).
Posted by ghost on January 2, 2005, at 19:42:56
In reply to GLBTQ Babblers, posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 18:22:48
my sexuality is a big part of who i am. i've never really figured it out (kind of like i've never really figured out who i am besides the sexuality part)... essentially, i'm bisexual. i've been bi, gay, straight, and come back to bi (in no particular order). i think i'm here to stay, though. gender just doesnt matter to me.
ghost (much wordier than necessary.)
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 19:46:16
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by ghost on January 2, 2005, at 19:42:56
>gay lesbian bisexual transgendered and questioning (or just plain "queer," depending on who you ask).
Oh, thats good to know :-)
>gender just doesnt matter to me.
yes indeed, peoples are peoples - right?
Posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 20:49:21
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers » ghost, posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 19:46:16
Hello!
I sent Dee the babblemail in question :-)
I'm gay... I thought maybe I was the only one in babbleworld!
Ed.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 21:01:50
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 20:49:21
No way! First you are a boy and then you are gay! Ok now, I am joking. I have made many stuff ups and false assumptions about peoples gender on the boards so don't take it personal. I knew you were gay because I finally got a bit more up to date on the politics board.
Hello :-)
Posted by ghost on January 2, 2005, at 21:03:48
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 20:49:21
Posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 21:08:29
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers » ed_uk, posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 21:01:50
>I have made many stuff ups and false assumptions about peoples gender on the boards so don't take it personal.
Hi!!!!
Don't worry :-) I wasn't upset or anything!
Ed.
Posted by (-:alexandra_k:-) on January 2, 2005, at 21:09:58
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers » alexandra_k, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 21:08:29
I just never thought of ed as 'Ed'. thought of it as short for 'education' or something. Funny aye..
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:12:39
In reply to GLBTQ Babblers, posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 18:22:48
I'm TofuEmmy and I'm a bisexual. ("Hi Emmy!!")
Being bi is lonely and a pain in the neck. For instance, men always assumes this will lead to a 3-some...gggrrrr! I'm bi, not an acrobat.
I would much prefer to be a lesbian or straight woman. At least I'd have a party to go to, a dress code to follow, better T shirt sayings, bumper stickers,....etc.
emmy
Posted by deirdrehbrt on January 2, 2005, at 21:15:04
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers » alexandra_k, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 21:08:29
I hope that this proves to be a positive experience in your life. Babblers have always shown themselves to be people of the highest caliber and nothing if not kind. I'm glad if you have found the freedom to be open and honest now.
Dee
Posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2005, at 21:19:38
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:12:39
Just couldn't resist. :)
gg
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 21:22:09
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:12:39
Yeah I notice that there is a lot less stigma about lesbians or bi females than there is about guys. Mostly (I think) because straight guys tend to think 'threesome' - but by that they never seem to mean two guys :-)
Posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 21:29:07
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:12:39
To Alexandra...
My real name is Edward! Don't worry about your little mistake :-) It was a very little mistake.
To Dee...
Thank you for starting this thread, I think it was a good idea.
To Ghost...
Thank you for your welcome!
To TofuEmmy...
Being gay can be lonely too. I tend to like straight men- provided that they're nice of course! It can be very lonely to see them with their girlfriends/wives :-( Grrr!
Ed.
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:46:37
In reply to Hi Emmy » TofuEmmy, posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2005, at 21:19:38
GG - you are my favorite gooberhead.
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 22:16:36
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers... To a lot of people, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 21:29:07
Yes, being a gay male must be lonely. Guys face so much more stigma, at least here I know they do. I assume it's the same there.
And being attracted to straight guys! Jeepers, what a major dragolla. And perhaps you might have noticed it can be,...just a smidge...self- injurious? What heartache. Owie.
em
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 22:32:53
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers... To a lot of people » ed_uk, posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 22:16:36
Is it that you are attracted to people who are straight or that you are attracted to people who suitably fit the masculine / feminine stereotypes and it just happens to be the case that most of them are straight?
I just wonder because I know that personally I am more attracted to fairly feminine females (if I were to go there again). Not because they are straight, but it just happens that most of them are. Do you guys get me?
Posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 22:43:36
In reply to Attraction to straight people, posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 22:32:53
Hello!
I get you.
What I meant was that I tend not to be attracted to men who are excessively feminine. If I *was* sexually attracted to very feminine people then I'd be hetero!
Since most men are straight it's difficult *not* to be attracted to at least some of them.
Ed.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 22:50:11
In reply to Re: Attraction to straight people, posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 22:43:36
Yeah, ok. That was what I thought you meant.
That would be different than, say, constantly falling for people who were unavailable IN VIRTUE of their unavailability.
Just wanted to check that it was the former :-)
Posted by ed_uk on January 2, 2005, at 22:54:32
In reply to Re: Attraction to straight people » ed_uk, posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 22:50:11
Hello!
>Yeah, ok.
You didn't think I was being sarcastic did you? I was trying to make a joke- maybe it didn't sound right :-)
>That would be different than, say, constantly falling for people who were unavailable IN VIRTUE of their unavailability.
Well, I have been known to do that. I suppose unavailable people are safer in a way because I'm a bit scared of relationships.
Ed.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 2, 2005, at 23:14:14
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers, posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 21:12:39
You have more people to date :)
> I'm TofuEmmy and I'm a bisexual. ("Hi Emmy!!")
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> Being bi is lonely and a pain in the neck. For instance, men always assumes this will lead to a 3-some...gggrrrr! I'm bi, not an acrobat.
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> I would much prefer to be a lesbian or straight woman. At least I'd have a party to go to, a dress code to follow, better T shirt sayings, bumper stickers,....etc.
>
> emmy
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Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 2, 2005, at 23:15:13
In reply to Re: GLBTQ Babblers » Shortelise, posted by ghost on January 2, 2005, at 19:40:43
Wow I had no clue....thanks I was gonna skip this thread
> gay lesbian bisexual transgendered and questioning (or just plain "queer," depending on who you ask).
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 2, 2005, at 23:50:07
In reply to Attraction to straight people, posted by alexandra_k on January 2, 2005, at 22:32:53
I'm not sure if I was misunderstood. I was offering empathy to Ed in what I thought was his attraction to unattainable straight guys. I'm not romantically interested in straight women.
I think there is some differential to be made between...hmmm...picking terms at whim here...."attraction", and "romantic interest". I might find some young college coed attractive, but not in a million years would I consider her a romantic interest. The same can be said for the peer-aged straight women I meet. Many are attractive...but gratefully, I've never found any of them romantically interesting. No sparks. Phew.
When I have dated women, it was usually bi women cuz they "get me" better.
But by far, my longest relationships have been with men. Who knows what's next. (insert cliffhanger music here)
em
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