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Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:32:07
In reply to RE:: jlynne, posted by mystic on April 3, 2004, at 22:23:50
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:33:36
In reply to RE::: Hello everyone/ butting in here mystic » sexylexy, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:28:14
Fallen . . . just curious . . . why do you stay with your husband??
...jlynne
Posted by mystic on April 3, 2004, at 22:34:56
In reply to Fallen, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:33:36
Fallen you are not on lex right now??..Mystic
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:37:18
In reply to Fallen, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:33:36
Jlynne an honest answer is CASH...terrible but honest and when that goes and its going fast...I may then be done with it all I hope..plus I have pets and nowhere to go to..No job the anxiety issues and all....pets ..if no pets I have people I could stay with but they are like my family ,...so like a dunce I stay
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:39:03
In reply to Re: Fallen, posted by mystic on April 3, 2004, at 22:34:56
No Mystic...just valium and Ambein for sleep...they work and no side effects
> Fallen you are not on lex right now??..Mystic
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:41:55
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:37:18
> when that goes and its going fast...I may then be done with it all I hope..
What can you do then (when the cash is gone) that you can't do now? Do you have a plan?
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:51:01
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:41:55
Well no..lol no plan.....I kinda think I will be forced to do whatever...and my pets are my main concern but ? ya know I dont have a clue ...loopy I know but....then again I am :)
> > when that goes and its going fast...I may then be done with it all I hope..
>
> What can you do then (when the cash is gone) that you can't do now? Do you have a plan?
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:57:31
In reply to Re: Fallen, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 22:51:01
When I left my first husband, I made a plan; it took me 9 mo's to carry it out, but I did it. I'm not saying that *MY* plan would work for you, but *A* plan might not be a bad idea. Plus, it would give you some goals, and something to look forward to, rather than something to dread every day.
Just a thought.
(((ideas))) (((support)))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:57:31
{{{ jlynne ))) thanks and I do have an ex husband but my life and situation now is different...I have no cash on my own and no job...dont think I can hold one right now....no place to go with all my pets so its stay till I have no other choice and we are so broke we lose all we have and then..whatever happens happens...What you said makes PERFECT SENSE it isnt workable for me...cause the only out is...a new dude with cash..or winning the lottery..or working THUS being WELL WITH NO ANXIETY AND FAST so I can work..I dont see any of that happening..sadly
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:19:57
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
Well, it sounds like you are working on a pretty important goal already - getting your anxiety under control, right?
How about this:
Goal #1: get anxiety under control
Goal #2: make a plan
There. Now you have a plan!
(((Here's to you!)))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:26:49
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:19:57
lol well..i guess that is a plan in a way...but I think the cash will wear out well before I am anxiety free
((( jlynne worry not youre very sweet)))
> Well, it sounds like you are working on a pretty important goal already - getting your anxiety under control, right?
>
> How about this:
>
> Goal #1: get anxiety under control
>
> Goal #2: make a plan
>
> There. Now you have a plan!
>
> (((Here's to you!)))
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:30:40
In reply to Re: Fallen, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:26:49
Are neither of you working?
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:34:12
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:30:40
If that were the case I'd be gone :) He works and makes a lot of bank...but we spend even more :)
> Are neither of you working?
Posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:34:12
Credit debt??
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
Lol yes lots and a house payment over $1000.00 wow just so much....and we like to spend..its our own fault ..I just took a shower :-) God I have been lazy today
> Credit debt??
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:04:35
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
. . . guess you've probably already heard any advice I might be able to give, huh?
So, what is going to happen . . . are you for sure going to lose your house?
I was forced to sell a house once - years ago when my kids were small. It turned out to be a good thing for me - got me out of the town I was living in (bad influences).
Gosh, that was a lifetime ago. My kids have kids now!
((((life))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:10:28
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:04:35
Oh no we are right on time with the payments but we are often tight and can get behind on some bills....but no in no threat at all yet...Just seems we cannot go forever in debt like this. Things will work out one way or another...PLEASE DONT WORRY LOL...I Am cool I just wish I was free...I was happier when I lived alone
So what are you up to tonight just hanging in here like me...gosh its been like 8 hours I wish they paid me to hang in here..I could move..hahahaha its a full day today..I feel bad I was soooooo lazy today...AND YOU??
> . . . guess you've probably already heard any advice I might be able to give, huh?
>
> So, what is going to happen . . . are you for sure going to lose your house?
>
> I was forced to sell a house once - years ago when my kids were small. It turned out to be a good thing for me - got me out of the town I was living in (bad influences).
>
> Gosh, that was a lifetime ago. My kids have kids now!
