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Posted by kellyR. on January 15, 2001, at 18:32:01
I at my end w/ this depression & ask my husband in I could go in the hospital before I kill myself he said if I want to go it's ok w/ him, but that was yesterday & now he keeps telling me I'll get though it guess hang on & you'll feel better soon,My be it would be better if I would just go away & die then maybe he would beleive me.
Posted by phillybob on January 15, 2001, at 19:19:02
In reply to husband doesn't want me to go , posted by kellyR. on January 15, 2001, at 18:32:01
Kelly, please do what you need to do to live and get better so that you might actually be able to be there for your husband in the future. He might not understand now, but if you don't do what you need to do to get better (go to the hospital) now, he will understand when it is too late! Look in a phone book and call a helpline.
Posted by phillybob on January 15, 2001, at 19:51:04
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go , posted by phillybob on January 15, 2001, at 19:19:02
> Look in a phone book and call a helpline.
I also found this online. I'm not sure of its affiliation and there might even be one on Dr. Bob's link page: http://www.suicidehotlines.com/
Posted by shellie on January 15, 2001, at 22:08:16
In reply to husband doesn't want me to go , posted by kellyR. on January 15, 2001, at 18:32:01
> I at my end w/ this depression & ask my husband in I could go in the hospital before I kill myself he said if I want to go it's ok w/ him, but that was yesterday & now he keeps telling me I'll get though it guess hang on & you'll feel better soon,My be it would be better if I would just go away & die then maybe he would beleive me.
Kelly, besides keeping you alive, a hospital stay would give the doctors a chance to work on new medications, so that suicidal feelings would not be an issue. You don't need your husband's permission--go for you. Shellie
Posted by ChrisK on January 16, 2001, at 5:55:16
In reply to husband doesn't want me to go , posted by kellyR. on January 15, 2001, at 18:32:01
Kelly,
Go to the hospital for yourself. It is the only safe place right now and you will get much more intense help than you could if you stayed home.
While you're there ask one of the therapists to sit down with you and your husband to explain what you have been going through. They can make him understand that it's not something that you just snap out of or tough it out. Depression is a very serious disease and needs to be treated that way.
Also most Psych hospitals will give you programs to help you better deal with your depression and anxiety.
I haven't been hospitalized in the last 3 years but when I was there it was the safest place I could be. I also met my current pdoc when I was in the last time and he has helped me a great deal.
You need the help and the rest now. Please go so that we will know that you are safe.
Chris
Posted by Noa on January 16, 2001, at 8:36:03
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go » kellyR., posted by ChrisK on January 16, 2001, at 5:55:16
Kelly, I agree.
If you are at the end of your rope, then you should go to the hospital. Perhaps your pdoc, or one of the clinicians at the emergency room, can help explain to your husband why this is necessary.
What is it that your husband is averse to about your going into the hospital. Is taking care of the kids an issue? If so, there has to be someone around who can help out while you are in the hospital. Maybe someone from church? A relative? A neighbor?
Please take good care of yourself.
Posted by shar on January 16, 2001, at 11:15:47
In reply to husband doesn't want me to go , posted by kellyR. on January 15, 2001, at 18:32:01
Kelly,
Get thee to the hospital. I know it will be hard for you, and create some disruption in the family, etc., but if YOU believe it is time to go, GO.Go now. Right now. Dammit, I want you to care about you enough to GO to the hospital!! Screw anyone else. You know yourself, do what is right for you!
xoxo
Shar
> I at my end w/ this depression & ask my husband in I could go in the hospital before I kill myself he said if I want to go it's ok w/ him, but that was yesterday & now he keeps telling me I'll get though it guess hang on & you'll feel better soon,My be it would be better if I would just go away & die then maybe he would beleive me.
Posted by kellyR. on January 16, 2001, at 14:44:39
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go , posted by Noa on January 16, 2001, at 8:36:03
> Kelly, I agree.
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> If you are at the end of your rope, then you should go to the hospital. Perhaps your pdoc, or one of the clinicians at the emergency room, can help explain to your husband why this is necessary.
>
> What is it that your husband is averse to about your going into the hospital. Is taking care of the kids an issue? If so, there has to be someone around who can help out while you are in the hospital. Maybe someone from church? A relative? A neighbor?
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> Please take good care of yourself.I think he doesn't want me to go because of the money,kids being picked up at school & daycare.
I've been throw hospitals 2x already since we been married 9x all together since 1986.I geuss he just thinking that the hospital stay aren't helping me so why go,But I need a break from this life or I'm going to kill myself. But it not getting anywhere w/ him or my pdoc,I called my pdoc today & he blamed it on my period(men).So my pdoc asked if I could hold on til thursday when i see him & talk abouted then.I give up
Posted by Noa on January 16, 2001, at 15:16:59
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go » Noa, posted by kellyR. on January 16, 2001, at 14:44:39
Kelly,
Only you know if you can hold on or not. If not, go immediately to the emergency room.
Posted by kellyR. on January 16, 2001, at 15:37:57
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go , posted by Noa on January 16, 2001, at 15:16:59
> Kelly,
>
> Only you know if you can hold on or not. If not, go immediately to the emergency room.
I don't know if i can hold on,I can't go alone to the ER I have a hard time by myself w/ something like this,& my husband is the only one I'll go with.
My pastor from church called me today to see how I was doing,we've talked before about my problems & he does help, sometime better then my pdoc,he was in the hospital for schizophrenia a couple of years ago. so he very good to talk to about they thing so I asked if I could see him tomarrow.maybe he can help me.
Posted by Noa on January 16, 2001, at 16:14:22
In reply to Re: husband doesn't want me to go , posted by kellyR. on January 16, 2001, at 15:37:57
how about asking the pastor to go with you to the emergency room?
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