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Posted by Quintal on October 7, 2007, at 19:18:56
And be less controlling. Without drugs BTW. I think that's what I need to do. And spend more time with my friends and family. How to change old habits?
Q
Posted by rskontos on October 7, 2007, at 19:48:46
In reply to How do you learn to relax?, posted by Quintal on October 7, 2007, at 19:18:56
Q, I am no expert, in fact a novice, I read, try to work on my writing, take walks with my dogs, go visit my horses, clean my house or sit and enjoy it as it is new, sit by the lake, just sit and enjoy a pretty day or sunset, try to find something beautiful in the world since I am usually hurting. Then I can put my pain aside long enough to spend some time with my family. I am lucky in that mine are trying to understand, I have a long road ahead of me and they don't realize it yet but.....
My few friends, that is all I can afford to have, I call them when I can talk and we talk. Not all of them know my painful situation but I spend time with them when I can. For right now I am not on anything except topa for migraines not moods, it has never been for mood as it doesn't work for me that way. I have been trying to work through this without drugs but presenting things have gotten to a thresold that I might not can continue. My T and doc have been supportive either way.......I live for music too. Sometimes that is the best way I can relax especially if I am really gone off the deep end.........
Posted by cactus on October 7, 2007, at 21:44:51
In reply to How do you learn to relax?, posted by Quintal on October 7, 2007, at 19:18:56
Q, if I knew the answer to that one I wouldn't be here. And if one more person tries to push a relaxation CD on me, or say "Try yoga", they aren't going to know what him them
Posted by Phillipa on October 7, 2007, at 22:19:04
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax? » Quintal, posted by cactus on October 7, 2007, at 21:44:51
Cactus all I know is that unless you know already how to relax yoga doesn't work for me as I can't sit still long enough. Now who has another suggestion no journeling either. Just want to be able to be still in my head and enjoy like I used to. Thanks Phillipa. Q any suggestions?
Posted by sunnydays on October 8, 2007, at 8:13:08
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax? » cactus, posted by Phillipa on October 7, 2007, at 22:19:04
Well, yoga does work for me sometimes, if I'm in the right frame of mind. But for me, really, simply focusing on my breathing is the best cure for anxiety. My T sometimes adds in thinking about a shape and really imagining it along with it so my mind doesn't go off track and make me anxious again. But focus on breathing into the belly and consciously relaxing your body. I find it sometimes helps relax my mind as well.
sunnydays
Posted by Quintal on October 8, 2007, at 19:23:21
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax?, posted by rskontos on October 7, 2007, at 19:48:46
That sounds lovely rskontos. I enjoy walking with my dogs in the country too, and it's only in this last year that I've noticed how beautiful it all is. It feels good to be healthy from all that exercise too! I think the one of the most relaxing things though is a hug. I read a quote somewhere that said "If you don't get a hug at least once a week your spine will shrivel up". Hugs boost your self-esteem, and I didn't get enough of them when I was growing up.
I've been wanting to make contact with some of my extended family for a while, but I don't know how to go about it. Tell the truth I suppose, and the truth is that I didn't really trust them, and I think my mother played a part in that. But I know they do really love me, and it hurts to know how much I've hurt them by slamming the door like that, without any explanation. I was just trying to protect myself, but how can you start off a conversation with something like that? Would they be relieved to hear from me? In my heart of hearts I think they would, but I fear that they might reject me.
See Phillipa, so much communication is false. People so often don't say what they really mean, and that throws me off centre for a while. Probably with having so little affection I've wondered all my life what is so terribly wrong with me. The truth is that I have a very different way of looking at the world to most people, and this causes a lot of unexplained conflict. I see why left-handedness has been referred to as 'natural evil' - like a thunderstorm or an Earthquake, a potentially destructive force of nature, rather than moral evil - they are not the same thing. My grandmother once said that I was evil. She said a lot of hurtful things, but I know I'm not really evil. My extended family just didn't understand me, and I didn't really understand them either. I've probed every corner of my mind, and the conclusion I've come to is that the biggest thing I have to fear is my imagination itself. I am pretty level headed, just have to learn to think a little more before acting out.
Well, I feel better for that. Actually, I saw this in a magazine earlier today and it made me feel a bit better too:
http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p46/Serepham/File0002.jpg(((Babblers)))
Q
Posted by Phillipa on October 8, 2007, at 19:49:12
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax?, posted by Quintal on October 8, 2007, at 19:23:21
Q well here's a babble hug((((((((Quintal)))))))) Phillipa see now no shrinking spine at least this week.
Posted by Quintal on October 9, 2007, at 5:47:37
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax? » Quintal, posted by Phillipa on October 8, 2007, at 19:49:12
Thanks Phillipa. I guess I have to learn to trust. (((Phillipa))).
Q
Posted by Phillipa on October 9, 2007, at 20:51:01
In reply to Re: How do you learn to relax? » Phillipa, posted by Quintal on October 9, 2007, at 5:47:37
Q thank-you that felt all warm and snugglly. Phillipa
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