![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 11 of 11. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 10:56:07
OK, just a quick poll of opinions here...
I recently had a very pleasant naughty dream about a co-worker that I have worked well with for probably 2 years. I have no intention to make it happen in reality, although if things were a lot different in my life and his, I could get used to the idea. It hasn't really caused me any problems- I don't picture him naked when I see him, I can still talk to him fine. I just have a dirty little secret- and it WILL remain secret!!
My question is this- what makes us have these naughty dreams about people? I think I have read that dream-sex symbolizes closeness in a relationship-is that Freud?
Maybe this should be on PPB?? Anyhow, has anybody else had delicious dreams about co- workers or friends' husbands/wives- inappropriate partners??Ya'll have a good day!! MAL
Posted by jyl on November 11, 2002, at 11:18:53
In reply to naughty dreams, posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 10:56:07
sometimes when i have a sex dream about someone i am not attracted to (or never gave a second thought about)-the next day i get all shy and nervous like it really happened!
jyl
Posted by Miller on November 11, 2002, at 12:04:26
In reply to naughty dreams, posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 10:56:07
I am telling you, I am probably the dirtiest person I know!! I always look at people and think of how he would be in bed. If my poor shrink only knew!!
I think I read somewhere that an actual dream of sex could me your potential closeness or of the closeness you may be lacking in your life.
Anyway, don't think you are defective. Remember, I think about it A LOT!!!
Posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 13:11:28
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by Miller on November 11, 2002, at 12:04:26
Thanks, jyl and Miller, for your replies.
I don't think there is anything wrong with me, I was just curious how many other people have dreams about sex with completely inappropriate partners. I have been married for 7 years and this is the first time I have really *liked* having a naughty dream about someone other than my husband. Right now, I can't remember another time I have had a dream about anyone else since we married. In fact, I usually can't recall any dreams at all.
One thing that might have caused this is that my (ahem) appetite has really increassed in these last couple of months. I get as much as usual at home, but our sexlife hasn't kept up with my mind.
I think it was Tabitha who began a discussion last month or so about being asexual, or solosexual. She made the point that women want to feel desirable, and I agree. Since I have been with the same person for so long, and my engine is revving up, I sometimes don't feel like I am sexy to him, just convenient when he wants. I guess I was feeling that way when this dream hit me. ;)
SO anybody else dream about coworkers?
MAL
Posted by BeardedLady on November 11, 2002, at 13:58:29
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 13:11:28
I had dreams about my old college pal. When he was about to get married, I had a couple sex dreams about him. They stopped after he got married but happened again after his wife was pregnant.
I had a crush on him once long before I met my husband, and then after I got together with my husband, my friend decided he was in love with me. Both of those phases passed, and now there isn't a bit of real-life physical attraction (at least on my part), so I can't explain the dreams.
I have sex dreams once in awhile about people I know, but their faces aren't usually in the dreams!
And about feeling attractive, my husband ALWAYS wants sex, and he always makes me feel sexy. But I feel sexier when I know that OTHER people think I'm attractive. Know what I mean? Sure, it's great to have a husband who still desires you after twenty years, but there's something about feeling that he's not the only one attracted to you that makes you feel better.
I feel a little uncomfortable saying that. I am certainly grateful for what I have.
beardy
Posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 14:24:22
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by BeardedLady on November 11, 2002, at 13:58:29
I know exactly what you mean. I felt bad mentioning that I don't always feel sexy with my husband, because I am grateful, too. He is wonderful (and terriffic ;)- but sometimes it would be nice to think someone else wanted me too. I think that is it more concisely than what I had said before...
Thanks, Beardy...
MAL
Posted by NikkiT2 on November 11, 2002, at 15:10:33
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by BeardedLady on November 11, 2002, at 13:58:29
I have naughty dreams all the time!!! Often about co-workers when i was still working (and both sexes!!!) and would blush and want to die in their presence the next day.
I feel terribly guilty about them.. my husband isn't able to have sex at the moment (or previous 18 months)... and has pulled away from all sexual contact since... So I always feel like I;m betraying him by having these dreams...
But I tend to enjoy them at the time!! *lol*
nikki
Posted by wharfrat on November 11, 2002, at 15:53:07
In reply to naughty dreams, posted by Mal on November 11, 2002, at 10:56:07
Naughty!!, Naughty!! So now I know what women think about. I thought it was just us guys. I've had occasional dreams about other women I know and office workers as well, but in 17 years of marriage I can honestly say I remember maybe 3 dreams about my wife. She has dreams about me quite often, I know because she tells me. The weird part though is when she acts snooty to me in the morning and I ask her whats wrong, on several occasions she says she's upset with me because of a dream she had about me. Like "In my dream I came home & you were in the shower with 2 girls!!
Wish I could have her dreams.
Posted by BeardedLady on November 11, 2002, at 19:35:53
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by wharfrat on November 11, 2002, at 15:53:07
My husband insists that all of his sex dreams are about me. He says he can't even dream about other women. He has the guilt thing down, eh?
beardy
Posted by MAL on November 11, 2002, at 20:48:02
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by wharfrat on November 11, 2002, at 15:53:07
That is so funny! Although I don't remember details right now, I do remember that I have had upsetting dreams about my husband cheating, and I woke kind of mad at him. I think I reminded myself it was just a dream and decided not to mention it...
Have a good evening!! MAL
Posted by Dr~Eamerz on November 11, 2002, at 22:54:58
In reply to Re: naughty dreams, posted by Miller on November 11, 2002, at 12:04:26
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.