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Posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
Hello to my lovely babble friends (and strangers). I just wanted to share that I've had an ultrasound, and my baby is a girl. The technician seemed 100% certain. I'm very excited about this, because she will be the first girl in her generation in my family. My mom was really hoping for a girl. My mom loves to sew and it's been ages since she's had a little girl to sew for.
If she'd been a boy, I would be just as excited. I think it's just having a new piece of information about her that has me so pumped up. We also got a lovely ultrasound, where you can see her perfect little profile. She's so amazingly cute! She looks just like a baby! I don't know what I expected, but it seemed like a surprise. I've been working in therapy lately about my thoughts about motherhood, and they seem to be mostly about how motherhood is for other people and I will never be a mom. So maybe seeing a real baby in there is creating some cognitive dissonance with my deeply held notion that I would never be a mom.
I'm in my 6th month now, and still feeling great. My therapist remarked that maybe I should always be pregnant (heaven forbid!) because it seems to be making me so happy and stable. Yay! Not at all what I expected. I was sure that I'd be one of those crabby, weepy pregnant women, or even worse, go completely off the emotional deep end. But apparently that's not in the cards for me. I have also been sure that I'll have severe postpartum depression, considering my history with depression. But maybe I'm learning not to expect anything in particular.
Just wanted to update my old babble buddies, and new babble friends. Hugs to you all.
pegasus
Posted by smokeymadison on December 9, 2004, at 22:05:35
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
Congrats!!!
i am so happy for you. are you on any medications right now? i would love to have a baby, but i am on so many meds that it just isn't possible. not to mention my financial situation and the fact that i don't have my degree yet.
i worry too about postpartum depression should i become pregnant and have a baby. i really shouldn't, becuase looking back, all my major depressions started when something really bad happened or i was under a lot of stress. i suppose caring for a newborn would be a lot of stress, but i would welcome that kind, i think.
anyway, congrats again!!!
SM
Posted by saw on December 10, 2004, at 5:59:57
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
Hi Pegasus
My son turns 7 in just over a week. I could have been pregnant with him yesterday the years have gone so fast.
On two ultrasounds I had the most beautiful profile of my son's face and I remember how excited I felt. And how impatient! On the ultrasound where they figured out he was a boy, they drew little arrows in to show me the equipment. I've yet to figure it out.
I was always happy knowing I was having a boy. I was able to bond with him, give him a name, talk to him.
Have you decided on a name yet?
Now you can buy little pink things. What an exciting time for you.
Sabrina
Posted by alesta on December 10, 2004, at 11:33:09
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
hi pegasus!
it's a girl everybody!!!!! congratulations! :-)good to hear from you, peg, and i'm so glad you're doing so well! wow, that must be pretty neat seeing your first baby on an ultrasound for the first time. i'm *so* happy for you. keep us updated, girl!take care, :)
amy
Posted by Shortelise on December 10, 2004, at 13:26:46
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
bless those hormones!
And then you'll have a baby to love.
ShortE
Posted by Gabbix2 on December 10, 2004, at 17:29:52
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
Hi Pegasus! I'm so happy for you.
I understand what you mean about that feeling of well being, when I was pregnant (adoption situation) I was never more content, I loved it.
I suspect your holiday season is going to be a very very happy one.(((Pegasus)))
Posted by Dinah on December 11, 2004, at 0:12:34
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
That's terrific, Pegasus!
I had a great pregnancy myself. At nine months and big as a cow with swollen ankles, I still didn't want it to end. I felt much better than usual.
I have seen those new ultrasound pictures. So much better than what we had, just a while ago. :) What I really loved was when my son started moving inside me. It was a little weird seeing body parts bulging out of my enormous belly, but overall I loved it. It was not only reassuring, but I feel like I got to know him before he was born so that when he was born it was like meeting someone you know only by voice or printed word face to face for the first time.
Enjoy this time. It's a precious one.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 11, 2004, at 0:20:27
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
OMG I JUST SAW this how cool I am so happy for you..a girl...Do you know her name yet?????
> Hello to my lovely babble friends (and strangers). I just wanted to share that I've had an ultrasound, and my baby is a girl. The technician seemed 100% certain. I'm very excited about this, because she will be the first girl in her generation in my family. My mom was really hoping for a girl. My mom loves to sew and it's been ages since she's had a little girl to sew for.
