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Posted by Sigismund on December 29, 2008, at 17:48:29
It wasn't till I moved (cleared) out of home that I ever had a room of my own.
The lack of privacy extended beyond that because of my parents' circumstances.
There were *always* people (non family members) in the house, in the garden, people you knew but more often people you didn't, people who knew you whom you didn't know.
There was actually no (enclosed) place that could have been described as one's own.
Which is not to say one could not be on one's own, because it was the country and there was, to an extent, no one there.
OTOH, it could be entertaining, like some big circus...the cook drinking all the lemon essence and taking to some enemy with a knife in the night and leaving early next morning; the men who drank until the sh*t their beds, and were carted off to hospital to dry out while the next cook cleaned everything up and pretended nothing had happened.Anyway, this has given me a life long reserve; a reluctance to initiate contact IRL, and an extreme difficulty with social occasions, ameliorated only by drug and alcohol (abuse or not, take your pick), apart from one on one interactions.
That's all.
It's no big deal for me now.
But I can see in retrospect how the circumstances of my childhood made me the way I am.
Posted by 10derHeart on December 29, 2008, at 21:06:06
In reply to The Social World, posted by Sigismund on December 29, 2008, at 17:48:29
>It's no big deal for me now.
Are you sure?
You posted about it :-)
Illuminating description...I can almost see it. Did you go find places in the woods (forest?) to hide, sit, go, walk? I think I would have. I'm so so very social, yet crave aloneness, too. Even to this day.
Nice to see you posting over this way, Ought to do that more myself.
Posted by obsidian on December 29, 2008, at 22:45:07
In reply to The Social World, posted by Sigismund on December 29, 2008, at 17:48:29
> It wasn't till I moved (cleared) out of home that I ever had a room of my own.
> The lack of privacy extended beyond that because of my parents' circumstances.
> There were *always* people (non family members) in the house, in the garden, people you knew but more often people you didn't, people who knew you whom you didn't know.
> There was actually no (enclosed) place that could have been described as one's own.
> Which is not to say one could not be on one's own, because it was the country and there was, to an extent, no one there.
> OTOH, it could be entertaining, like some big circus...the cook drinking all the lemon essence and taking to some enemy with a knife in the night and leaving early next morning; the men who drank until the sh*t their beds, and were carted off to hospital to dry out while the next cook cleaned everything up and pretended nothing had happened.
>
> Anyway, this has given me a life long reserve; a reluctance to initiate contact IRL, and an extreme difficulty with social occasions, ameliorated only by drug and alcohol (abuse or not, take your pick), apart from one on one interactions.
>
> That's all.
> It's no big deal for me now.
> But I can see in retrospect how the circumstances of my childhood made me the way I am.I don't like crowds, small gatherings suit me best, just a few that I know well.
yeah...I like my own space too, and I can't tolerate chaos and unpredicatbility very well. I had some strange folks passing through my family home when I was young, colorful characters whose lives generally seemed to be in some state of ruin.
you do just fine here though sig, why do you think?
Posted by Phillipa on December 30, 2008, at 0:24:23
In reply to Re: The Social World » Sigismund, posted by obsidian on December 29, 2008, at 22:45:07
Sigi really? Sounds interesting. Love PJ
Posted by Sigismund on January 2, 2009, at 0:32:40
In reply to Re: The Social World, posted by Phillipa on December 30, 2008, at 0:24:23
One consequence is that when people are *at large* in my environment I can't think unless they stay put.
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