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Posted by healing928 on December 4, 2014, at 3:54:48
Are there any females who don't do well with female t's? I did not have a good relationship with my mother and I am thinking this may be the case. The few I have had over the years tended to be very passive. I start a new t tomorrow he is in with my form t that I loved and drove me mad lol. trying to process what I will say why I terminated therapy with a female therapist I only say a few times.
Posted by baseball55 on December 4, 2014, at 19:59:57
In reply to Female T's, posted by healing928 on December 4, 2014, at 3:54:48
I have a female T now, but when I started therapy almost ten years ago, I didn't even consider a female. I know it wouldn't have worked. I had a horrible relationship with my mother and never felt comfortable getting at all close to women. But I got a lot better working with my male T and have been seeing a women for a few years now.
Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2014, at 18:00:06
In reply to Female T's, posted by healing928 on December 4, 2014, at 3:54:48
I haven't found one yet that I liked on a long term basis. I'm not sure if that's entirely because of my negative expectations that they will be either judgmental or too mushy/warm/empathetic. Often it's warmer people who are attracted to the helping professions and that sometimes expresses itself differently with females.
But truth be told, I've only found one male therapist I liked and I have detested the rest. But possibly on different grounds.
I think I'm just difficult. There is a very narrow range of people I can imagine having therapy with. I did have a female neurologist once who I would have probably preferred over my male therapist. And I met a female therapist here who balanced compassion, common sense, and humor in a way that I would have very much liked to have in my own therapist.
So maybe it's not *just* your experiences with your mother.
Do you find that you like most male therapists? If so, it might be mainly a response to your experiences.
Posted by baseball55 on December 10, 2014, at 19:40:52
In reply to re Female T's » healing928, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2014, at 18:00:06
Hi Dinah - Nice to see you posting again. Are you still seeing your therapist?
Posted by Elanor Roosevelt on December 20, 2014, at 15:40:07
In reply to re Female T's » healing928, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2014, at 18:00:06
I stumped myself thinking this through
sadly, although i've been in therapy on and off since i was 17, and i am now 63, i can't think of more than 2 therapists that did more than dig me out of a hole
one, a man--the other a womanboth straight forward and accessible
i now go in for brief conversations with a psychiatrist who helps me with my meds and is a fine fellow (for 15 minutes) and i think knows more about meds than most
if i do go back into therapy
1) it would not not not be with a psychiatrist (their distance thing is just to weird for me)
2) i would walk out the first time i was told that i was okay even thought i was feeling awful
3) in general it would be low tolerance for BS on the part of the therapistAs people who need help i think we are abused by the power-tripping of the medical world
for now i'll check in for my scripts
Posted by alexandra_k on January 1, 2015, at 18:04:32
In reply to Female T's, posted by healing928 on December 4, 2014, at 3:54:48
i have issues with both parents... but for quite a long time i very much preferred male clinicians to female clinicians. i was much more likely to experience female clinicians as judgmental and cold.
now... well, i've been doing much better with female clinicians' lately. i guess they aren't so very much 'girly girl' kinds of people, though. more cerebral than most females... all my female friends are scientists or... whatever... tend to be more straightforward and less giggly / scream-y than than the average female... have more of an eye towards truth rather than social connection at all costs when they speak english...
i think the fit is most important. to feel some sort of a genuine connection. i think you can usually tell fairly early on (after a few meetings) whether things are likely to work or not. i think that perhaps i've changed over time, too. that i could work better now with people who I couldn't work with so well before. perhaps even that i couldn't work so well now with clinicians who i worked well with before..
Posted by LostBoyinNC46 on December 9, 2015, at 1:15:17
In reply to Re: Female T's » healing928, posted by baseball55 on December 4, 2014, at 19:59:57
My experience is female mental health workers tend to be more sensitive to severe psychiatric cases. They tend to worry more about patients, get upset more easily and probably hospitalize more due to THEIR OWN worries.
Ive stuck to male mental health professionals as a result. As far as female mental health people and other females, I have no clue about that. But I know for me, its a no go. I come over too strong for female mental health people...mental health professionals tend to be an extremely sensitive, easily upset group of medical professionals.
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