>
> ((((life))))
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:33:54
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:10:28
I prefer being single, too [now]. But this is the first time in my life I have ever lived alone; I always had the kids when I was single before. My husband left me last summer after 17yrs together - no warning, just a note on my chair when I came home from work. That is why the severe depression now, tho I have suffered from chronic depression most of my life.
We had a really nice day today; sunny and warm. I slept until noon, but still got a lot of work done in the yard and did some cleaning in my garage. [I refinanced the house and bought my husband's interest in it when we divorced]
I have a little pond in the back yard that I built myself, and I cleaned out the pump today so now the waterfall is running a lot faster. I also got my auto sprinkler system turned back on - that is a chore I hate, cuz I have to reach way down in a hole to turn the handle and it's really hard to turn. But I did it - 'cuz "I AM WOMAN!" . . . I'm going to make the hole bigger this summer.
I like working in the yard and around the house, remodeling and stuff. I am not ready to start dating again yet, so I just keep myself busy with things like that.
Sometimes it gets to me, though, like . . . who the @#?! cares if anything gets done?? It has been almost impossible for me to invite anyone to my home since my husband left - so I wonder who I am doing all this work for?? That's only on bad days, though, and the bad days don't come as close together as they used to.
Geez . . . you really got me started. It must be getting pretty late for you, huh? It's only 10:30 pm here. Don't forget Daylight Savings tonight:)
((((yawn))))
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:44:37
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 0:33:54
{{{{{{JLYNNE}}}}}}} Wow, I am glad you opened up for you and me cause I really didnt know your story at all I kinda ran into you on someone elses thread....and knew I liked you right off. I am so sorry on the husband ..what a horrible way to find out...Seems you have risen above it all..and you are very self-reliant ..I use to be I have lived alone a few times..one time I even had a home not just an apt...I AM a people p[erson but this man drags me down..if you ever read the psychology area you would see some reasons why...and I just dont care about him anymore. Your place sounds cool and you know, you do it for YOU..I hope anyhow....when I had my own place I had it all redone..for ME...and enjoyed it..I love to sleep late and wish I still had the peace of mind to do so without meds like I did before HIM..UGH
HUGS ..SOOM BED..I THINK :)
Posted by jlynne on April 4, 2004, at 1:04:47
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 4, 2004, at 0:44:37
Well, Fallen, I don't know how old you are, but I hope you find what you are looking for before you are my age. It is really hard to start over again now . . .
How long have you been treating for anxiety? Are you seeing improvement? (questions, questions)
If you read this tonight, you don't have to answer tonight - I know you need to go to bed:~)
Sleep well:~)
...jlynne
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:35:23
In reply to Trucker, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 21:35:38
yep! slept a long time
trucker
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> Catskills, eh? Isn't that where ole Rip lived??
>
> ...jlynne
>
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:44:46
In reply to Hey, Trucker, where'd you go?, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 22:04:12
i don't think so, allot of peaks between here and there
trucker
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> I went to a place called High Point in New Jersey a few years ago and stood at the top where I could see the three corners of New Jersey, Pennsylvania and New York. Do you suppose I could see the Catskill Mountains from there?
>
> ...jlynne
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 5:59:47
In reply to Re: Fallen » Fallen4myT, posted by jlynne on April 3, 2004, at 23:35:40
file bankruptcychapter 13
trucker///////////////////////////////////////////
> Credit debt??
Posted by trucker on April 4, 2004, at 6:03:45
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:56:01
chapter 13 you pay a percentage of your unsecured debt as low as 5% maybe. payments on things you are behind on go into a plan. and you make smaller payments chapter 7 is liquidation get rid of everything all debt. they can try and let you keep a car and the house if the judge lets ya...
trucker
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> Lol yes lots and a house payment over $1000.00 wow just so much....and we like to spend..its our own fault ..I just took a shower :-) God I have been lazy today
>
> > Credit debt??
>
>
Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2004, at 8:42:00
In reply to Re: Fallen » jlynne, posted by Fallen4myT on April 3, 2004, at 23:04:32
I'm kind of in the same place as you are, regarding work not husband. I don't like it. OK, I hate it. But I doubt my ability to find another job that fits my special emotional needs (how's that for saying one where my instability won't get me fired) and that will pay enough to go to therapy.
But every once in a while a still small voice asks if it isn't true that the majority of my anxiety is *caused* by my job, and if I found one that wasn't so stressful I wouldn't melt down so often or (heaven forbid) need as much therapy.
Could the same thing be true with your husband? That you wouldn't be so anxious and would be more able to work if you were away from a bad situation?
Of course, having that insight hasn't caused me to quit my job, and in fact I'm heading off there now. :(
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