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Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:37:25
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:37:55
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:38:28
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:38:54
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:39:25
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:39:49
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 21:43:36
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » Karen_kay, posted by EmmyS on March 24, 2004, at 21:18:51
You think you're discombobulated? Did you see All Done's post? (And my word of the day, btw...) At least you aren't posting 10 times in a row like she is.. When that begins to happen, then check back in... If you need to chat, let me know dear... take care. kk
Posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 21:44:07
In reply to individually (nm) » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:38:54
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:56:54
In reply to What's your deal, pickle? (nm) » All Done, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 21:44:07
I just wanted you to see my name posted a bunch of times in a row. I know how you like that.
To be honest, though, I actually find myself in the same, ahem, pickle when I get a lot of responses. (Why pickle, anyway?) Sometimes, especially if it's a tough issue or I'm having a tough time, I will do one group response. I think that's okay, but you did a wonderful job on Psychological. Even though you see your name a bunch of times in a row, I know everyone is as pleased as punch to get an individual response from you!
Didn't kid say he was making dinner for you tonight, anyway? Frozen pizza or something like that?
Posted by jlynne on March 24, 2004, at 23:03:35
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » jlynne, posted by EmmyS on March 24, 2004, at 20:35:37
> I think Bob would only redirect this if he opens a Cooking Board, and that is highly doubtful....although you never know.
Hi, Emmy.
[...um, er, uh ... I actually thought I was on the Babble board till right after I pushed the button to confirm:~o]
I've been skipping around waiting for my gang to change their topic - they're all talking about periods and PMS . . . and I'm all through with that, so I haven't had anything to input for awhile.
This seems to be a lively group, here!
About the tofu question - the sun-dried tomato sauce is good on ANYTHING.
((Smiles)) ...jlynne
Posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 23:09:49
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette, posted by jlynne on March 24, 2004, at 23:03:35
Hi, jylnne!
I just want to say welcome and it's nice to have you here!
Take care,
All Done
Posted by jlynne on March 24, 2004, at 23:28:52
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » jlynne, posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 23:09:49
> Hi, jylnne!
>
> I just want to say welcome and it's nice to have you here!
>
> Take care,
> All DoneThanks, AD. I don't know if I can keep up with you guys, though!
...jlynne
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 24, 2004, at 23:40:04
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Karen I did read your post and understand that you may end up repeating yourself BUT you asked for relies to your question. I just think its proper to reply to all OR make a genreral reply with NO NAMES CHECKED...By doing that you will avoid hurt feelings and that pesky repeating replies for YOU also. I have seen people post and add the previous posters names to 4 out of 5 replies and not reply or acknowledge the 1 poster as if they had not taken the same time the others did and that is rude *in my opinion*. I imagine if I were that person I would not like that..Think how you would feel if everyone from tomorrow on did not acknowledge your posts to them? Even when you change the subject line to get their attention? Face it, it would be hurtful. I make a point myself to answer all or wait and make a general statement to all NO NAMES CHECKED if I don't want to reply to all. Your a smart lady you can reword the same old same old OR not check names. I do not start many threads but if I did..I think I would avoid checking names to avoid this issue..Hope this helps.
Posted by Elle2021 on March 25, 2004, at 1:19:03
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Karen,
I don't think it's necessary to post a note to each specific person. Posting a general "thank you" seems to be sufficient to me. That is what I do. However, if someone has posted something that I want to discuss in depth, then I do post something to that person. I'm thankful for any and all advice I get. Another thing I want to mention is that sometimes I'm not in the best mental state to post anything at all. I hope that people understand I am still thankful, even when I forget or am unable to say so.
Elle
Posted by Karen_kay on March 25, 2004, at 23:01:21
In reply to Sweet not dill, right? » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:56:54
I'll stick with the plan to continue posting numerous replies in a row. My biggest problem is that I become easily distracted and tend to slide away from my orignal post rather quickly. Then I feel bad for not responding, and it appears I have no manners. Who me, no manners? What?
As for dinner.... Kid doesn't fix me dinner. We frequently skip dinner and head straight to the laundry room to tackle the pesky task at hand... Bet you didn't expect that one, did you? Ha! I'm full of surprises!
Posted by Karen_kay on March 25, 2004, at 23:05:11
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette, posted by jlynne on March 24, 2004, at 23:03:35
I must say, All Done's been called quite a few things in the past but lively sure isn't one of them. Stick with us for a while and I'm sure you'll learn a few tricks. But I must warn you, we rarely talk about PMS. I do think that All Done's already been through her cycle. I think she's around 123 years old. But she gripes like a teenager..... You seem to fit in fine, jsut keep throwing those cooking tips kid's way so he can fix me some grub...
