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Posted by org.megan on April 27, 2009, at 22:57:31
I'm 18 years old and a senior in high school. I've been in a steady relationship with a guy for over a year now. I use to have extreme jealousy problems with my previous boyfriends and in the beginning of the current one I have now. I use to express my issues until I felt like he thought I was a little out of control/insane. lol I have trust issues due to my biological dad and things the guys I hang out with in my social life talk about behind their girlfriends back. Anyway, it interrupts my day frequently and the more I try not to think about it, it happens. Also, I think about his previous sexual experiences while we have sex and it's a turnoff. I don't talk with him about these thoughts when they occur because they occur so often and it will cause tension, etc. I study psychology and try to find helpful things (I have found some). I also figured out that I'm probably not ready for a relationship with someone like himself because he doesn't like to talk about problems or think about solutions. Also, a really bad thing. I'm aware that we're better off without each other until we both mature mentally but I'm the kind of person who likes to solve problems (especially with people) and to help people so I don't want to give up on a situation like such. I also don't want to be the cause of a negative impact on someones life if it at all can be prevented. Thank you for your time. Knowledgeable possible solutions or advice will be GREATLY appreciated!!!
Posted by desolationrower on April 29, 2009, at 0:02:43
In reply to Jealousy Issue, posted by org.megan on April 27, 2009, at 22:57:31
well this doesn't really get the the core of what you're asking, someone who knows what theyre talking about will have to answer that, but i found this helpful and think you might too- keep in mind that what people say is less important for its content, than for what it says about the speaker. This is both about what you talk about, and what your friends talk about. motivations, not content.
also, its breakup time for HS relationships. i think you should study the writings of the philosopher Nada Surf.
-d/r
Posted by raisinb on April 29, 2009, at 20:34:43
In reply to Re: Jealousy Issue, posted by desolationrower on April 29, 2009, at 0:02:43
Love that band ;)
Try not to feel guilt for or take on problems of other people. In the end it's his problem how he deals with losing you and your main focus should be yourself. That isn't selfishness, just mental health. Don't worry about him--he's shown he's not ready to really take on a relationship with his inability to deal with issues.
I wish you peace.
Posted by desolationrower on April 30, 2009, at 1:33:28
In reply to Re: Jealousy Issue » desolationrower, posted by raisinb on April 29, 2009, at 20:34:43
> Love that band ;)
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> Try not to feel guilt for or take on problems of other people. In the end it's his problem how he deals with losing you and your main focus should be yourself. That isn't selfishness, just mental health. Don't worry about him--he's shown he's not ready to really take on a relationship with his inability to deal with issues.
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> I wish you peace.->this is something i am working on. i try to tell myself that the way to respect other people is to trust them to be able to deal with thier own emotions.
-d/r
Posted by manic666 on May 7, 2009, at 7:44:18
In reply to Jealousy Issue, posted by org.megan on April 27, 2009, at 22:57:31
your 18 , is your guy the same , if so he wont want to talk problems an resons , he just wants a good time , ie , beers , buddies , sex , fast cars,your thinking a little old for you age, why do you want to analize averyone get out an rock at 18 , dump the guy get with your friends an pppppppppppppparty, an remember never regret what you have done , only what you havent
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