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Posted by happyflower on November 6, 2007, at 16:47:59
First of all I am sorry I haven't been responding to my emails, things have been hectic, my concert is tomorrow night and I have homework to finish. But baby Lia is still going and actually gaining some weight now that she is taking formula. I guess her digestion system is working even though they said it wouldn't. So we are waiting to hear back from the specialist on what to do next.
Tomorrow night I am dedicating on of my solo's to her and a cool thing too, my DH is coming up on stage to play the drum part. It will be a neat recording and the director is going to say something about baby Lia. So I am happy about that.But I am really feeling the anxiety of playing the solos tomorrow night. Tonight I am going to practice my imagery with positive thought and bilateral stimulation. Which I can do by squeezing my fists alternately. I remember someone on babbly who does this. It is good becauase it is less noticable so I am thinking it would well in social situations too.
My last session I felt was worthless. We didn't want to get into anything too deep because of my performance. But I was kinda bored with that. It felt like wasted time. I even mentioned it that I was wasting his time. He didn't agree, but I was bored with it. One good thing about my old T is that he would bring stuff up sometimes, but my new one expects me to do it. Plus I get the impression he forgets what we talked about. Sometimes I really wonder if I need therapy. sigh.
and I am also wondering if I really want to put myself out there and play music, is it really worth it. Just because I am able to play, it doesn't mean I have to. I don't know my life just seems to full right now, and I need to cut back. I am thinking of cutting out the trumpet or therapy. Thanks for listening to me griping, bblah blah blah. It was snowing today, maybe that is why.
Posted by Raindancer on November 6, 2007, at 20:06:30
In reply to wasting time in therapy and my Nerves and Frustrat, posted by happyflower on November 6, 2007, at 16:47:59
Hope the concert goes really well Happyflower. I'm sure you'll play beautifully and it will be wonderful to dedicate one to amazing Baby Lia. It feels like you're feeling pretty tense just now, but it will be just fine. Just take things little by little. Love and thoughts. Rain ((((Happyflower))))
Posted by rskontos on November 7, 2007, at 13:10:20
In reply to wasting time in therapy and my Nerves and Frustrat, posted by happyflower on November 6, 2007, at 16:47:59
HF, I really hope you don't cut out your music or therapy. I don't think now is the time to make a drastic decision. You have had so much tragedy in your life you need things to settle and your need to grieve your brother and see Baby Lia through this tenious first weeks of life praying she gets through this being the miracle baby she seems to be. You well be great tonight. I know you will you have it dedicated to a miracle baby and your have DH on stage to give support and to make it extra special. So great vibes going your way. I will be there in spirit. I can just hear it in my mind. So don't make any decision just yet. Just go with the flow of the beautiful music you make. What you need to do will be clearer later on....not now just let it slide for now. Take care of yourself ((((((((((Happyflower))))))))))))))
rk
Posted by seldomseen on November 7, 2007, at 13:25:34
In reply to wasting time in therapy and my Nerves and Frustrat, posted by happyflower on November 6, 2007, at 16:47:59
I'm not sure if there is any such thing as wasted time in therapy. ALthough, I have had some sessions that felt wasted, they turned out to be good ones, because the work was done outside of the office.
I would definately recommend that you stay in therapy. Not every session os going to be a home run, and things often get worse before they get better. It just appears to me that you are beginning to understand and process what happened to you as a child and what is going on with you right now.
I would stick with it - it's much better on the other side.
In fact, my mom came down when I was sick and just left yesterday. Of course, we have both been in therapy for years, but it was soooooo nice to be with her. Will this last? No. She's bipolar. But it was nice, just for this brief time and it never would have happened were it not for therapy.
As far as playing music, you seem to really enjoy that and stagefright is a fear that can be conquered. I would stick it out.
Seldom.
Posted by Phillipa on November 7, 2007, at 23:30:11
In reply to wasting time in therapy and my Nerves and Frustrat, posted by happyflower on November 6, 2007, at 16:47:59
Happyflower you're posting name is perfect and Baby Lia is actually taking formula? A miracle child. So extremely happy for you and your family. I'm speechless and happy for you all. Phillipa
Posted by RealMe on November 7, 2007, at 23:53:02
In reply to Re: wasting time in therapy and my Nerves and Frustrat, posted by seldomseen on November 7, 2007, at 13:25:34
I agree with seldomseen. So does my T. There is nothing talked about in therapy that is a waste of time. I said the same thing on Tuesday that I felt last week the sessions were wasted on talking about my husband locking himself away in the guest bedroom whenever I was home as he was upset with me--it lasted for a whole week. I was ready to download the no contest divorce papers and tell him to sign on the dotted line, that I had had it. He finally came out after I asked him was he going to stay in there for forever. I did not apologize for getting upset with him earlier. T said don't apologize. You did nothing wrong, and it will only lead to cycliing back into the same type of thing again where I accept responsibility for being "the bad guy." First time he was ever directive with me. So, when I consider it now with some distance, I guess it was not a waste of time. Nothing is.
RealMe
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