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Posted by annierose on February 28, 2008, at 14:47:31
It seems that I gravitate towards posting on babble when I'm disgruntled, angry or confused (or all of the above).
So it's about time that I write when I can feel the love in the room again.
After her Thanksgiving break, there was a 12 day Christmas break and then a "winter" vacation followed by my kid's school break. "Hello, I must be going" was the theme of my therapy. I was upset by all the interruptions. During this period I forced myself to tell her what I needed from her. Whether it was to hold me in mind while she was away, or to be nice to me during the session, or together figuring out where this was coming from, she reminded me why I keep working with her year after year. She listened, responded and reached out to me.
Prior to my kid's school break, I was not happy with something she said. She was acting protective in a situation I didn't want protecting. I called her before I left because I felt so unsettled. She reassured me. And when I returned this Monday I asked her, "Did you miss me?" She smiled and enthusiastically said, "Yes I missed you and what to know how the vacation went."
She has made a few simple reflections (interpretations) that have flooded my brain with tears. All I can muster is a "there are a lot of tears behind that" or "that sentence is so sad". Today I brought up those sentences and we dug through some muck together. I like how she just sat there with me with the old stuff and she didn't tell me to put it away.
At the end of Tuesday's session she said, "You'll have to remember that borimglkereo (made-up word) isn't about you." I replied, "Is that a new psychological term?" And she laughed, then nodded like "of course!".
Posted by Dinah on February 28, 2008, at 20:09:01
In reply to Feeling the love again, posted by annierose on February 28, 2008, at 14:47:31
:-)
I'm so happy for you.
Posted by raisinb on February 29, 2008, at 10:18:07
In reply to Re: Feeling the love again » annierose, posted by Dinah on February 28, 2008, at 20:09:01
That sounded lovely :) I know what you mean--it's only the negative elements that drive me to process and analyze, and sometimes it seems those are the only times I have a record of.
Posted by Annierose on February 29, 2008, at 11:47:14
In reply to Re: Feeling the love again » annierose, posted by Dinah on February 28, 2008, at 20:09:01
She really does understand my issues. Now is the hard part ... trying to unravel those old messages and belief systems.
Posted by Annierose on February 29, 2008, at 11:50:03
In reply to Re: Feeling the love again » Dinah, posted by raisinb on February 29, 2008, at 10:18:07
Exactly. I have my special therapy moments stored gently and I try to recall those moments when I'm angry. But usually they're unavailable then.
We have weathered many storms. What I find so interesting, I often can't remember what got me so upset in the first place. I reread my posts and have that "Oh, now I remember moment."
Posted by Daisym on February 29, 2008, at 23:32:53
In reply to Feeling the love again, posted by annierose on February 28, 2008, at 14:47:31
Don't you love it when you can make your therapist laugh? :)
It is nice to read about good sessions, even though getting closer to her also means getting deeper into yourself. And that can be painful.
My therapist said something interesting to me this week. He said, "a big part of your therapy is for the part of you that needs to learn to trust and allow caring -- and to stay OK with this care-taking instead of freaking out about it. The stories, the trauma, are important. But the utter aloneness and neglect you suffered was just, if not more, damaging. So we use our relationship to work on that." I think you are in a similar place - you work on the trust and the caring -- and then delve into your sadness and old feelings and longings.
All this will be tough but I know you are both up to the task. I've always wanted to ask my therapist, "what's the best session you think we ever had?" I some how doubt it would match mine.
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