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Posted by Greg on April 15, 2002, at 17:28:23
Just wanted to let you know that we talked to my therapist who referred us to a psychologist friend of his who specializes in working with teenagers. Her first appt is next Wednesday. She is looking forward to it and has been asking me lots of questions, I *think* that's a good sign.
Susan, I wanted to thank you for the offer to help me find someone, that was extremely generous of you to offer your time like that. I really appreciate it.
I also wanted to apologize to anyone that I may have offended for starting the conversation about this in the thread that I did. I meant no disrespect, but my emotions both about Sar and about my daughter kind of took me over and I just spoke my mind. I hope everyone will forgive me if you feel I was out of line.
Posted by SusanG on April 15, 2002, at 18:01:37
In reply to IsoM, SusanG, Mouse, posted by Greg on April 15, 2002, at 17:28:23
I'm so glad to hear things are progressing in a positive direction, Phil. Give your daughter an extra hug from all of us.
Posted by IsoM on April 15, 2002, at 21:04:31
In reply to IsoM, SusanG, Mouse, posted by Greg on April 15, 2002, at 17:28:23
Greg, there's nothing to apologise about - you did nothing wrong or said nothing even slightly offensive. All our hopes are tied in with our children - they're a continuation of our own heart-cords. I'm so glad your daughter is looking forward to the appointment - that IS a good sign. Girls tend to be more willing to open up & discuss things. My son, unfortunately, will discuss nothing with anyone. Sometimes after we've sat together & talked for a few hours, he'll open to me but I don't get to see him much anymore.
There may be setbacks, here & there, but don't give up. The churn of hormones that kids go through entering adult life had much to do with mixed & unsettled feelings - just look at the other end of the spectrum when women go through menopause to understand (just don't let your daughter know - she'll probably be embarassed over the idea). Keep us updated from time to time, or if anything new comes up. We really do care.
Posted by Willow on April 16, 2002, at 8:06:51
In reply to Re: IsoM, SusanG, Mouse » Greg, posted by IsoM on April 15, 2002, at 21:04:31
I hope you didn't think that I was ignoring you. I had good intentions of emailing you, but I was in the process of making a good glass of whine for myself. The contents of the vine are a blend or prescription drugs and some mental instability, and a dash of real life to add that original taste to it.
Your original post touched me dearly, as a parent and as a child of a parent with a mental illness. As you may know, when I was around her age I had a trip to the hospital, so I really understand your fear. But I had never spoke about my dark feelings to anyone. Your daughter speaking to you means that you have a healthy relationship! And you are doing all the right things.
My eldest though younger then yours has seen a psychologist for her anxiety. Once passing the office she said to a friend she likes the doctor there (she has a phobia about doctors - breaks out in a sweat, tears, an anxiety attack at the mention of needing to see one) because she gets to talk about herself.
So in my opinion you are doing all the right things. Wish I was able to give you assurance and a real hug at the moment that it happened.
And as for threads, this place is like the smoking section, no set rules on the timing of what we say. Give my best to your pal Cam, apparently he got a dumping of snow, a whole foot of it. Tell him I was "blowing" real hard and it must have worked because it's sunny and warm here, temps around 20+c (70F.)
Little Willow
ps yesterday was t-shirt temperature. i stood on top of my last snowpile breaking it up enjoying the cool it offered and wondering if it was too early for all the snow to melt, as i enjoyed the clean aroma of it
Posted by Krazy Kat on April 16, 2002, at 8:35:01
In reply to IsoM, SusanG, Mouse, posted by Greg on April 15, 2002, at 17:28:23
you are. i wish my dad had been more like you. :)
- kk
Posted by Greg on April 17, 2002, at 14:50:19
In reply to Dearest Greg ..., posted by Willow on April 16, 2002, at 8:06:51
No, I didn't think you were ignoring me. You make your own homemade whine too? Maybe someday we can get together and compare recipes :)
My daughter has always talked to me pretty openly about most things, more loudly at times than others if you know what I mean. But what I found the most distressing about this was one, she thought I would be ashamed of her, and two, she didn't think I would understand. I asked her if she was ashamed of me for having depression, and she said no. And I said "well?" I told her that she's done things that I didn't approve of, but that I've never been ashamed of her. And then we talked a long time about my understanding her depression. I told her who better to understand the feeling of depression than someone who has it? I know I don't understand what her individual issues are, but I do understand her feeling of not being able to cope, of feeling helpless and hopeless and I've been thru times where death was preferable to life. It seemed to make her feel better to hear that. She has come to me a lot with questions in the last few days. Some have been very hard to answer, but I'm doing my best.
I will tell Cam that you personally ordered the snow just for him :) I'm sure he will be full of gratitude (among other things). Are you sure you want me to tell him that you were "blowing" real hard... You know how he is.
Greg
> I hope you didn't think that I was ignoring you. I had good intentions of emailing you, but I was in the process of making a good glass of whine for myself. The contents of the vine are a blend or prescription drugs and some mental instability, and a dash of real life to add that original taste to it.
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> Your original post touched me dearly, as a parent and as a child of a parent with a mental illness. As you may know, when I was around her age I had a trip to the hospital, so I really understand your fear. But I had never spoke about my dark feelings to anyone. Your daughter speaking to you means that you have a healthy relationship! And you are doing all the right things.
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> My eldest though younger then yours has seen a psychologist for her anxiety. Once passing the office she said to a friend she likes the doctor there (she has a phobia about doctors - breaks out in a sweat, tears, an anxiety attack at the mention of needing to see one) because she gets to talk about herself.
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> So in my opinion you are doing all the right things. Wish I was able to give you assurance and a real hug at the moment that it happened.
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> And as for threads, this place is like the smoking section, no set rules on the timing of what we say. Give my best to your pal Cam, apparently he got a dumping of snow, a whole foot of it. Tell him I was "blowing" real hard and it must have worked because it's sunny and warm here, temps around 20+c (70F.)
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> Little Willow
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> ps yesterday was t-shirt temperature. i stood on top of my last snowpile breaking it up enjoying the cool it offered and wondering if it was too early for all the snow to melt, as i enjoyed the clean aroma of it
Posted by Greg on April 17, 2002, at 14:53:32
In reply to greg: what a concerned and open father..., posted by Krazy Kat on April 16, 2002, at 8:35:01
kk,
Thanks. That really means a lot. There's a lot of work to be done and I hope I'm up to the task. I really don't want to let her down again.
I hope you're doing OK. I know it's been a very rough time for you. Got you in my thoughts.
Greg
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