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> If she'd been a boy, I would be just as excited. I think it's just having a new piece of information about her that has me so pumped up. We also got a lovely ultrasound, where you can see her perfect little profile. She's so amazingly cute! She looks just like a baby! I don't know what I expected, but it seemed like a surprise. I've been working in therapy lately about my thoughts about motherhood, and they seem to be mostly about how motherhood is for other people and I will never be a mom. So maybe seeing a real baby in there is creating some cognitive dissonance with my deeply held notion that I would never be a mom.
>
> I'm in my 6th month now, and still feeling great. My therapist remarked that maybe I should always be pregnant (heaven forbid!) because it seems to be making me so happy and stable. Yay! Not at all what I expected. I was sure that I'd be one of those crabby, weepy pregnant women, or even worse, go completely off the emotional deep end. But apparently that's not in the cards for me. I have also been sure that I'll have severe postpartum depression, considering my history with depression. But maybe I'm learning not to expect anything in particular.
>
> Just wanted to update my old babble buddies, and new babble friends. Hugs to you all.
>
> pegasus
>
>
Posted by Susan47 on December 11, 2004, at 22:01:41
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news » pegasus, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 11, 2004, at 0:20:27
Jonathan. Remember, Peg, no matter how positive the ultrasound tech may have been, it's not 100% ... it might be a girl, but it might not. Did I miss that you had an amnio? If so, I apologize for buttin' in ..
Posted by crushedout on December 12, 2004, at 0:53:12
In reply to more pregnancy news, posted by pegasus on December 9, 2004, at 12:31:24
wow. that's exciting. can i ask your age, pegasus? i just want to know if i still have time.
Posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:14:06
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news, posted by smokeymadison on December 9, 2004, at 22:05:35
Hi sm!
Yes, I'm on a couple of meds, but at the moment it's down to one SSRI and Synthroid. I figure that's the bare minimum I can get away with. And I'm feeling pretty good, but I'm under close supervision by a variety of doctors too. One thing I worry about is that as the pregnancy goes on, they say that sometimes women need to increase their dosages, because the blood volume increases. So, I'm a little worried that things might get bad later on, but so far so good.
Thanks for the congrats! I hope things work out for you so you can have a baby someday.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:16:36
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news, posted by saw on December 10, 2004, at 5:59:57
Hi saw,
Yes, I imagine it'll go fast. I'm just so looking forward to the whole experience, and loving every step of being pregnant (except morning sickness - that was awful).
For a name, we're thinking Solea Joy. We kinda made it up (actually it comes from an Ursula LeGuin novel). Pronounced So-Lay-a. A little weird, but not too much, I'm hoping.pegasus
Posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:20:11
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news, posted by Susan47 on December 11, 2004, at 22:01:41
Yeah, I've heard stories from a couple of folks who were sure they were having a girl, and it turned out to be a boy. I didn't have an amnio, so we don't really know for sure. Personally, I'm happy either way. It's fun thinking that she's a girl, though, just because we feel we know her a little better. I'll have another ultrasound in 10 weeks or so, so maybe we'll get another look.
Anyway, in the meantime, my mom's on cloud 9 thinking about having a granddaughter. So, even if it's wrong, it's fun to think we know for now.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:25:31
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news » pegasus, posted by crushedout on December 12, 2004, at 0:53:12
Hi crushed,
I'm 39. Which isn't too old at all, if you ask the doctors and everyone. But we had a terrible time trying to get pregnant. Well . . . I mean . . . it was *fun* and all . . . but it didn't work for a long time. I think some people have no trouble getting pregnant into their 40s, but for some people it gets harder earlier.
And then there's assisted reproduction. It is getting better all the time, but it's really expensive still. We had decided we wouldn't do in vitro, just because we couldn't afford it. At that point, we were going to adopt (which costs about the same, but you have a 100% chance of having a baby, instead of 20% or so). We were just waiting for my 40th birthday before we completely gave up. I guess we are squeaking in under the wire there.
Did you hear about that woman in her late 50s who recently became pregnant even though her tubes had been tied 30 years earlier? Hard to imagine how a person would feel about that one . . .
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:27:51
In reply to Re: more pregnancy news » pegasus, posted by alesta on December 10, 2004, at 11:33:09
I really appreciate your sharing my happiness with your positive words and stories. I may not be posting a lot anymore, but I really value my babble friends, cuz I know we're all thrilled when someone is doing well. Thanks much for being happy for me!
warm hugs
pegasus
Posted by alesta on December 13, 2004, at 13:39:26
In reply to Thx alesta, SE, Gabbix and Dinah!, posted by pegasus on December 12, 2004, at 18:27:51
oh, you're so welcome, hon.:) wish you the best, peg! :-) say hi to little baby peg when she gets here for me!((((((pegasus))))))
rake care,
amy
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