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Posted by Annierose on February 5, 2009, at 18:18:10
In reply to Re: no T today, posted by sharon7 on February 5, 2009, at 15:13:02
I like going to therapy on my birthday. Sorry that you weren't able to see her. Try to pamper yourself and do something special for dinner.
Posted by antigua3 on February 5, 2009, at 19:23:49
In reply to Re: Happy Birthday!!!, posted by Annierose on February 5, 2009, at 18:18:10
Posted by TherapyGirl on February 5, 2009, at 19:24:52
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
Sorry, SSSS. HOpe you are able to pull your birthday out in spite of all this.
Having just gone through the birthday from hell, I understand where you are. But I'm hopeful that yours will turn out better.
((((((((SSSS))))))))
Posted by Dinah on February 5, 2009, at 19:40:15
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
Happy birthday!
Hey, I think mine is gone that week too. I wonder if it's the same convention...
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:26:02
In reply to Re: no T today, posted by sharon7 on February 5, 2009, at 15:13:02
Thanks Sharon,
I am a little surprised on my emotions today. It is probably more this birthday number than not seeing my T. I am ready to go to bed, I had some good Japanese food and wine.
Maybe it is just that hormonal cycle creeping up on me again...
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:29:45
In reply to Re: Happy Birthday!!!, posted by Annierose on February 5, 2009, at 18:18:10
Thanks Annie rose,
I tried to be happy about my birthday, especially since my kids went to so much trouble... I did get a new puppy. here are some pictures http://psychoflowers.blogspot.com/
Suzy Q makes me smile! She is only a puppy but 23lbs already and will be 130lb when fully grown.My big protective bear..
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:31:12
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by TherapyGirl on February 5, 2009, at 19:24:52
Thanks Therapygirl,
My birthday was fine, I am just feeling a little old and blue... lol
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:31:50
In reply to Re: no T today, posted by Dinah on February 5, 2009, at 19:40:15
Her conference is in Chicago...
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:35:37
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
I wrote this for a class, and it was very well received, my T really like this too, about the real me.
Nonverbal Communication ExperimentIn performing this assignment, I had to first decide what my actual personal self -image was. I have two very distinct self images that reflect me, one being a people- loving person, who loves to entertain, go to parties, attend many creative art performances of different venues, and just being gregarious and fun loving. I usually choose to wear artsy type clothes, interesting jewelry that reflects my creative side, and something usually dressy. But one side of me most have not seen is my quiet side.
When I am being my quiet and reflective self, I tend to dress for ultimate comfort, even if it isnt very flattering physically or fashion wise. Usually in the winter it consists of flannel pajamas, no bra (I hate those itchy constrictive torture devises), no makeup, and nice fluffy soft socks. You would most likely see me dressed this way in private, sitting in a chair writing poetry, listening to my favorite music, and just reflecting about my life and other issues. Well, for this experiment, I chose my quiet side, because most have not seen me like this, and I felt I would get the most interesting reactions from others.
So into a local bookstore I wander, in my pink flannel two- piece pajamas with green frogs, smelling the freshly baked cookies, and looking for any reactions of others. I was feeling physically comfortable and kind of silly dressing this way in public because it is something I have never dared to do before. I received several friendly stares, but most of those people just smiled at me and made various humorous comments, like you sure look comfortable, or did you just get out of bed? I felt accepted and felt comfortable being myself, even in public. Well, then another retired looking couple walked past me and just gave me some disparaging looks as if they thought I was insane or extremely weird. They walked past me with their frowns and wrinkled up noses, and then said something in audible about me, and then couple shook their heads in disbelief. Well, I guess for me I just felt they were being overly judgmental toward me and it made me laugh and hope that I never get that way when I am their age. Maybe I just misread their non-verbal communication, and that they really had gas instead, but when I am their age and have gas, I will smile like a baby instead!
Another location I tried was the dreaded mall, a place I normally detest and try to avoid at all costs. What was very interesting to me was that on a crowded weekend day, very few people even noticed me or how I was dressed. One sales lady did laugh and asked me if I was sleep walking, but she was responding positively because she was relaxed, smiling and joking around with me. Maybe it was because there were younger people at the mall and I didnt stand out as much in public or maybe younger people are more accepting of individuality.
Well in conclusion, I guess my original view of accepting people for who they are (even if they are giving you negative non-verbal communication) and not judging people solely based on just how they are dressed, is the attitude to have in life. I also believe if you are comfortable with who you are within, then that confidence is felt by others even if you are dressed differently, and will still allow others to feel comfortable with starting a conversation with you. So maybe this experiment has given me more courage to dress how I mostly see myself, comfortable with who I am, inside and out.
Posted by Sharon7 on February 5, 2009, at 22:47:27
In reply to Re: no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:26:02
> Thanks Sharon,
>
> I am a little surprised on my emotions today. It is probably more this birthday number than not seeing my T. I am ready to go to bed, I had some good Japanese food and wine.
> Maybe it is just that hormonal cycle creeping up on me again...You are very welcome. I'm sorry your birthday was difficult for you. You were probably (maybe?) anxious to discuss how you were feeling with your herapist and then to have your appt canceled with such short notice, and on your 'very' special day, I know that had to have been disappointing. Yummy! I'm so glad you went out and had a nice dinner. Hopefully a good meal and some wine will ensure you a wonderful night's sleep!
