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Posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
My wife thinks that if I masterbate that it is the same as cheating on her. I disagree, How about input?
Posted by AdaGrace on December 8, 2004, at 16:59:57
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
I have to admit here........I burst out laughing when I read your post......then calmed down and descided you are serious here.
I do not think masterbating is cheating. I think it is NORMAL!!!
I think everyone fantasizes once in a while......and I think that's NORMAL!!!!!
Women, some, I say some, think that anytime a man looks at another woman, either in a book, a magazine, on a porn website, or walking by his table at the restaurant that he is thinking about and possibly will "do" her. Perhaps he is thinking about it, perhaps he will do it, but then again........Perhaps he wont........Don't we have any faith in men anymore? Is trust totally out the window???
Ada, just thinking about "doing" it in the tub, Grace
Posted by alexandra_k on December 8, 2004, at 17:11:32
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
I don't think so!
It might be a problem if you would rather do that than your SO but if they aren't in the mood or aren't around or whatever then...Have you asked her why she thinks its cheating?
I agree with Adagrace, it is normal, and mostly healthy. Have fun :-)
Posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 17:38:01
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by alexandra_k on December 8, 2004, at 17:11:32
Thanks, I feel better. (no pun intended) or maybe so...Anyway, I don't want to come off as a munster type person, I just need validation on the normalicy of it.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 8, 2004, at 17:41:59
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating? » alexandra_k, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 17:38:01
It certaintly is normal!
You know, in this psychiatry text I'm reading it says that psychiatrists should ask 'when did you start masterbating?' rather than 'do you masterbate?'
In response to the first question, people blush and answer. In response to the second question people deny ever having started!
Posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 18:21:13
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
> My wife thinks that if I masterbate that it is the same as cheating on her. I disagree, How about input?
Might be, preytel. Depends on what you're thinking at the time.
Posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 19:04:00
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 18:21:13
So you are saying that the state of mind and the thoughts are taboo-not the act itself.
Posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 19:06:50
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating? » Toph, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 19:04:00
Exactamundo, my friend.
Posted by lostforwards on December 8, 2004, at 19:42:46
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
Posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 21:49:47
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating? My Ans = No. (nm), posted by lostforwards on December 8, 2004, at 19:42:46
I agree. My only point is, if you even have to ask the question there must be some guilt involved.
Posted by TofuEmmy on December 8, 2004, at 22:07:30
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating? My Ans = No. » lostforwards, posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 21:49:47
What? In my family, we were taught to feel guilty for chewing with our mouths open. Masturbation was a whole nudder planet of the guilt infrastruture.
It took me decades shrug off the guilt and trumpet my enthusiasm for the solo activities. Of course, as it is....when one is single, one tends to "love the one you're with".
em
Posted by Toph on December 8, 2004, at 22:48:50
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating? » Toph, posted by TofuEmmy on December 8, 2004, at 22:07:30
I hear ya, em. I started needing glasses when I was 14, and I was certain that it was because I was just trying to get a hold of myself too much.
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 9, 2004, at 0:45:10
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
> My wife thinks that if I masterbate that it is the same as cheating on her.
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Posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 9, 2004, at 8:37:29
In reply to Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by preytel on December 8, 2004, at 15:27:26
SOunds like your wife DOESN'T masturbate and therfore has no point of reference about it. It is totally natural, and in my opinion, is not cheating regardless of what you're thinking at the time. Fantasies are fantasies. I wouldn't undertake 99.5% of my fantasies if I had the opportunity. How boring life would be if all we were allowed to think about were our SOs!
Posted by MGOLDW on December 9, 2004, at 12:25:06
In reply to Re: Is masterbating =cheating?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 9, 2004, at 8:37:29
I have an idea, why don't you masturbate in front of your wife? That way, she can't think of it as cheating!
regards
Posted by alexandra_k on December 9, 2004, at 14:53:34
In reply to Re: blocked » preytel, posted by Dr. Bob on December 9, 2004, at 0:45:10
Posted by AdaGrace on December 9, 2004, at 17:04:13
In reply to It's not that munster guy is it??? (nm), posted by alexandra_k on December 9, 2004, at 14:53:34
Posted by alexandra_k on December 9, 2004, at 18:21:02
In reply to Re: Ditto (nm) » alexandra_k, posted by AdaGrace on December 9, 2004, at 17:04:13
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