![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 8 of 8. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 16:31:24
Son decided he likes older women, says he makes chasing them a hobby of his (very immature boy here) and he creeps me out, last week my kids didn't have a key so he let them into my apartment and I don't want to move but he's making me feel like I have to, to be safe.
Posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 2:07:51
In reply to Building manager's, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 16:31:24
Gosh Susan, that does sound creepy. Is it necessary that he should have a key to your apartment? This is so illegal here. No supervisor or caretaker has this authority. I would feel completely freaked if I knew someone had access to my private domain. Chasing older woman a HOBBY??? Shudder!! Without moving, is there anything you can do?
Sabrina
Posted by just plain jane on November 10, 2004, at 17:48:28
In reply to Building manager's, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 16:31:24
Hey, There!
How about creeping him out worse?
I've found that when I allow my... ummmm....
psychological imbalances... yeah, that's what we'll call them...I've found that when I allow my psychological imbalances to guide my verbiage and behavior in certain situations, others involved somehow get the impression that I am "crazy". (rolling my eyes) Now, how anyone could possssibly infer that from me, well, I just cannot imagine.
In any case, yes, I'd say you need to take some sort of action. My suggestions: Keep a record of everything to do with this guy, send a note (keep a copy) to the father telling him what the son said and has done that makes you uncomfortable.
Buy and install a new lockset for your door, and don't tell anyone about it. Choose a time when it's most unlikely for anyone to see you working on it. Most of what you need to do can be done inside, with the door shut, anyway (the screws go in from the inside).
And please, summon up your best aggressive badass, squelch any victim feelings when he is around. (if you do or say anything scary to him make sure there are no witnesses) :0
just plain mean@ss jane
Posted by JenStar on November 10, 2004, at 20:00:32
In reply to Building manager's son » Susan47, posted by just plain jane on November 10, 2004, at 17:48:28
yes, this guy is scary. Did you sign a lease saying he has the right to enter the apt in cases of "emergency" or "maintenance"? Some places have clauses like that which unscrupulous people can abuse.
I like the new lock idea, and a strong warning to him in letter format (certified.) Hopefully he'll back off once he realizes you're serious about the no-interest-in-him...
good luck!
JenStar
Posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:46:29
In reply to Building manager's son » Susan47, posted by just plain jane on November 10, 2004, at 17:48:28
The father is as creepy as the son, it's actually the mother who's doing most of the building managing. I feel sorry for her but you're right, I think I CAN creep out the son by being *myself*.
Posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:48:54
In reply to Re: Building manager's son, posted by JenStar on November 10, 2004, at 20:00:32
Well, if I get a new lockset does that mean that if there's a fire in my unit when I'm away and they can't get in that my insurance will be null and void, or what? Anybody know? That's really my only concern. At this point, I wouldn't care if I were evicted, even.
Posted by just plain jane on November 11, 2004, at 11:49:30
In reply to Re: Building manager's son, posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:48:54
Suzyfortysevennnnn
Having a new lockset they don't have a key for... yeah, check it out in your lease if they are supposed to have a key, just so you know the answer, not as a deterrent to doing it if you want to.
More importantly, as you bring up, will it have an adverse effect on your renter's insurance coverage?
I dunno. I just did a real quick looksee o the net and found a link that may help a little. Were it me, I'd dig out my insurance policy and read it over. If still in question, call your agent and ask him flat out.
http://www.rentlaw.com/statuerentlaw.htm
Anyway, Susan47mydear, why, pray tell, if you don't care if they were to evict you, do you not just begin searching for another apartment or house to rent? just curious.
I have complete confidence in your ability to let yourself be free when it comes to dealing with these men who are creeping you out.
;\waiting for the next installment,
just plain nozy jane
Posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 22:34:26
In reply to new lock and renter's insurance » Susan47, posted by just plain jane on November 11, 2004, at 11:49:30
Um, I signed a lease that isn't up till 02/05 (moved in on Valentine's day, so funny).
If I break before then it costs me more than it's worth. I'm pissed with myself as I'm tired of living here but don't have the energy to leave. I want to live next to the water, where it's quiet and there's a lot of trees, too. I hate it here.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.