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Posted by Ivan Michael on May 19, 2004, at 10:41:24
i know that i can still write from school. my parents can't control me here. just letting everieone know, i am getting therapie, but not enough. i was on medicine, not aniemore. i hate my parents and don't feel bad saying it aniemore. i hate my brother too. he's the one who told them about this site. they don't like me having my own e-mail or sn or aniething because they don't trust me. i'll sneak a few more, but once summer comes i don't know. thanks for the love and hugs guys.
and it's an aim sn(twp als69. i'll try to get on that.
twpals69@hotmail.comi forget who said it, but you were right. i do not talk to my parents. i do not tell them aniething. my mom onlie found out about "ME" because of my journal and my g/f's mom. whenever i do try to talk they shoot me down and yell and don't even try to see my side.
sorrie if i scared some of you guys. i'll post again soon. after this week, i might not be able to.so much love. hugs all around.
Posted by spoc on May 19, 2004, at 11:27:42
In reply to i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 19, 2004, at 10:41:24
Hi Ivan, only have a sec, but wanted to say I'm so glad you might get a bit of a reprieve. (Hi by the way, we haven't 'spoken' yet!) I posted to you right before you had to disappear for awhile, so don't know if you saw it. It was on your "Everieone + Dr. Bob" thread here, about possible anger forums.
Wishing you all the best! Even with your anger and frustration at times, it's clear you are a creative, perceptive and sensitive person. :- )
Posted by TexasChic on May 19, 2004, at 14:47:47
In reply to Re: i got another chance, posted by spoc on May 19, 2004, at 11:27:42
I had completely intolerable parents growing up too. Between them and my depression, high school was a nightmare for me. But there's alot more help out there now than when I was in school (they didn't even have prozac then!). I hope you'll talk to your guidence counseler or another adult if your parents won't help you or actually hinder you from becoming a healthy, happy adult. Its your human right, but sometimes you have to fight for it. Don't give up!
Posted by fayeroe on May 19, 2004, at 15:27:40
In reply to i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 19, 2004, at 10:41:24
Hi, glad you got the chance to post again. We care for you and I second TC's suggestion about your talking to an adult that could help you. You will be surprised how many people will be willing to help when they found out what you're experiencing. Many hugs to you from me and all my beasties!! Pat
Posted by B2chica on May 20, 2004, at 12:04:02
In reply to i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 19, 2004, at 10:41:24
Anytime you need Hugs or support go to your nearest internet café and get here!
I'm sorry you don't feel you have support from your family but many of us understand and sympathize with you(ME DEFINATELY!)
-quick question, you said you're not getting enough therapy. 1)have you thought about going more often? say twice a week or so? and 2)maybe it's not the amount but the counselor him/herself? have you tried a couple different ones? one thing that really helped me out was when i read here most people mentioned that it takes (on the average) to go through 4 psychologist before you find a good match. Don't be afraid to "shop around". You need to find someone that gives you what you need.
Best of luck!
Love
B2c.
Posted by B2chica on May 20, 2004, at 16:58:01
In reply to i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 19, 2004, at 10:41:24
Forgot that i did want to comment about some of your feelings here. It took me a long time (too long) to realize this and maybe you can't really see it yet but keep in mind that...NO ONE can control the YOU inside. Your parents can legally control your actions, they can give you punishments and rewards for actions to assumably shape you, however, who you are is made up of more than just your interactions with your parents. You are You because of your emotions, because of your thoughts, because of your education/experiences all good and bad. So though i'm sure it feels like they are controlling your life -as they do have a hand in what seems like Everything right now, please NEVER forget that you will soon be legally in control of your actions, but for now you have free will just as we all do and you can think and believe whatever YOU want to.
You have struggles, and pain and love and joys that are your own and No can make those for you or take those away.-though one question, why did you stop the meds? were they not right for you? not working? or is that a decision someone else made for you? What do you think about getting off the meds-better/worse? Don't mind my nosiness, don't need to answer if don't want to.
>>i hate my parents and don't feel bad saying it aniemore.
You should NEVER feel bad for an emotion you have. God gave us our feelings and we have them for a reason. The important thing is to control how we act on those emotions, as well as to understand them. Why do we feel this way...etc.-I always worry that i'm not saying what i mean so i hope that if this is coming out really wrong that someone will chime in and say something.
I only mean for the best for you IvanM.
B2c.
Posted by Ivan Michael on May 21, 2004, at 10:47:30
In reply to Re: i got another chance » Ivan Michael, posted by B2chica on May 20, 2004, at 16:58:01
no, everiething is coming out right. i'll try to answer as manie of your questions as possible. i chose to stop my med's because they were making me worse if aniething and i feel better off of them. i never did like med's anieway. no my parents cannot legallie control me because i am 16 and at the age of 16 you considerred able to take responsibilitie for your actions and can move out. i have onlie been to one councelor, but i like him, i'm just not "overlie" honest with him. i onlie see him about once everie two weeks, but i'm busie anieway. i think you asked other questions but i gotta go. well i'll talk to ya later, hopefullie.
lotsa hugs, lotsa love
Ivan
Posted by B2chica on May 23, 2004, at 17:24:37
In reply to Re: i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 21, 2004, at 10:47:30
Posted by Mirror on May 24, 2004, at 1:35:40
In reply to Re: i got another chance, posted by Ivan Michael on May 21, 2004, at 10:47:30
Ivan i can tell what you feel if you scroll down it mentions how i dont have a great relationship with my dad or bro but listen on some level (only they know which one) they i think are trying to look out for you. your parrents probably think (i dont know how) that Psycho Babble (PB for short now i cant take it anymore) is a bad infulence. they probably think it hurts more then helps or its some sorta cult(even though both arent true) I mean this sounds so corny but they love you and want whats best even though NOONE can see what the heck they are thinking. Parents often are clueless. If you can explain it it may be differnt. Oh and by the way you might wanna change your name you know cause your parents have the site not to mention probably know what name you have so ya might wanna change it if your parrents are overprotective
Posted by Ivan Michael on May 24, 2004, at 14:28:57
In reply to Re: i got another chance, posted by Mirror on May 24, 2004, at 1:35:40
couple things 1) my brother is the one who told them about this site. 2) they called it evil even though they have no idea what it's about. 3) yes my parents are verie overprotective 4) THIS ISN'T MY REAL NAME it is a nickname of mine, that my parents do not know but i would never put my real name on a website. i don't trust people, AT ALL. i don't tell my g/f all my feelings, normallie cause i don't like them or don't want to upset her, i just told one of my best friends last night that i am bi (i've onlie known for 3months, i don't trust myself with knives, i don't even tell my counselor everiething. that is one of my problems, i don't open up to people, ever. you guys are some of the first. and i'm sorrie if i rambled or if it sounded like i'm upset. i do that a lot. well anieway, thanks for the ideas.
by the way, bunnies are evil and sexist, rabbits are evil traitors (most of them), and some types of squirrels are a government conspiracie. the others work for my friend. a kid told me that the clouds want to take over though?!?! how rediculous!!! clouds are harmless. i think this guy is a bit nuts. how bout you? i don't know if i told you this alreadie cause i have a short memorie. lol.
Posted by Noa on May 24, 2004, at 18:46:26
In reply to MIRROR / others who want more info on my problem, posted by Ivan Michael on May 24, 2004, at 14:28:57
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