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Posted by Bobby on July 31, 2002, at 23:35:19
Do you ever wonder if you'll be missed? I mean i know that some day we will all go our separate ways and try to forge a new life. But for now everything is nicely suspended in this safe screen. It's like if i can squeeze one more message out--everything will be o.k. even if it's only for the moment. It's been a pleasent distraction so far. I know that i only talk to Gabbi but i feel as if i know more of you. Right Gabbi? anyway, i don't know exactly what I'm trying to say except that i don't want to fade away but sometimes i feel as though i'm losing my grip and that i will only be a memory here. just in case, I will never forget this neverland. ---not gone yet.........
Posted by Ted on July 31, 2002, at 23:57:27
In reply to Last Dance, posted by Bobby on July 31, 2002, at 23:35:19
> Do you ever wonder if you'll be missed?
Maybe it's just me and my insecurities, but I really don't think anyone would either miss me or even notice I was gone.
Ted
Posted by SandraDee on August 1, 2002, at 0:01:42
In reply to Re: Last Dance » Bobby, posted by Ted on July 31, 2002, at 23:57:27
I keep scrapbooks. One reason is because I like to do it, and look back on them. Another reason is that it gives me a hope that someone will remember me, even if it's only as the "woman who loved pictures". So, if you see that on a tombstone, now you'll wonder... hmmm. :)
Posted by Bobby on August 1, 2002, at 0:14:35
In reply to Re: Last Dance » Bobby, posted by Ted on July 31, 2002, at 23:57:27
I will remember Ted--you are like the only other guy on here. Maybe it's a guy/ego thing to wnat to leave something behind. Of couse I will forever associate you with mangoes! I can think of worse!
Posted by shar on August 1, 2002, at 0:57:59
In reply to Last Dance, posted by Bobby on July 31, 2002, at 23:35:19
Bobby,
After reading this, I will remember you. It made me cry.
Shar
> Do you ever wonder if you'll be missed? I mean i know that some day we will all go our separate ways and try to forge a new life. But for now everything is nicely suspended in this safe screen. It's like if i can squeeze one more message out--everything will be o.k. even if it's only for the moment. It's been a pleasent distraction so far. I know that i only talk to Gabbi but i feel as if i know more of you. Right Gabbi? anyway, i don't know exactly what I'm trying to say except that i don't want to fade away but sometimes i feel as though i'm losing my grip and that i will only be a memory here. just in case, I will never forget this neverland. ---not gone yet.........
Posted by Willow on August 1, 2002, at 1:00:48
In reply to Last Dance, posted by Bobby on July 31, 2002, at 23:35:19
I have found my cyber friendships to be helpful for me to put things in perspective, but as I get stronger I find less of a need to visit the board. Perhaps "real" friendships start to replace the ones on the board? Hmmm...
Another thought is that as the friends that we get exceptionally close to start to fade from the board it becomes like a favourite hangout with memories but our friends have moved on so it quite doesn't have the same atomosphere anymore?
Who knows?
Whispering Willow
Posted by Tabi T. Ha :-) on August 1, 2002, at 1:07:37
In reply to Re: Last Dance, posted by Willow on August 1, 2002, at 1:00:48
Posted by Gabbi on August 1, 2002, at 16:27:13
In reply to Bobby and Ted I would miss both you guys (nm), posted by Tabi T. Ha :-) on August 1, 2002, at 1:07:37
I would never want to hurt anyones feelings, but neither would I give phony compliments.
Ted, I noticed your posts right away, even though we don't "chat" back and forth often, I've read your responses to other people and have been intrigued that though you have the same keyboard as the rest of us; somehow your warmth and wit shine through, and your :) manage to wink.
I had thought that before I saw your latest post and had wanted to mention it, but then you know its that damn depression insecurity, I'd think
"Well why would Ted care what I think of his writing" Its such a catch 22.
I would really miss your posts, and notice your absence, after all the ones that weren't directed to me were the first I admired.Bobby,
How could I not miss someone who stays up to tell me dirty jokes when I feel like I'm in hell.
You've been around a pretty short period of time, and you haven't done much "asking" for yourself, but have shown an interest in other people which is wonderful, and so appreciated, its unfortunate though, but if there is another post where someone is pleading for help, its easy to read yours and smile, but on a busy or lethargic day, save responses for the urgent messages.