Posted by Karen_kay on March 25, 2004, at 23:25:15
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette/ORIGINAL QUESTION » Karen_kay, posted by Fallen4myT on March 24, 2004, at 23:40:04
Now I understand. Thanks for explaining. Sometimes people have to say the exact same thing to me several different ways before I can understand what they are saying. As All Done requently says, I'm a bit slow at times. I've decided to just go ahead and tough it out. I just think my biggest problem is that I get easily distracted and tend to move on quickly. I like to jump around and then several days or weeks later see that I've neglected someone. I'll try to be better, promise! :)
Posted by Karen_kay on March 25, 2004, at 23:29:03
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » Karen_kay, posted by Elle2021 on March 25, 2004, at 1:19:03
But, usually I'm fortunate enough that my mental state is (knocking on wood so hard my knuckles are bleeding) well enough to continue posting. If by chance it isn't I don't think that I would post. Just read. And I'm certain no one takes offense when people don't reply back. We all know that sometimes others aren't always feeling well enough to post. That's why people like me butt in and try to fill in the gaps... Hope you don't mind.... But, do know that you are missed when you aren't feeling well. VERY MUCH MISSED!!!!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 26, 2004, at 0:07:27
In reply to Awww, now I see!!! » Fallen4myT, posted by Karen_kay on March 25, 2004, at 23:25:15
Cool cause I just wanted to be clear on what is hard on some people I know there is a whole thread restarted on feeling invisable (i STARTED IT WAY BACK) and this is a good way to avoid hurt feelings... I am glad I worded this better...now you won't clobber me lol :-)
Posted by gardenergirl on March 27, 2004, at 16:34:10
In reply to :) (nm) » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on March 24, 2004, at 21:39:49
Posted by spoc on March 29, 2004, at 0:53:07
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » Karen_kay, posted by Elle2021 on March 25, 2004, at 1:19:03
Hi,
Do you guys think it's more typical not to give/get individual thank yous/responses at the med board? I mean, in cases where a contribution was relatively short, e.g. "Me too -- I added 10 mgs. of XYZ at bedtime and it helped a lot." Thanking people always seems like the nice thing to do, but looking around (and participating) at that board, it seems there are less one-for-one *OR* blanket thanks-yous. Is that accurate? I'm still learning!! Oh, and THANKS IN ADVANCE to any and all responders! ;- )
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> Karen,
> I don't think it's necessary to post a note to each specific person. Posting a general "thank you" seems to be sufficient to me. That is what I do. However, if someone has posted something that I want to discuss in depth, then I do post something to that person. I'm thankful for any and all advice I get. Another thing I want to mention is that sometimes I'm not in the best mental state to post anything at all. I hope that people understand I am still thankful, even when I forget or am unable to say so.
> Elle
Posted by Karen_kay on March 29, 2004, at 8:36:02
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette: looser at med board?, posted by spoc on March 29, 2004, at 0:53:07
I had to reread that subject line, I thought it read "Loser at med board"...
Yes, I do agree that things are quite more laid back at the med board. Perhaps I'll post my nonsense there? I think it's not necessary to give thanks to each person on the med board, as you usually receive numerous replies. But, that's just my opinion. And I never claimed to know much, did I? That is why I asked about etiquette. On second thought, you should write each response a 3 page thank you note. Maybe not. A blanket thank you would work, or you could be like me and just read the responses. I never claimed to be polite either :)
Posted by spoc on March 29, 2004, at 10:06:13
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette: looser at med board? » spoc, posted by Karen_kay on March 29, 2004, at 8:36:02
> I had to reread that subject line, I thought it read "Loser at med board"...>
YES -- of approx. 12,000 registered members, I have identified one loser, and I had him cornered on the med board last night! I needed back up; where were you all?? ;- ) Actually I was tired when I wrote that, and later I also thought it looked funny!
> Yes, I do agree that things are quite more laid back at the med board. Perhaps I'll post my nonsense there? I think it's not necessary to give thanks to each person on the med board, as you usually receive numerous replies. But, that's just my opinion. And I never claimed to know much, did I? That is why I asked about etiquette. On second thought, you should write each response a 3 page thank you note. Maybe not. A blanket thank you would work, or you could be like me and just read the responses. I never claimed to be polite either :)
I guess ideally we develop some intuition about it, that everyone gets used to..? I have both posted and received short-ish responses on the med board and have noticed that it usually stops there. As long as I know it's a "systemic" pattern I won't worry about doing or receiving it. It's probably the intensive analyses that might warrant thank-yous; although we wouldn't want the previously un-thanked to pass a question by the next time... Oh, whatever!
And by the way, I would have merrily ignored your response if I hadn't have had things to add! (Well ok, I may have tried, only given the subject and opinion on it at hand! I do worry too much about this stuff sometimes! Especially as a newbie!) : )
Posted by lonelygirl on March 29, 2004, at 11:26:26
In reply to Babble Etiquette, posted by Karen_kay on March 24, 2004, at 18:12:31
Yeah, I know the dilemma. On the one hand, I feel really stupid about replying individually to each one, especially because sometimes I don't really have anything to say. Then I feel like I am monopolizing the boards or something, posting several times in a row. On the other hand, I know that when nobody responds to me, I feel kind of hurt. I try not to take it personally because I'm sure it's not meant that way, but sometimes it's hard not to, when it feels like the whole world is ignoring me. So then I feel bad if I reply to one person and I don't reply to someone else, because then I'm afraid the person to whom I don't respond is going to feel left out. Also, I have a hard time, just mentally, replying to certain things, like when people try to say that there is something good about me, so sometimes I do not reply at all. I feel bad about how people are just trying to be nice to me and I am not even replying to it, but sometimes I just can't.
Posted by noa on March 29, 2004, at 11:40:45
In reply to Re: Babble Etiquette » Karen_kay, posted by lonelygirl on March 29, 2004, at 11:26:26
I don't feel it's necessary to always thank everyone. First of all, the boards usually move too fast to do so. I might log on again, and the board has already turned over so I won't see the posts anymore. If something is super important to me, I might go look for it in the archives, but rarely. If I felt really thankful, I would thank people who responded, maybe individually, maybe one group thank you. But I haven't seen it as something that is necessary all the time.
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