I don't know where you're at, but where I'm at it's 10:45pm which means it's STILL your birthday for another hour and 15 minutes, so HAPPY BIRTHDAY again. I hope this will be a good decade for you. It's really just a number. (o:
Sharon
Posted by stellabystarlight on February 5, 2009, at 23:24:47
In reply to Re: Happy Birthday!!! » Annierose, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:29:45
Happy Birthday! Sorry about your T situation, SSSS. I know it's hard, but Japanese food,
wine and a new puppy sounds like a great start to your 40th!
Suzy Q is absolutely adorable! And Van Gogh is such a beautiful and regal looking dog!
I love how you're taking care of all your precious animals...they're lucky to have you, SSSS!
You must be a good mommy to them. They look very happy in the photos!Made me smile to see all of your lovely animals. Thanks for sharing them. :)
Stellabystarlight
Posted by wittgensteinz on February 6, 2009, at 6:46:39
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
That really sucks. I can see why her disclosing these things are triggering but maybe she wanted you to know that it was for an important reason she had to cancel and to stop you from worrying it was something else.
It's not much fun when therapy becomes disrupted several times in a row, but it still would probably be worth going for the inbetween session just to try and keep connected, do you think?
Anyway, I'm afraid this might be a bit late but congratulations on your 40th - Happy Birthday! A very good choice of puppy - she's beautiful and New Foundlands are gorgeous dogs.
Witti
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 7:37:16
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by Sharon7 on February 5, 2009, at 22:47:27
LOL Sharon,
Well I HAD to stay up for the entire day you know! I will probably go to my next appointment because I hate making up excuses for not going. :-)
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 7:39:45
In reply to Happy Birthday to you SSSS!!!!! » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by stellabystarlight on February 5, 2009, at 23:24:47
haha Stella,
YOU make me smile! I think the only thing I love more than my pets would be my actual human kids. ;-)
The wine was good, my DH is good at picking that out, and the sushi was oh so good! Plus there are lots of leftovers of my red velvet cake, want some?
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 7:47:00
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by wittgensteinz on February 6, 2009, at 6:46:39
Thanks Witti,
I guess it would be better to know why she is gone because she would also not be available on her email too. I guess I am just hyper sensitive to disclosure because of my last 2 T's. On my last appointment, she had a yoga matt in the corner, and I am like oh, great, another fact I know...
I love my new puppy, it was love at first site. I have been reading up on the history, and I guess they are the oldest dog breed and are known for their good temperament.(maybe it will rub off a little) Plus I read when she is an adult, she can pull 2000 lbs, that might come in handy for my garden! lol
Posted by Recently on February 6, 2009, at 10:54:10
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
Hi SSSS,
I'm sorry your T canceled on you. But it sounds like your kids made your birthday special. The new puppy is adorable! Thank you also for sharing your experiment with us. That was so very brave of you. Kudos.
Recently
Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 6, 2009, at 12:16:12
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
HAPPY BIRTHDAY my crazy-twin!
Thinking of you....
can you imagine being 62??!!That is what I am, but I still feel and act (LOL) 18!!
Love, Sassy
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 12:18:12
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 6, 2009, at 12:16:12
Thanks Sassy!
Hey, umm, I have been waiting to hear how Tues. went, you seem to be in a good mood, so I hope it was positive....
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 12:21:27
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by Recently on February 6, 2009, at 10:54:10
Thanks Recently,
I feel better today, I guess I just need to accept I am FORTY. OMG, doesn't that sound just so old? lol
I love my kids, they are the best! I really like my non verbal communication class. I have found that I can usually tell things about people anyway due to my past and having to scan the world for safety. My T says I am very perceptive and she feels it will be very useful in my future. But she said it is also a curse and a blessing.
Posted by stellabystarlight on February 6, 2009, at 12:45:39
In reply to Re: Happy Birthday to you SSSS!!!!! » stellabystarlight, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 7:39:45
> haha Stella,
>
> YOU make me smile! I think the only thing I love more than my pets would be my actual human kids. ;-)
>
> The wine was good, my DH is good at picking that out, and the sushi was oh so good! Plus there are lots of leftovers of my red velvet cake, want some?
********************************************************************Yes, I would love some red velvet cake.
I don't think I've ever had it, but it sounds so good.I love sushi, too. I'm a hardcore sushi lover,
and often order the exotics that people shy away from.
Delicious with hot saki or cold beer...yum!You sound happier today, SSSS.
I'm glad all the birthday cheers are cheering you up!Give big hugs to all of your beautiful critters for me!
Stellabystarlight
Posted by stellabystarlight on February 6, 2009, at 12:53:43
In reply to Re: no T today » Recently, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 6, 2009, at 12:21:27
Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2009, at 13:13:28
In reply to Re: no T today » Dinah, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 21:31:50
Nope. Not Chicago. Drat. That might have been fun.
I envy you your Newfie. I've reluctantly concluded that I'll never get one, but I do love them.
Posted by Poet on February 7, 2009, at 13:53:31
In reply to no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 5, 2009, at 13:24:21
Hi SSSS,
I saw my T on my 50th birthday and she didn't acknowledge it even though she knows when my birthday is. That stung. Though not as bad as turning 50 was in the first place. Funny how my inner kids don't get any older, just the outer one.
I hope your red velvet cake was delicious and happy birthday a few days late.
Poet
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 8, 2009, at 17:14:02
In reply to Re: no T today » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by Poet on February 7, 2009, at 13:53:31
Thanks Poet,
I feeling better about it and all. With me being in classes again, it is hard to dwell on anything because I have school work to do. lol
The cake was good!We finally ate all of it last night...
Thanks for thinking of me ((((Poet))))
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 8, 2009, at 17:14:35
In reply to Re: no T today, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on February 8, 2009, at 17:14:02
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