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Posted by Marie416 on May 20, 2002, at 15:08:57
Problem:
I have been with boyfriend for over a year, love him very much. Never had a problem before with the kissing. Meds killed sex drive most often, but even now with being on Wellbutrin alone I don't feel the desire. And now, over the last few days I don' t even feel like kissing. He wants to kiss me but I can't deal with the wet kisses. It's like I get annoyed by all the kisses lately. NO DESIRE. I am always feeling tired, rundown and sick. Going for another blood test tomorrow that will probably come back normal. I don't know if that makes me happy or sad. What is this me,relationship or medication? Any advice. Anyone ever experience this?
Posted by Manda on May 20, 2002, at 16:40:17
In reply to no kissing?, posted by Marie416 on May 20, 2002, at 15:08:57
I understand completely. Due to feelings like those which you expressed (plus some other issues), I have not kissed my boyfriend of 8 months!!
-Manda
Posted by SusanG on May 20, 2002, at 17:01:07
In reply to no kissing?, posted by Marie416 on May 20, 2002, at 15:08:57
To me, kissing, the deep passionate kind, is an extremely intimate act, more so than a lot of other ways we express our love and affection. Maybe this is hard for you to express at this time with your desire so low. I don't really have much advice to offer other than to encourage you to continue working with your doctor on this and keep communication open with your boyfriend. I wish you the best.
Posted by BeARdEdLaDY on May 20, 2002, at 17:44:45
In reply to Re: no kissing?, posted by SusanG on May 20, 2002, at 17:01:07
I have been married for eight years and living with my husband for almost twenty. My sex drive is low (we have sex about once a week), and kissing sometimes bothers me terribly. I am on Serzone and have terrific orgasms, and it's not supposed to affect sexual desire, so I just assumed it was just "same ol', same ol'" syndrome.
beardy : )>
Posted by KB on May 20, 2002, at 21:23:12
In reply to Re: no kissing?, posted by BeARdEdLaDY on May 20, 2002, at 17:44:45
Is your mouth dry? I have difficulty with kissing because of a dry mouth caused by Lupus - meds can also cause this. There are ways to manage dry mouth so tell your dr. if you have one.
Posted by Marie416 on May 21, 2002, at 13:37:25
In reply to Re: no kissing?, posted by KB on May 20, 2002, at 21:23:12
Thankyou all for responding. Yes to the partially dry mouth. This started with the beginnings of the meds. And every one has done the same. Kissing is very intimate, more intimate I think than even sex. I can only handle sex once a week and I haven't been married for X amount of years. That's scary. I have a pretty open relationship with the boyfriend. I have not however mentioned the lack of desire for kissing. I just can't do it right now, poor guy, he's been through so much already with me. I can kiss him on forehead, cheek, hands,lips but not the passionate kissing. Once and a while I feel it but not often. It's soooo frustrating to think of how I used to respond and how I respond now.
Posted by Marie416 on May 21, 2002, at 13:42:53
In reply to Re: no kissing?, posted by KB on May 20, 2002, at 21:23:12
Hi,
Can you tell me anything about how doctors handle a dry mouth?
Also, is lupus detected by blood test. I had blood tests taken today, again. This time I asked for cortisol levels checked. There has to be something wrong with something because I get very irritable, shaky when hungry and light headed. Certain carbohydrate meals or sugary meals can leave me feeling soooo irritable, shaky and dry mouth like a half hour after eating. Why can't these doctors find anything. I think my next trip will have to be to a food allergist of some kind.
Posted by SandraDee on May 21, 2002, at 16:19:02
In reply to KB- question for you and anyone else, posted by Marie416 on May 21, 2002, at 13:42:53
I posted in response to your original message, and I do not know what happened to it! :( Anyhow, I do not want to scare you, but have you had a pregnancy test? Could that be a possibility at all? I thought I was going CRAZY before I found out I was pregnant with my first child. (And, long-story-short, I had a difficult time getting pregnant so I didn't think I was!) I was having blood tests ran anyhow for a physical (to find out what was wrong with me) and there it was.... Anyhow, if you didn't get tested for that today, you might want to pick up an EPT. JUST a thought... hope I don't offend or scare anyone!
> Hi,
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> Can you tell me anything about how doctors handle a dry mouth?
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> Also, is lupus detected by blood test. I had blood tests taken today, again. This time I asked for cortisol levels checked. There has to be something wrong with something because I get very irritable, shaky when hungry and light headed. Certain carbohydrate meals or sugary meals can leave me feeling soooo irritable, shaky and dry mouth like a half hour after eating. Why can't these doctors find anything. I think my next trip will have to be to a food allergist of some kind.
Posted by KB on May 21, 2002, at 23:04:05
In reply to Re: KB- question for you and anyone else » Marie416, posted by SandraDee on May 21, 2002, at 16:19:02
1) There are "artificial saliva" products available. Also a drug - that I am about to start - pilocarpine, which stimulates the salivary gland. It can have side effects, but I will let you know how it goes.
2) Lupus is partly diagnosed by a blood test, the ANA (anti-nuclear antibody) - but since a positive ANA can mean other things, the ANA is combined with symptoms to form the diagnosis. Symptoms can be severe fatigue, joint swelling and pain, strange rashes esp. on the face and/or in response to sun exposure, hair loss, chest pain - Lupus symptoms tend to come and go and are si,ilar to many other things, so diagnosis can be tricky. Anyone with a positive ANA should be seen by a rheumatologist.
3) The symptoms you describe sound like blood sugar problems - have you had a glucose tolerance test? It's icky -you have to drink a lot of very sweet stuff - but it might give you some answers.
Posted by Marie416 on May 22, 2002, at 13:42:21
In reply to answer, posted by KB on May 21, 2002, at 23:04:05
No, not pregnant but thanks for the info. I will ask about getting the glucose tolerance test. Didn't even know they had that. Let me know how the salivary drug works for ya.
Posted by SandraDee on May 22, 2002, at 14:51:02
In reply to Re: answer, posted by Marie416 on May 22, 2002, at 13:42:21
If you take that glucose test, try the lemon lime flavored drink, it's like an extra sweet mountain dew, better than the other flavors... (The sugar test is one ya gotta take when yer pregnant - so I remember that lemon lime was the better one.)
> No, not pregnant but thanks for the info. I will ask about getting the glucose tolerance test. Didn't even know they had that. Let me know how the salivary drug works for ya.
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