Its hard to see the need behind the "bravado" because you do a pretty good job of hiding it. Completely unintentionally you end up feeling insignificant when that is so not true.
I think that happens to a lot of people, not just here.I would definately miss you and your posts, not just the ones that have helped me out, I really enjoyed the Geek-Versus jock, your conversation about color with Sandra Dee.
I meant several times to mention it, but my attention was always drawn elsewhere by a plea. Its unfortunate that type is type, very limiting, and its so hard to convey the emotion or exhaustion that both the Post-er and the responder feel I think that sometimes makes it easy to misinterpret a short or not all-encompassing response.
And one more thing.... I've wanted to respond to some people and then thought well who am I to say anything, how do I know they care what I think? the insecurity unfortunately goes both ways.Stay!
(orders from Princess Gabbalot)
Posted by Gabbi on August 1, 2002, at 16:37:37
In reply to Re: Bobby and Ted , posted by Gabbi on August 1, 2002, at 16:27:13
A blessing I don't believe people care what I think all the time.... Imagine how often I'd be posting then:)
That was not a plea for reassurance honest.
Just a self aware comment
Posted by Ted on August 1, 2002, at 22:38:40
In reply to Re: Last Dance, posted by Willow on August 1, 2002, at 1:00:48
Willow,
> I have found my cyber friendships to be helpful
You know, I often like cyber friendships better than regular ones. If I'm depressed and don't feel like communicating, I just don't read my email. Also, I find I can talk and share thoughts and feelings better in writing and with the anonymity that the internet provides. In fact, I often feel safer with cyber friends than with my therapist, perhaps because I don't have to face them when I 'talk'.
So, I hang out and see what happens....
Ted
Posted by Ted on August 1, 2002, at 22:44:39
In reply to Re: Bobby and Ted , posted by Gabbi on August 1, 2002, at 16:27:13
Bobby & Tabbi & Gabbilicious,
Thanks for the kind words :-)
"Mango" Ted
~~ Fruit Erotica Author Extraordinaire ~~(I can probably do fruit porn too, but Dr. Bob would certainly evict me for it. ;-} )
Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2002, at 22:58:15
In reply to Re: Bobby and Ted » Gabbi, posted by Ted on August 1, 2002, at 22:44:39
> Bobby & Tabbi & Gabbilicious,
>
> Thanks for the kind words :-)
>
> "Mango" Ted
> ~~ Fruit Erotica Author Extraordinaire ~~
>
> (I can probably do fruit porn too, but Dr. Bob would certainly evict me for it. ;-} )
>Ted, I must say that I will never forget you and your gift for fruit erotica. And neither will my husband. (He sends his kindest regards and many thanks.)
Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2002, at 23:04:29
In reply to Cyber friendships » Willow, posted by Ted on August 1, 2002, at 22:38:40
I feel the same way, Ted. Well, not about my therapist. I feel safer with him than anyone. But I definitely find friendships easier in this medium. It seems to be more in line with my capabilities. And I do see you guys as "real" people.
But I guess there is a difference. People come and go here a lot more than in real life, in my real life anyway. My friends are ones I've had since high school, grammar school even. So maybe this place is helping me learn to deal with loss in a way that I generally don't have to in real life.
Gosh. This started out being a positive post, but now I feel downright melancholy.
Dinah
Posted by Ted on August 2, 2002, at 12:16:47
In reply to Re: Bobby and Ted, posted by Dinah on August 1, 2002, at 22:58:15
Hi Dinah,
> Ted, I must say that I will never forget you and your gift for fruit erotica. And neither will my husband. (He sends his kindest regards and many thanks.)
Thanks! My wife thinks I am just weird and perverted. OK, just perverted. :-)
Ted
(BTW: I wrote some real (human) erotica years ago that my wife actually liked. If you (or your husband!) are interested, let me know and I will look for it).
Posted by Dinah on August 2, 2002, at 20:02:00
In reply to Fruit erotica » Dinah, posted by Ted on August 2, 2002, at 12:16:47
Thanks for the offer, Ted. But I think fruit erotica may be all that my husband and I can, er, handle. :)
Dinah
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